tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post6837132795443452122..comments2024-03-20T18:53:12.809-07:00Comments on A Domestic Discipline Society (ADDS): Domestic Discipline Relationship Consistency is ONE of the 3C's of DDMrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-49912910248858814082016-01-06T12:04:01.865-07:002016-01-06T12:04:01.865-07:00Mr. BB,
A great post as usual. I have written to ...Mr. BB,<br /><br />A great post as usual. I have written to you before, but did not know how to post here other than anonymous. My name is Kim C. Consistency is huge. For me, DD only works if my husband is consistent and vigilant in monitoring my behavior. Yes, I need him to be strict with me. Otherwise, I am thinking that he either did not notice my behavior or does not care, that his rules are not important to him. Maybe he does not value my submission enough to enforce it and is not happy being our HOH. Although, I initially asked for the DD, it's important to me now that my husband insists on it. Does that make sense?<br /><br />One area where he is very consistent is that my husband spanks me hard. When I first hear of a pending punishment, I will be dreading the pain, which I know is inevitable. But at the same time, I will be proud of him. I will be sorry about the behavior, but glad that hubby has pointed it out to me and is going to punish me so that hopefully, I will not repeat offend. And this all comes from consistency<br /><br />Take Care,<br /><br />Kim<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-62837131990950886502014-10-24T09:08:15.062-07:002014-10-24T09:08:15.062-07:00This is absolutely a wonderful read. I am sending ...This is absolutely a wonderful read. I am sending a link to a few people I know who will very much appreciate this. <br /><br />Thank you, and as always I so enjoy the writings here!! <br /><br />xx<br />Respectfully,<br />brat/mortuary chickAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05911164749484261165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-60125155777002076322014-03-14T11:34:34.652-07:002014-03-14T11:34:34.652-07:00In my humble opinion, I think that consistency is ...In my humble opinion, I think that consistency is one of the most important thing for the husband to do. It keeps the respect and the wife can know that if she does A, she will get X. There are no things like the husband making up excuses. He needs to be firm and consistent even if the wife thinks she has a good reason for her wrong doing.Blondiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10990349853331249894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-72991396535572841472014-01-10T15:01:43.203-07:002014-01-10T15:01:43.203-07:00Mr BB, I wrote the post if you would care to read ...Mr BB, I wrote the post if you would care to read it. I just can't seem to help myself being such a PICKLE! Now I am hoping Dan will completely forget about trying to be consistent!<br /><br />Many hugs<br />AmiAmi Starsonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01745610022591654541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-619983014895293762014-01-10T11:49:22.100-07:002014-01-10T11:49:22.100-07:00I would never delete a comment! lol Especially one...I would never delete a comment! lol Especially one of yours my friend :)<br />I just wasn't here between the 7th and 8th.<br />Hmmm.. maybe that compliment above about "patience" was too quick! LOL<br />Just kidding :)MrBBSpankerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-85145017241884719402014-01-10T11:43:49.254-07:002014-01-10T11:43:49.254-07:00My dear friend Ami.... oh my gosh you have come so...My dear friend Ami.... oh my gosh you have come so far!!!<br />YOU talking about the need to be patient... I love it!<br />Seriously, very well presented ideas on the subject and I agree, some may need a more flexible approach (my personal teaching choice) and others may need a more strict approach.<br />How a couple gets there through Consistent Communication and Consent is the key to a strong DD Foundation :)MrBBSpankerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-84264562049174418182014-01-10T10:05:40.460-07:002014-01-10T10:05:40.460-07:00Thanks Roz! Rick is right! lol Yeah yeah.... we Ho...Thanks Roz! Rick is right! lol Yeah yeah.... we HoHs stick together, but it's true :)<br />It's just as important for the TiH to be Consistent too!MrBBSpankerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-3549236647787607942014-01-08T11:36:56.878-07:002014-01-08T11:36:56.878-07:00Hi Mr BB!
I wrote quite a long comment yesterday,...Hi Mr BB!<br /><br />I wrote quite a long comment yesterday, and now I see it has disappeared! Oh well. <br /><br />This is a very useful post, and as usual I have a lot to say. I think I may write a post myself as I see three ways of looking at consistency depending upon who initiated DD in the first place. I've observed, over the past year, how that initial approach can affect consistency in many ways. Trust me for adding a few sparks! <br /><br />Hope you are well and that you had a good Christmas. Happy New Year to you!<br /><br />Many hugs<br />AmiAmi Starsonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01745610022591654541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-61871666027924281242014-01-07T04:35:52.067-07:002014-01-07T04:35:52.067-07:00I, too, think this is excellent, as I have seen th...I, too, think this is excellent, as I have seen the topic resurface again and again, as well as seeing a literal library of advice on the subject. <br /><br />I think one of the main problems is that you have three different "starting out" scenarios to consider. The first is a man with a dominant personality who introduces Dd to his spouse; the second is when for various reasons such as a breakdown in their relationship and constant arguments etc a couple decide that they would like to try Dd in order to save their marriage/relationship; and finally a woman happens upon the dynamic, reads about it, and finally convinces herself that it would be a good thing, and then she introduces it to her poor unsuspecting husband/partner.<br /><br />Each of these three scenarios will have totally different outcomes for the couples involved, and it seems to me that it is the last one of the three with the most problems re consistency. <br /><br />Whilst I know it to be very important, I do have a worry that it could become obsessive, and therefore the other areas of the dynamic overlooked. Consistency can be enforced, but should never leave a couple with a feeling of monotony. I think you can still be consistent whilst introducing small changes - so perhaps "flexible consistency" is what is needed. Whilst Dan is still learning to "flex his muscles" in our version of Dd, and whilst, of course, I need to be able to rely on his judgement, I also need to appreciate that life has a way of throwing a spanner in the works, and instead of moaning, I need to learn patience and be able to make small adjustments instead of accusing him of inconsistency all the time. After all, he's done nothing but have patience, and make very large adjustments for me during this last year.<br /><br />Happy New Year to you Mr BB! Hope all is well!<br /><br />Many hugs<br />AmiAmi Starsonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01745610022591654541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-58303010048421487432013-12-27T03:08:53.233-07:002013-12-27T03:08:53.233-07:00This is a great post Mr BB and great advice. I thi...This is a great post Mr BB and great advice. I think we all fall into the trap of having our own ideas of how our partner 'should' act in their role and what they should and shouldn't do etc. <br /><br />Consistency and communication are so important. I think too that we hear much about consistency on the part of the HoH. However, it is just as important for the TiH to remain consistent. Something Rick has pointed out to me on occasion!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.com