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MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-65084509571285549462015-08-29T00:06:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:05:26.859-07:00Cyclical Spanking: A Guest Post by Ronnie, of the Heart and Soul Blog<h3 class="post-title entry-title" style="margin: 0.25em 0px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 4px;">
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<span style="background-color: white;"><b><span style="color: #990000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Cyclical isn't a word I would have associated with spanking but my husband did, whether he believed it or not is another matter, sometimes he says things just to amuse me, or himself. </span><br /><span style="color: #990000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><br /></span><span style="color: #990000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">He was answering a question I'd asked him about why spankings seemed to come in fits and starts, I told him I'd read it on a blog which was actually a lie, it was my own observation and question really, I just didn't want him to know that.</span><br /><span style="color: #990000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><br /></span></b></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><b><span style="color: #990000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">He wasn't particularly interested in the question and fobbed me off saying it was just the pattern of life, whatever that was supposed to mean. I said oh right, but how come they bunch up together at times, or seem to, and then go into drought mode at others, life doesn't swing up and down all that much. Then he came out with the cyclical thing, he said it was like anything else, fashion, economics, business etc, they all had cycles, he said maybe spanking was the same, maybe it was related to times of the year or the weather, yes he said, he thought that was probably the case. That would provide the background environment in which spankings would be more likely, all it would need then was a trigger and probably not much of one. He seemed satisfied with that, I wasn't but I didn't ask him any more.</span><br /><span style="color: #990000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><br /></span></b></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><b><span style="color: #990000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">What I really wanted to extract from his wisdom, but in a detached sort of way which didn't seem too obvious, was how things could be evened out a bit more, not by diluting the spurts I might add, but by filling the droughts. I shall email him later and ask him when the next cyclical upturn is due, I'll add a wink and a smiley, he might take it as good natured cheek and spank me.</span><br /><span style="color: #990000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; line-height: 1.6em;"><br /></span></b></span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhb0t9qavp8MiiyvHiysGcNqg52Z3QXaR7uKdk2agbX-zZw6rOs8xN0UaTbEcDLvyF47zvgwQ4GXKYYiRvkhhFlMxpzGXJas3C-KzaKiIZt37Ax-4Sqw_5DbFjr-vPSa_HAcbhC8zx3fCCr/s1600/glossary+book+139x140+37kb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhb0t9qavp8MiiyvHiysGcNqg52Z3QXaR7uKdk2agbX-zZw6rOs8xN0UaTbEcDLvyF47zvgwQ4GXKYYiRvkhhFlMxpzGXJas3C-KzaKiIZt37Ax-4Sqw_5DbFjr-vPSa_HAcbhC8zx3fCCr/s1600/glossary+book+139x140+37kb.jpg" /></a><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 15px;"><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">The Domestic Discipline Glossary includes Terminologies, Descriptions & Acronyms specific to the DD lifestyle community. This DD resource is one of the most popular on ADDS. This post is also open to all terminologies and the entire Domestic Discipline community as an interactive and ongoing project...<b> </b></span></span><span style="font-size: 15px;"><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">This Update includes the addition of The DD Foundation, The Free DD Guide and 3D S&H</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i style="color: #20124d; font-size: large;">A Domestic Discipline Society® is featured on several alternative lifestyle sites, and collectively has the largest membership and is the most active Domestic Discipline discussion community worldwide.</i><i style="color: #20124d; font-size: large;"> </i><i><span style="color: #20124d; font-size: medium;">A Domestic Discipline Society® is where all the varying styles of the DD lifestyle are brought together in one place. </span><span style="color: #3d85c6; font-size: x-small;">...</span></i></span><i style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search?updated-min=2009-01-01T00:00:00-07:00&updated-max=2010-01-01T00:00:00-07:00&max-results=1"><span style="color: #3d85c6; font-size: x-small;">continue for more info/full description</span></a></i></h3>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i><span style="color: #cc0000; font-size: large;">Domestic Discipline</span><span style="font-size: large;"> - </span></i></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">Domestic Discipline is the practice of a subtle Dominant and submissive type of lifestyle, with the emphasis on the relationship first, then and only then is spanking as a disciplinary action or punishment discussed. The Dominant partner is known as the Head of Household (HOH). The submissive partner is Taken in Hand (TIH). When implemented ideally, DD is the caring, consensual, consistently fair use of structure, accountability and discipline as a positive way to enhance communication, deepen intimacy and reinforce relationship commitment. The discipline normally includes one of many styles of disciplinary actions or measures, but first centers around rules of behavior asked for by one partner and agreed to by the other</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: #20124d;">. LINK >>> </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/defining-domestic-discipline-lifestyle.html"><span style="color: blue;"><i>Continue to Full Definition...</i></span></a></span></h4>
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<span style="background-color: white; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: large;"><b><i><br /></i></b></span></span><span style="background-color: white; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: large;"><b><i>Domestic Discipline Diary (DDiary)</i></b></span></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> - </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: #073763;">It is a journal style tool used to honestly keep track of ideas. Also to k</span></span><span style="color: #073763;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">eep track of misdeeds/transgressions that have occurred. Include first offense. second etc... Date of transgression, and what Disciplinary Action was applied with the date and time and more info. </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">It can be seen at any time by the HoH. It should be kept in a private place where only the two of you can access it.</span></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-size: xx-small;"> </span><i><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/defining-tih-list-introducing-ddiary.html"><span style="font-size: xx-small;">... </span><span style="font-size: x-small;">continue for more info</span></a></i></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #cc0000; font-size: large; line-height: 20px;"><i><b><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Reminder Spanking</span></b></i> </span><span style="background-color: white; color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 20px;">- </span><span style="color: #20124d;"><i><strong>Reminder Spanking</strong> is a preemptive, warning style of spanking... administered beforehand. <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/09/domestic-discipline-reminder-spanking.html#more">...<span style="font-size: x-small;"> continue for more information</span></a></i></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;"><b><span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">ADDS was founded by MrBBSpanker on June 26th, 2005 as a nonjudgmental place for everyone interested in the respectful DD relationship dynamic.</span></b></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;"><b><span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Since then ADDS has been responsible for pioneering terminology, definitions, descriptions, processes and overall DD resources of many types. Including The Free DD Guide for beginners and people re-setting their DD lifestyle ethos. </span></b></span><br />
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This entire <b>A Domestic Discipline Society</b> (ADDS) site is dedicated to providing definitive Domestic Discipline lifestyle information. The information found on this ADDS site is based on many years of experience and on the knowledge derived from countless singles and couples learning about Domestic Discipline as a respectful and consensual lifestyle choice over the past 20 years. Information is also developed from the thousands of ADDS members participating and sharing their knowledge on ADDS discussion groups over many years.<br />
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This ADDS site promises to continue providing definitive time proven Domestic Discipline information and descriptions of DD terminologies, tools, concepts and practices. All information submitted here is written in an open, non-judgmental format and developed for ALL variations of DD as a respectful and consensual lifestyle choice. The focus of this ADDS site is for new and experienced dominant Head of Household (HoH) partners and submissive Taken in Hand (TiH) partners in a DD lifestyle.<br />
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The lifestyle of DD lends itself to open interpretation and is individualized by each person learning, or each couple starting or continuing to learn, about this ever unfolding and growing lifestyle choice. That's one of the beauties of the DD lifestyle. People change and evolve through time and with continued knowledge and communication their DD lifestyle develops along with them.<br />
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Because of the open nature of Domestic Discipline as a consensual lifestyle choice, it can be difficult to find definitive and decisive information that can be used as a foundation to grow, and continue growing upon.<br />
Through the years, DD off-shoots have gone by many different names and some people have even tried to usurp and use some of the more well known "titles", identifiers and acronyms for personal and monetary gain. Sadly, this can cause some difficulties and confusion, especially for newer people learning about DD.<br />
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This A Domestic Discipline Society (ADDS) site will continue to provide definitive Domestic Discipline Information. The ADDS Glossary is dedicated to time proven DD descriptions and time tested ADDS Tools.<br />
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I look forward to the next 10 years and into the future beyond that...<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #404040; font-family: Roboto, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;">Thank you to everyone through the years and all of you who have been very supportive.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Roboto, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;"><b><span style="color: #660000;">Read each Series from the bottom article ^UP</span></b></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Roboto, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;"><b><span style="color: #660000;"><span style="font-size: 13px;">SERIES > </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Where%20to%20Start%20or%20Revitalize%20your%20DD%20Lifestyle%20Relationship%20Dynamic">The ADDS Free DD Guide</a></span></b></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Roboto, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;"><b><span style="font-size: 13px;">SERIES > </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/How%20to%20Start%20DD%20Research">Beginning DD Research Series</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Roboto, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;"><b><span style="font-size: 13px;">The Opening Page, developed in 2005 & 2006 > </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2009/08/domestic-discipline-society-overview.html">Opening Page</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Roboto, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;"><b><span style="font-size: 13px;">The DD Definition > </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/defining-domestic-discipline-lifestyle.html">Defining Domestic Discipline / The DD Lifestyle Definition </a></b></span><br />
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<b style="color: #333333; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif;">S</span><span style="line-height: 1.4;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif;">haring DD Blogs are listed atop the ALL Domestic Discipline Blogs blogroll, are also listed </span><i><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">on</span></i><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif;"> the </span></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; line-height: 1.4;">ALL</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; line-height: 1.4;"> Domestic Discipline Blogs blogroll, they are both new & established blogs, and are a part of a community that share their </span><i style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; line-height: 1.4;">distinctly</i><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; line-height: 1.4;"> </span><i style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; line-height: 1.4;">DD lifestyle </i><i style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; line-height: 1.4;">dynamic</i><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; line-height: 1.4;"> with all of us. The Sharing DD Blog award is simply a friendly show of appreciation to those who freely share their individual version of </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; line-height: 1.4;">their distinctly DD lifestyle & share links with ADDS and other DD Blogs. Sharing links with DD blogs and DD </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; line-height: 21px;">Friendly</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; line-height: 1.4;"> blogs makes researching easier for the reader to continue reading and learning from the whole community. </span></b></b></div>
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<span style="line-height: 1.4;">There are also many more sharing DD Friendly Blogs, and they're listed at the top of the DD Friendly Blog list. We are all ONE large caring community and always have been</span><span style="line-height: 1.4;">. If you would like to become part of our rapidly growing and supportive community of Sharing DD and DD Friendly bloggers, please contact me :)</span></div>
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<a href="http://uniquelydifferentlife.wordpress.com/" style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;"><b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">A Uniquely Different Life</span></b></a><span style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;"> - </span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: inherit; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;">Our journey into DD to make our marriage wonderful</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;"><a href="http://amistarsong.blogspot.com/"><b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Ami's Star Song</span></b></a><span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif;"> - </span></span>This is the story of our domestic discipline journey. Stay awhile & share.</div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://ddwildchild.blogspot.com/">A former wild child</a> - </span><span style="font-family: inherit;"> turned submissive wife, mother, hopelessly in love.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://mysharedthoughts2.blogspot.com/">awesome feeling of love</a> </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">- </span><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 16.7999992370605px; line-height: 23.519998550415px;">We </span></span><span style="font-size: 16.7999992370605px; line-height: 23.519998550415px;">practice</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 16.7999992370605px; line-height: 23.519998550415px;"> DD and have learned that it helps us a lot.</span></span></span><br />
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<a href="http://ttwdblondiesblog.blogspot.com/"><b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Blondie's Blog</span></b></a> - married 22yrs. Bedroom & rest of house, I am submissive to my husband.</div>
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<a href="http://butterflynbumblebee.blogspot.com/"><b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Butterflys wants and Bumblebees needs</span></b></a> - <span style="font-family: inherit;">The greatest love we have ever known</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><a href="http://cowgirlupandride.blogspot.com/">Cowgirl Up...</a> </span></b>- Introduced having a DD Marriage. We're never going back....</div>
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<b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><a href="http://cddtakeninhandstories.blogspot.com/">cddtakeninhandstories</a> - </span></b>fictional stories by 3 women in online friendship,who love writing<br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><a href="http://kerrilynscott.blogspot.com/">Dancing with Drama and Discipline</a> - </b></span>DD enabled us keep expectations in perspective<br />
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<a href="http://ddlearninginlove.blogspot.com/" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-weight: bold;">DDLearninginlove</a><span style="font-family: inherit;"> - <span style="font-family: inherit;">Trying to live a 1950's married life. Firm believers in DD.</span></span><br />
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<a href="http://dandlblog.blogspot.com/"><b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Discipline & Love Blog</span></b></a> - T<span style="line-height: 18.3999996185303px;">he blog page for the</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 18.3999996185303px;"> </span><span style="line-height: 18.3999996185303px;">'DISCIPLINE & LOVE' </span></span><span style="line-height: 18.3999996185303px;">discussion forums</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><a href="https://domesticsubmission.wordpress.com/" style="font-weight: bold;">Domestic submission</a><b> - </b>A girl's quest for satisfaction!</span><br />
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<a href="http://ddfirewife.blogspot.com/"><b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Elle's World</span></b></a> - All about our life in DD. I'm married to my best friend. It works for us.</div>
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<a href="http://www.lovingdomesticdiscipline.net/"><b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Firm & Loving Domestic Discipline</span></b></a> - A real life couple in loving domestic discipline<br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://sittin-on-it.blogspot.com/">Fonzi & Erika</a> </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">- Blog about new journey together. Learning to communicate & focus on us</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><a href="http://guidemegently.blogspot.com/" style="font-weight: bold;">Guide Me Gently</a><b> </b>- </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">Not easy when used to getting your way and someone says, No More </span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">* <a href="http://ahandfulofhoney.blogspot.com/">Handful of Honey</a></span></b> - W<span style="font-family: inherit;">anted more, decided to start journey of DD together. <span style="background-color: white; color: #404040; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;">Our marriage has taken on a whole new life, we feel connected, truly in love, cherished, Passionate!</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #404040; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;"> </span> <span style="background-color: white; color: #404040; line-height: 18.2000007629395px;"> </span></span><br />
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<a href="http://hisbratundercontrol.blogspot.com/"><b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Her Desire, His Rules</span></b></a> - Ordinary southern gal in DD relationship with my loving husband!<br />
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<b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://janeyhimmeus.blogspot.com/">Him, Me and Us</a> - </b><span style="font-family: inherit;">C</span>arving out a path including the use of DD to improve our marriage.<br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><a href="http://redbottomsandttwd.blogspot.com/">His Cheeky Sub</a> - </b>M</span>arried to best friend. Figuring out ttwd, d/s, dd, being submissive</div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="line-height: 23px;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><a href="http://hisdevotedone.blogspot.com/" style="font-weight: bold;">His Devoted One</a><b> </b>- </span></span></span>Welcome to my journey . . . <span style="line-height: 23px;">Just another blog about a submissive girl. </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit; line-height: 23px;"><br /></span></span>* <a href="http://jillandjackdd.blogspot.com/" style="color: blue; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-weight: bold;">Jack and Jill</a><b style="color: blue; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> </b><span style="font-family: inherit;">-</span><b style="color: blue; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> </b>married 22 years. Loving couple, hit a place where we went up & down not forward. Jack steered the boat I made the waves. We found DD and sailing much smoother<br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b>* <a href="http://loveandsubmissionjourney.blogspot.com/">Journey of Love and Submission</a> </b>- </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">R</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 14.8500003814697px; line-height: 20.7900009155273px;">oad I am travelling of submission to my husband. Pull up a chair, I'll put a jug on while you read about 'The Silence' and I in our DD lifestyle.</span><br />
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<b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://mylovesbeautifullady.blogspot.com/">My Love's beautiful lady</a> </b><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">-</span><b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> </b>We have a great relationship, incorporated DD. This is our tale<br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://onegudwife.blogspot.com/">One Gud Wife</a> </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">- This is our CDD journey!</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">* <a href="http://roz-inhishands.blogspot.com/">Roz in his hands</a></span> </b>- I am a professional woman who is in a loving committed relationship with my man. We have recently embarked on a journey of domestic discipline and these are our stories of me being in his hands...</div>
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<b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><a href="https://zekesbestgirl.wordpress.com/">Shades of Scarlet</a> - </span></b><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I asked my husband to join me in this dynamic in May of 2014</span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;">* <a href="http://shehimus.blogspot.com/">She and Him</a> </span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 24px;">- A wife sharing her experiences, ramblings and thoughts. I have a need to be held </span></span><span style="line-height: 24px;">accountable</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 24px;"> for my actions and thankfully have a husband hold me accountable.</span></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 24px;"><br /></span></span></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://theddsideofthings.wordpress.com/">The DD Side of Things</a> - </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">I</span>ns & outs of journey with my husband into our DD Lifestyle!<br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://ontheddpath.blogspot.com/">The Road Less Traveled</a> </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">- After 7 years of floundering... This is our DD journey.</span><br />
<b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br /></b><b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">* <a href="http://ashrewtamed.blogspot.com/">The Taming of the Shrew</a> -</b><span style="font-family: inherit;">"Where there is submission there is freedom Where there is dominance there is responsibility. In both there is love."</span><b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> </b><span style="font-family: inherit;">D</span>ominance/submission, DD marriage<br />
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<a href="http://thiswholething.blogspot.com/" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-weight: bold;">This Whole Thing</a><b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"> -</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></b><span style="font-family: inherit;">I introduced DD to my loving husband over 2 years ago<b> </b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">* <a href="http://thoughtsontttwd.blogspot.com/" style="font-weight: bold;">Thoughts on TTWD</a><b> </b>- </span>Just a guy trying to figure TTWD/DD all out while having fun. Enjoyed a D/s relationship and now have built a strong DD marriage. Never been happier.<br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-weight: bold;">* <a href="http://underhisloveandprotection.blogspot.com/">Under His Love and Protection</a> </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">- </span><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 23.519998550415px;">It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages. -Friedrich Nietzsche ... Started DD </span></span><span style="line-height: 23.519998550415px;">journey</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 23.519998550415px;"> & are closer then ever</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="display: block;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 32px;">Lisa decided to go up to bed early. She usually did these days to avoid John when he turned in. As he sat in front of the TV, watching sports, she slipped up stairs without saying goodnight and got into bed. After a few minutes, tossing and turning, it was clear she was not going to sleep anytime soon. So she switched on her laptop, her fingers tapping the sides waiting for the thing to boot up. Finally, she thought, entering her favourite website for erotic stories into the search engine. Rather than go straight to the home page of the site as usual, she was offered a list of websites. Letting out a huge sigh in frustration she went to retype the site name, seeing that she had misspelt it first time around, when something caught her eye.</span></span></div>
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<span style="display: block;"><i><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 32px;">Domestic Discipline refers to an agreement of rules and penalties between two partners as a corrective measure for specific </span><span style="line-height: 32px;">misbehavior</span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 32px;">. It serves to encourage and preserve a harmonious and stable home environment by providing the means to express displeasure and to address contentious </span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 32px;">issues related to a spouse's </span><span style="line-height: 32px;">behavior</span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 32px;"> in a secure and controlled manner</span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 32px;">.</span></span></i></span></div>
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<span style="display: block;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 32px;">Lisa continued to read. Lots of books were available but she wanted the information now, not to wait so she continued to search and came across a website filled with links to blogs and articles about all things Domestic Discipline. She noticed the time and reluctantly switched off the laptop and put it away. As she snuggled under the duvet, words from one article title she’d read was fresh in her mind,</span></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20.7900009155273px;">Care during discussion is important for many reasons while working toward Consent. There are people who have new and old secrets even from their long time spouse or partner. While one person may want a DD ethos in their relationship, they may be unaware that their partner has dealt with personal issues that may surface while talking about the possibility of including anything to do with spanking or discipline in general.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20.7900009155273px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20.7900009155273px;">Pushing forward and implementing something without consent is a form of abuse. It may be emotional abuse or if it has to do with anything in the area of spanking it can be considered physical abuse. If you cross this line and try to use "DD" as an excuse to manipulate someone or gain your own agenda, then you have left the Domestic Discipline description of what is commonly accepted as a DD relationship.</span></span></b><br />
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<i><span style="color: #073763;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20.7900009155273px;"><b>Consent</b></span></span><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20.7900009155273px;"> is active, based on the agreed Power Exchange in the relationship, an ongoing choice that effects both partners and a growing and living process.</span></b></span></span></span></i><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20.7900009155273px;">* Consent is active because it can be suspended at anytime for any reason and both parties need to understand that and agree before pursuing a DD style relationship choice. It is only activated or re-activated by 100% Consent, and can be deactivated by 1% non-consent. </span></b></span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20.7900009155273px;">* Consent is part of the Power Exchange dynamic. DD is different then a Master/slave relationship choice and while there is a more Dominant partner and a more submissive style partner, it is usually more defined then a general D/s relationship. </span></b></span></span><b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20.7900009155273px;">There is consistent negotiation and an agreed upon distribution of leadership and support in a DD Lifestyle Foundation. The HoH does have final say, but only after discussion and negotiation to reach agreement has been fully addressed.</span></span></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></b><b style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><i>Where to Start: Beginning your DD Lifestyle Together</i> ><u> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Where%20to%20Start%20or%20Revitalize%20your%20DD%20Lifestyle%20Relationship%20Dynamic" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">ADDS Free DD Lifestyle Guide</a></u></b><br />
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<span style="color: #0b3b6a; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b>* <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/How%20to%20Start%20DD%20Research">How to Start DD Research (Series)</a></b></span><br />
<b style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/domestic-discipline-marriage-beginning.html" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Domestic Discipline Marriage: Beginning A Domestic Discipline Marriage </span></a></b><br />
<b> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/02/domestic-discipline-relationship.html">Domestic Discipline Relationship Characteristics: Ethics are a Key to DD</a></b><br />
<b> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/09/domestic-discipline-key-to-dd-patience.html">Domestic Discipline Key to DD: Patience</a></b><br />
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<b>Sometimes when a couple or a single individual beginning to research Domestic Discipline as a possible relationship choice, they might think that it's all about "spanking" "rules" and Dominant vs submissive behavioral roles. So, naturally some believe that's where they should begin. What usually happens though, is the DD dynamic isn't presented as the unique relationship choice that it is in reality, and it becomes more of a spanking kink that doesn't grow into the couples lives in the way it was first intended. And, if a couple just wants the spanking kink part, that's fine, but it becomes very unsatisfying for those who want more yet feel unfulfilled with the spanking, list of rules and D/s approach.</b><br />
<b>Communication is so important to a DD Foundation and lifestyle that it is one of The 3C's of DD and a Key to DD.</b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Why is Communication so important as a first step, 3C & Key to DD?</span></b><br />
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<b>After verifying Consent between both partners the first steps of becoming successful toward building a Domestic Discipline Foundation begins. There are initial expectations that may or not be met, needed negotiation and new roles to learn and include to an existing ideology. There is the inclusion of new thoughts, feelings and ideas. </b><br />
<b>For a new couple it might mean one person Coming Out about their desire to live a Domestic Discipline style of lifestyle choice. This comes with possible expectations that need to be examined by a couple and negotiated through discussion.</b><br />
<b>For an existing couple there is a relationship in place that has preceding rules which might not be as functional and desired as they once was.</b><br />
<b>In either case there is so much to learn, so much to examine closely and relearn that Communication needs to be a focal point, especially early on. Because there is a lot to learn, the couple needs to communicate about all the new aspects and ever changing possibilities when meshing together two individuals ideas, needs and feelings about this fresh approach to enveloping this dynamic into their relationship.</b><br />
<b>If communication breaks down then everything usually comes to a screeching halt. One or both involved might have a feeling of failure or letting the other person down. One individual may want to continue or restart. After what might be conceived as a failure it becomes more difficult to try again.</b><br />
<b>When Communication is instilled and worked on early in a DD relationship, the road blocks that can deter or completely end one couples quest toward infusing a DD Foundation to their union, can be managed by a couple who knows how to remove such difficulties with discussion, honesty, openness, negotiation and of course... strong Communication skills!</b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">A Domestic Discipline lifestyle choice and the inherent roles of HoH and TiH take time to cultivate. Too often one partner pushes the other to "GET IT" before they're ready. This can leave the other partner looking like a deer in the headlights and their partner as a Mack truck filled with information and ideas ready to plow them over! Not always, but more often then not, the potential submissive TiH partner reveals this consensual lifestyle to their potential HoH partner after reading and learning and reading and reading and reading... (you get the picture) and reading about Domestic Discipline as an actual relationship choice. It usually takes the TiH awhile to gain the courage to share this realization, and then right after the submissive partner finally divulges their need for leadership in the relationship... they take over!</span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #073763;"><b><br /></b></span><span style="color: #073763;"><b>Even though it's the leadership and guidance they want from their partner, it's they who then take control and try to lead from a submissive position. In the open lifestyle community, this is known as a form of "topping from the bottom " This of course is confusing for the HoH. The whole idea of leading, spanking, and keeping their partner accountable might be completely new for them. But, the submissive partner has probably been thinking about this for some time and studying the subject. The TiH partner has been reading about the positive parts of what other DD couples are doing and of course they want the same. This can be overwhelming for the brand new HoH.</b></span></span><br />
<span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b>If you look deeper, you'll notice that the newer couples whose TiHs lead, struggle more. How many times have you read a post in a discussion group or on a blog that is from a TiH unhappy with their HoH. Too often. But, those who have been living this lifestyle for awhile understand that it takes time, especially in the beginning few years. Yes, I said YEARS! The first 3 months are just a feeling out period. The next 9 or more months are spent getting the communication dynamic right for your individual relationship. I've worked with couples who've been married over ten years and when I said they would need to both let go of past grudges and give themselves completely to one another in their new leader and support roles... there have been a few that looked at me like I was an alien! Otherwise, you'll be right back where you were before and nothing will have changed, and nothing will be changing in the near or distant future.</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b>A new HoH often wants to begin by asserting a new feeling of authority. When in reality it's leadership that is needed. Other new HoHs are a bit timid to take on the leadership role needed from a HoH or they might think it's about spanking instead of a real and viable relationship choice. In either case it takes time to learn and evolve into a HoH style leader.</b></span><br />
<span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b>Taking the time to discuss each new horizon is very important. Negotiation and consideration of our loved ones feelings are integral in the process and creating a plan moving forward.</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b>If a new HoH brings some long list of arbitrary rules to their new or potential TiH, it can backfire quickly. A true TiH is not there just to do everything and anything a HoH wants. A TiH has a say in the relationship and how it proceeds. A HoH is a leader, never a dictator.</b></span><br />
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<b> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/09/domestic-discipline-key-to-dd-patience.html">Domestic Discipline Key to DD: Patience</a></b><br />
<br />MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-68371327954434521222014-12-26T23:06:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:10:13.115-07:00Domestic Discipline Relationship Consistency is ONE of the 3C's of DD<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsKgCWkMccrlURKNOldnyHWQ2f1ms3HP7SDqq4lYVjzAlC-8bTey1bNPQjQVKI3MlY3TsasBiIYQ8kFJsxYnJqBVrtDr493-ZHY-1BXTTuyeoYiM3UbZuCbYsf0VYuQNR_2VYlL4PGDr7m/s1600/Consistency+180x200+61kb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsKgCWkMccrlURKNOldnyHWQ2f1ms3HP7SDqq4lYVjzAlC-8bTey1bNPQjQVKI3MlY3TsasBiIYQ8kFJsxYnJqBVrtDr493-ZHY-1BXTTuyeoYiM3UbZuCbYsf0VYuQNR_2VYlL4PGDr7m/s1600/Consistency+180x200+61kb.jpg" /></a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: blue;"><b><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">Consistency is something that is discussed in every DD discussion group, DD chat room and on every DD blog written. It most commonly comes up from those who are beginning and wondering why they have hit a road block. Usually after the honeymoon period of about three months and during the first year of living a DD dynamic, the reality of this relationship choice begins to settle in, and it becomes evident that it takes dedication & Consistency.</span></b></span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b>One of The 3C's of DD is Consistency. After a couple starts a DD style relationship or one partner in an existing relationship Comes Out about wanting and/or needing a DD dynamic in their relationship, Consent and what each person believes that means to them as an individual and couple is discussed. </b></span></span></span><br />
<b style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: medium;"><u><span style="color: #073763;"><br /></span></u></span></b><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b><span style="color: #073763;">After Consent is discussed, understood and given and Communication has begun, SitDDs are implemented and there is an initial plan in place that includes tools, the process of continuation through Consistency will begin all by itself. Inevitably, some gaps in the theories discussed initially will begin to surface. It always happens. Not to worry, this is a normal part of the process of including the DD lifestyle choice as part of your relationship. Working on openly communicating through honesty will bring up certain vulnerabilities and past defense mechanisms may reappear. It's in these areas, the discussions that come from them, and communicating through difficulties successfully, that will build an even closer relationship into the future.</span></b></span><br />
<span style="color: #073763;"><b><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">It's not uncommon for one partner to slide back to a Vanilla relationship style<i> power struggle</i> vs a consensual Lifestyle Power Exchange. One person may want to control or manipulate how the other will live their new role or learn about their role. Preconceived notions of how your partner will live out their role within a DD relationship become less about theory, and the reality that your partners needs and how they feel about living their new role becomes more prevalent. Just because someone has thought about living this dynamic for a long time, does not mean the new partner will agree completely. </span></b></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: #0b5394;">For example:</span></span><i><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: #0b5394;"> A person has wanted to live as a TiH in a DD relationship for a long time. They have researched the subject and have Come Out to their partner. The partner researches the role of HoH and agrees, communication opens and both Consent to moving forward as HoH & TiH in a DD style relationship. Shortly thereafter, the new HoH isn't living their role exactly as the TiH partner had previously imagined. This is normal, these are the gaps that need to be communicated through. Without a set Communication process Consistency will begin to break down</span><span style="color: #073763;">.</span></span></i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: #073763;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><i><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span></i></span></span></span><b><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #073763;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">Blaming a partner or wanting them to conform to preconceived ideas of what "their" role should be are</span></span></span><span style="color: #990000; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> Red Flags</span><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> to keep an eye out for...</span></span></b><br />
<b style="color: #073763;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span></b><b style="color: #073763;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">Concerns that begin with "You" arise. "You" don't do this, or "You" don't do that, become nonconstructive parts of a persons thought process. If the "You or They" thoughts are something that is beginning to create road blocks, replace them with "I" thoughts. For example, "I" need to listen to my partners needs and thoughts of how their new role fits them best. "I" need to accept that how I imagined my partners new role, may not be the same as how they need to live their new role in reality. This can then lead to replacing statements that began with "You" with statements that begin with "I". Statements like "YOU need to...</span><i style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> (do this or that)</i><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">", can become statements like "I would appreciate if you'd consider... (</span><i style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">this idea or that idea</i><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">)"</span></b><br />
<span style="color: #073763;"><b><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span></b></span><b style="color: #073763;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">Communication needs be of a fully consensual nature to insure consistency into the future.</span></b><br />
<span style="color: #073763;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Yes, the HoH is the leader, but not a dictator. Especially in the beginning of a DD relationship or re-setting or revitalizing a DD dynamic, it's important to build positive and consensual communication tools. As a DD relationship matures through time, and both partners needs are being met more readily, a re-negotiation of the Power Exchange can be addressed and more final decision making responsibility can be given to the HoH if that's what is wanted or needed. </span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">When openly honest communications begins, forgiveness needs to be included as something important in order to continue forward. Without forgiveness the honesty needed during discussions will become too difficult to continue. Also without forgiveness, old resentments may linger and begin to resurface after the initial excitement of beginning a new relationship dynamic. Cracks in the DD Foundation and a lapse in consistency can occur if these issues are not addressed in a calm and caring fashion.</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 20px;">Here are some questions to ask that might be helpful:</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">* Have you reviewed Consent with your partner?</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">* As a couple, are you continuing with your Communication plan and scheduled Sit Down Discussions?</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">* Have you as a couple accepted Forgiveness into the honest and open communication process?</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">* Have you started fresh through your Communication plan and forgiveness and released all old resentments from the past?</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #073763;"><br /></span><span style="color: #073763;"><br /></span><b style="color: #073763;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">Y</span></span>ou may have noticed I didn't bring up the "<i>consistency</i>" of how often spanking is administered in a DD relationship.</b><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><b><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> If a Domestic Discipline lifestyle is begun from an over emphasis on rules and spanking and not enough focus on the long term reality of the semantics within the relationship, the issue of Consistency will appear earlier and more often. </span></b></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><b><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">Play and have fun while experimenting with the "spanking" side of your new relationship dynamic. Disciplinary aspects of spanking can come along more slowly and patiently through the process. This serves a few purposes. Especially if the HoH is new, they'll need time to learn how to spank their partner in different ways for different reasons for different outcomes in different situations with different inflections and intentions.... the possibilities here are endless. Also, among other purposes, is the fact that coming up with effective rules that actually work well, takes time and solid communication first. </span></b></span></span><br />
<span style="color: #073763;"><br style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b>If at anytime Communication begins to become sporadic or inconsistent in any way, Consistency will suffer and re-setting Consent and the Communication plan is needed immediately. Having a mutually understood DD Foundation and being able to review ones Consent and your Communication plan is a positive leap forward toward continued closeness and Consistency in your DD relationship.</b></span></span><br />
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MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-29939516746186338692014-05-12T06:35:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:10:36.450-07:00Domestic Discipline Foundation: The 3 C's of DD<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrx0cLWA9HbFNBKh2Ezdt0kTicMsogMcmA4ZMDjkYeV3fpl3B-9sqI4XJcsIbTF-uqncBbwySOAwjXNlvD7xuK4IXaQ9295mdjrNlccQo4ocn9U2Mh9xNrhM73-gBgUiQ_wZA0RE0aoFzw/s1600/Foundation+150x175+37kb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrx0cLWA9HbFNBKh2Ezdt0kTicMsogMcmA4ZMDjkYeV3fpl3B-9sqI4XJcsIbTF-uqncBbwySOAwjXNlvD7xuK4IXaQ9295mdjrNlccQo4ocn9U2Mh9xNrhM73-gBgUiQ_wZA0RE0aoFzw/s1600/Foundation+150x175+37kb.jpg" /></a><b><span style="color: #cc0000;">The Domestic Discipline Foundation is the common ground where all styles of DD relationship variations begin and continue. It consists of the 3 C's of DD: Consent, Communication and Consistency. While there are many ways to live our DD lives, there are some common denominators that have become The DD Foundation that people add to and build up from. The successful DD Home is built on that foundation. The DD Home becomes their unique variation of the Domestic Discipline lifestyle choice. </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">There are many ways people decide to implement a Domestic Discipline lifestyle into their single lives and existing relationships. The ideas of a Domestic Discipline Foundation has been spoken about and discussed often on discussion groups, blogs and sites. It's a common part of the DD vernacular dating back to when people began to realize that DD was an individualized lifestyle choice and up to each person and couple as to the way it fit best for us in our lives.</span></b><br />
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This article will take a closer look at the importance of having a solid foundation to build a DD relationship upon. The important factors of beginning, growing, resetting or sustaining a successful Domestic Discipline Home is built on a solid DD Foundation.</span></b><br />
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With Consent there is care for the person Coming Out and the one who has just been Come Out to. With Communication there is a commitment to research and find what aspects of DD work best for each person and couple. With Consistency comes a continuation of a plan and process to move forward in an honest and happy relationship that includes negotiation and a responsibility to each persons role within the DD dynamic of the entire relationship.</span></b><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Without Consent, there is no Domestic Discipline dynamic. It's that simple.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">A Domestic Discipline lifestyle dynamic begins with both partners fully consenting to move forward and research the DD relationship choice. If in the beginning, or at any time afterward, one partner is unsure of the Consent to any of the DD style roles, goals, </span>guidelines<span style="font-family: inherit;"> or rules being considered, </span>patient care must be taken to re-negotiate and communicate until both partners agree 100% and understand the subject completely so they can fully give their consent. This may mean several or many discussions. If both people don't agree and give full consent, then the subject is tabled for the following Sit Down Discussion or scheduled for a later SitDD. If a certain subject in question is not resolved and full consent of both partners is not given, the particular aspect is not implemented into the relationship. Yes, the HoH has the responsibility to make the final decision on most issues or ideas that concern the relationship. But, this area of a DD lifestyle choice is not one of those areas. A persons physical being and emotional needs are their own at all times. A HoH or TiH may want a certain aspect they have read or seen in someone else's relationship, but that does not override Consent by both partners. This includes biblical readings or scripture. If someone points to a biblical passage in order to control or manipulate another person to do something against their will, is not acceptable in any relationship. If both partners agree and completely consent, then it can be implemented into the relationship.<br />
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Care in discussion is important for many reasons while working toward Consent. There are people who have secrets even from their long time spouse. While one person may want a DD ethos in their relationship, they may be unaware that their partner has dealt with issues that may surface while talking about the possibility of including anything to do with spanking or discipline in general.<br />
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Pushing forward and implementing something without consent is a form of abuse. It may be emotional abuse or if it has to do with anything in the area of spanking it can be considered physical abuse. If you cross this line and try to use "DD" as an excuse to manipulate someone, then you have left the Domestic Discipline description of what is commonly accepted as a DD relationship.<br />
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Refer to: <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2015/01/domestic-discipline-consent-consensual-tih-hoh-dd.html">Domestic Discipline CONSENT: DD is 100% Consensual</a><br />
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Communication is not only part of the DD Foundation, it is also commonly considered the first Key to DD.<br />
When full Consent is given by both partners, the research begins and communication opens. One partner has most likely already done some research before Coming Out about DD, so they may have some places to begin. In other circumstances, when two single people meet and are both familiar with the DD Lifestyle, they then begin by discussing their thoughts and ideas on the subject and might also want to share information they have found. In either case, communication comes after initial Consent and will continue throughout the life of the relationship.<br />
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The Communication aspect of building your DD Foundation is also where the couple begins to work together as a single entity. Consent is understood and all the varying ideas and thoughts of how to proceed are discussed. Some initial conversations are the casual sharing of thoughts and ideas. One person explaining how feel about the concepts and practices of what they think a DD relationship could be and listening to their partners thoughts. Finding some initial common ground is very helpful. Discussing why you want this relationship choice and the needs you feel inside are also very helpful.<br />
Where and how do we begin? What will be included as a part of the individual roles, responsibilities and guidelines? There are many questions at first, and it is sometimes tempting to jump right into the "spanking" and rules conversations. Domestic Discipline is a relationship style, but might sound like a kink or fetish to someone first hearing about it if the initial conversations are all focused around spanking, rules, dominant vs submissive roles and other areas that might sound more kinkish then relationship based. Begin with the focus on how a DD dynamic will improve and change your existing relationship. Communicate your needs and how the DD choice can express those needs. Nothing needs to be chiseled and set in stone. Initial conversations are a casual meeting of the minds and sharing of thoughts, needs and ideas. When research begins, is when there are more clarifications and questions answered. This is a patient process that will not begin overnight, or within a few days or weeks.<br />
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It's highly vital to begin by patiently building a plan and process to move forward after a few initial conversations. Part of the plan is researching the tools needed to set the DD Foundation and later build your DD home.<br />
The first tool is an integral part of every successful DD home. It is the Sit Down Discussion.<br />
The SitDD is the first part of the Communication plan. It is also the second step covered in <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Where%20to%20Start%20or%20Revitalize%20your%20DD%20Lifestyle%20Relationship%20Dynamic">The ADDS DD Lifestyle Guide </a> Within the free guide, there are the first tools suggested for any couple beginning, re-setting or revitalizing their Domestic Discipline lifestyle choice.<br />
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Refer to:<b> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/11/domestic-discipline-communication-is.html">Domestic Discipline: Communication is a Key to DD</a></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: large;"><u>Consistency</u></span></b><br />
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After Consent is given and understood, Communication has begun, SitDDs are implemented and there is an initial plan in place that includes tools, the process of continuation through Consistency will arise all by itself. The first gaps in the theories discussed initially will begin to surface. It's inevitable. Not to worry, this is a normal part of the process of including the DD lifestyle choice as part of your relationship. Working on openly communicating through honesty will bring up certain vulnerabilities and past defense mechanisms may reappear. It's in these areas that will arise, the discussions that come from them, and communicating through vulnerabilities and any difficulties successfully, that will build an even closer relationship into the future.<br />
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Consistency is something that is commonly discussed in every DD discussion group, DD chat room and on every DD blog written. It most commonly comes up from those who are beginning and wondering why they have hit a road block. Usually after the honeymoon period of about three months and during the first year of living a DD dynamic, the reality of this relationship choice begins to settle in.<br />
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It's not uncommon for one partner to slide back to a power struggle vs a Power Exchange. One person may want to control or manipulate how the other will live their new role or learn about their role. Preconceived notions of how your partner will live out their role within a DD relationship become less about theory, and the reality that your partners needs and how they feel about living their new role becomes more prevalent. Concerns that begin with "You" arise. "You" don't do this, or "You" don't do that, become nonconstructive parts of a persons thought process. If the "You or They" thoughts are something that is beginning to create road blocks, replace them with "I" thoughts. For example, "I" need to listen to my partners needs and thoughts of how their new role fits them best. "I" need to accept that how I imagined my partners new role, may not be the same as how they need to live their new role in reality. This can then lead to replacing statements that began with "You" with statements that begin with "I". Statements like "YOU need to...<i> (do this or that)</i>", can become statements like "I would appreciate if you'd consider... (<i>this idea or that idea</i>)"<br />
Yes, the HoH is the leader, but not a dictator. Especially in the beginning of a DD relationship or re-setting or revitalizing a DD dynamic, it's important to build positive and consensual communication tools. As a DD relationship matures through time, and both partners needs are being met more readily, a re-negotiation of the Power Exchange can be addressed and more final decision making responsibility can be given to the HoH. But, when working on The DD Foundation, it's essential that communication be of a fully consensual nature to insure consistency into the future.<br />
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Also, if a Domestic Discipline lifestyle is begun from an over focus on rules and spanking and not enough basis in the long term reality of the relationship, the issue of Consistency will appear earlier and more often in the process of including your DD choice.<br />
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When openly honest communications begins, forgiveness needs to be included as something important in order to continue forward. Without forgiveness the honesty needed during discussions will become too difficult to continue. Also without forgiveness, old resentments may linger and begin to resurface after the initial excitement of beginning a new relationship dynamic. Cracks in the DD Foundation and a lapse in consistency can occur if these issues are not addressed in a calm and caring fashion.<br />
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Refer to: <b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2014/07/domestic-discipline-relationship.html">Domestic Discipline Relationship Consistency s ONE of the 3Cs of DD</a></b><br />
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Here are some questions to ask that might help:<br />
* Have you reviewed your Consent with yourself and your partner?<br />
* As a couple, are you continuing with your Communication plan and scheduled Sit Down Discussions?<br />
* Have you as a couple accepted Forgiveness into the honest and open communication process?<br />
* Have you started fresh through your Communication plan and forgiveness and released all old resentments from the past?<br />
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If at anytime Communication begins to become sporadic or inconsistent in any way, Consistency will suffer and re-setting Consent and the Communication plan is needed immediately. Having a mutually understood DD Foundation and being able to review ones Consent and your Communication plan is a positive leap forward toward continued closeness and Consistency in your DD relationship. <br />
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<i>After The DD Foundation, there is Research to do, tools to begin with and Keys to DD. All of these are more closely researched and included after a couple have Consent, begun Communication and are in the continuation built from the Consistency area of building their DD Foundation. Focusing on the relationship first is paramount. Including "Spanking", Rules, the agreed upon Power Exchange and other factors are blended into the relationship patiently with experimentation, negotiation and time.</i><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">Related Reading Links:</span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: red;">*</span><span style="color: #990000;"> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/defining-domestic-discipline-lifestyle.html"><i>Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Definition</i></a></span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #990000;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/02/domestic-discipline-valentines-day-of.html">Domestic Discipline Reaffirmation & Appreciation</a></span></b><br />
<b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/02/domestic-discipline-relationship.html">Domestic Discipline Relationship Characteristics: Ethics are a Key to DD</a></b><br />
<b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/09/domestic-discipline-forgiveness.html">Domestic Discipline Forgiveness</a></b><br />
<b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/01/beginning-domestic-discipline-plan.html">Beginning Domestic Discipline Plan & Process / Your DD Plan</a></b><br />
<b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/domestic-discipline-marriage-beginning.html">Domestic Discipline Marriage: Beginning a DD Marriage</a></b><br />
<a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/10/characteristics-of-head-of-household-hoh.html"><b>Characteristics of a Head of Household (HoH)</b></a><br />
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<span style="color: #990000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b>Related Series Links (</b></span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #660000;">Chronologically, </span><span style="color: #660000;">read each Series from bottom article Up</span></span><b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="color: #990000;">)</span></b><br />
<i style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Haven't Come Out yet? Begin here >> </i><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Coming%20Out%20about%20Spanking%20and%20Revealing%20Domestic%20Discipline"> <b><span style="font-family: inherit;">Coming Out about DD & Spanking (Series)</span></b></a><br />
<i><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Come Out & now Researching?</span></i> >> <b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/How%20to%20Start%20DD%20Research">DD Research Series</a></b><br />
<i><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Researching & Ready to Begin, Re-Set or Revitalize</span></i> > <b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Where%20to%20Start%20or%20Revitalize%20your%20DD%20Lifestyle%20Relationship%20Dynamic">The ADDS DD Lifestyle Guide</a></b><br />
<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>Working Together, more in-depth DD Relationship Keys > </i><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Keys%20to%20a%20Domestic%20Discipline%20Relationship">Keys to DD</a></b></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>Beginning Recap and Review Series</i> ><b> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Beginning%20DD">Beginning DD & All DD Article for Review</a></b></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><br /></span>MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-79226555393732814992013-12-20T20:35:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:11:07.541-07:00Domestic Discipline: One DD World Community<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLdUSL9J_-5HHqjF2_Frjxr6Beo4o_q7QaolK0acWtBFN0tLMVPvFTNA1YuAgoKJq2UVUDYjuvvBNV5qt3WwhD8uiwdgapYtF_9wGU-TcCrBlQE6dJTCgzuaFAx2oyXhNRXQV07hLWoPCW/s1600/globe+1+dd+comm.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLdUSL9J_-5HHqjF2_Frjxr6Beo4o_q7QaolK0acWtBFN0tLMVPvFTNA1YuAgoKJq2UVUDYjuvvBNV5qt3WwhD8uiwdgapYtF_9wGU-TcCrBlQE6dJTCgzuaFAx2oyXhNRXQV07hLWoPCW/s1600/globe+1+dd+comm.jpg" /></a><b><span style="color: #990000;">ADDS researches deep into all areas of the Domestic Discipline lifestyle community and raises vital questions for community discussion and growth. There is something happening over the years that has been a little puzzling. There seems to be a separation between those who frequent blogs and people who prefer to go on adult discussion groups. This has caused a void of information between the two venues of information. Although with cross-over blogs like this one and others the chasm is closing. But, why is there still any gap? We are ONE DD World Community.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">The Domestic Discipline relationship choice is something unique to each person and couple.</span></b><br />
<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">And, it seems so is the choice for where people seek information about Domestic Discipline.</span></b><br />
<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">But why do some people researching, stay in one area instead of branching out to find information from different venues? </span> </b><br />
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<b>Since the advent of Windows 95 when personal computers became affordable for households across the world, many people sought out and joined adult discussion boards. There are still Yahoo boards up and running and there were MSN World boards and Google had boards available for awhile, but the MSN & Google ones went away in time. The discussion boards were wildly inconsistent depending on the person running them.</b><br />
<b>When adult discussion and meet-up sites started, they became more used and popular. The ones where a person puts up a profile, shares what they are looking for, not looking for, maybe some pictures of themselves, join groups that interest them and begin reading and discussing topics from those groups. There was also a lot of info being shared about local munches and coffee clutches happening all over the world. If you were near a major metropolitan area, you could actually find people who were interested in what you were. Or at least something close to what you were interested in hopefully. And of course with all he discussion threads and topics being presented, that meant more and more information being shared.</b><br />
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<b>When blogging started to become more popular and DD style blogs began to pop up occasionally, it took awhile for any one of them to catch on. The most popular DD focused blogs from years ago only summoned a minimal amount of traffic compared to how many readers are attracted today. And there are so many more DD blogs being written now then in the past. Proof that the DD lifestyle dynamic is growing and growing fast. Blogs have become a viable source of information on several levels for those interested to learn about DD relationships, information and practices.</b><br />
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<b>As blogging has become more popular and adult discussion groups have also grown, there has been some cross over but there is also a separation that is clearly seen by those of us with a foot in both worlds.</b><br />
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<b>A Domestic Discipline Society is everywhere there are people who are interested to learn and share their knowledge about the reality of what a DD relationship dynamic is all about. That includes many sites that have come and gone through the years. I knew there would be an ADDS blog someday also and saved the URL addy back in 2008, placing one Index page on it in 2009 and actively began writing it in 2012. This has been a successful endeavor in sharing real and experienced information about DD and in crossing the boundaries between blogland and the discussion groups.</b><br />
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<b>When I started the ADDS site, there were a lot of people who came over to begin reading here from the ADDS discussion groups. And with that came people saying, "I found the ADDS site from "XYZ" site but don't tell anyone I'm on one of <i>those</i> sites" I never share info anyway, but I did wonder what the big secret was all about. If someone judges another person for where they get their information... that's not the fault of the first person. The more bloggers who kept telling me they were also on adult discussion sites, but not to tell anyone, the more I wondered why.</b><br />
<b>I have been reading lifestyle blogs and even studying some DD blogs for many years and moderating many DD discussion groups, a social site, chat rooms etc, for a very long time. There are pluses and minuses in both areas. Why not utilize all the pluses and work together to reduce the minuses? I had my own thoughts as to why people who were a part of blogland didn't want others to know they are "<i>those</i>" sites. People from the discussion sites felt that those who were more into blogland were judgmental... and people from blogland were afraid their friends would find out they were on the adult discussion sites. I know people from both neighborhoods and can say with confidence, neither side is judgmental and neither area actually believe they're above or below another.</b><br />
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<b>It's time to dissolve the myths perpetuated in the media from <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/DD%20Black%20Wednesday%20%2F%20CDD%20Misinformation%20and%20misled%20Media">June 19th DD Black Wednesday</a> and the difference in opinions from blogland and discussion groups like Fetlife and others. We are all one DD Community. This is an opportunity as a growth period. There are strengths from both areas that can help the other. And it's not like there should even be any separation. In reality people from across the DD Community are some of the most open, understanding and tolerant people on the planet. We have had to deal with people from outside the community not understanding us and worry if someone found out, how would that reflect on our work or home life. When someone finds the Chat DD Room they're so relieved to find people they can communicate with about their thoughts. They are no longer alone. </b><br />
<b>The DD Community Chat Room has actually been a nice cross over spot. People from different areas of the community come in and chat, and everyone there is meshing together wonderfully.</b><br />
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<b>Just as the DD community is continuing to blend together and become more accepting of others for differences and commonalities, we need to continue to work and communicate together as One DD World Community!</b><br />
<b><i>As a beginning, this article is being cross posted on the ADDS Fetlife discussion group and ADDS blog</i></b>. Comment on both if you're up to it, let's see who gets more comments!<br />
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<b><span style="color: #cc0000;">Why is there any difference and how do we close that gap completely as one DD community?</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #20124d;">Chat Room Info</span><span style="color: #073763;"> > <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/05/domestic-discipline-chat-room-dd-chat-room-forum.html">Chat Room Info & Overview</a></span></b><br />
<b>ADDS on Fetlife >> <a href="https://fetlife.com/groups/3076">ADDS Fetlife Discussion Group</a></b><br />
<b>(<i>The Fetlife discussion group is being used first, because there are 7,000 registered members there who are not shy to share their thoughts & the ADDS FL group is the single largest DD group of any kind in the world</i>) </b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">Related Reading links:</span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #990000;">* <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/03/how-to-domestic-discipline-what-is-domestic-discipline-start-beginning-domestic-discipline.html"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">How to Start DD Research</span></a></span></b><br />
<b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/beginning-your-dd-lifestyle-together.html"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Where to Start: Beginning your DD Lifestyle Together</span></a></b><br />
<b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/10/domestic-discipline-foundation-3-cs-of-dd.html"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">The Domestic Discipline Foundation & The 3 C's of DD</span></a></b><br />
<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/defining-domestic-discipline-lifestyle.html">Defining Domestic Discipline / DD Lifestyle Definition</a></span></b><br />
<br />MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-80435972042256360512013-11-16T22:48:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:11:30.220-07:00A Domestic Discipline Society: Thank you to our Quiet Readers, We Love our Lurkers!<br />
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivpzvFNGTOfIc78mPdMcckEWIbTkELs8JrP_N9f3ADjZeXlITYYhoIXmG_Fqxvze13TKU_8u5_01py9cdc5NzAKwJktPR1TvjK6793bx0Io4eL2lsGKJOYbOOFyQ-YRaTxCa1c1rkHiWBa/s1600/LOL8+sm+15kb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivpzvFNGTOfIc78mPdMcckEWIbTkELs8JrP_N9f3ADjZeXlITYYhoIXmG_Fqxvze13TKU_8u5_01py9cdc5NzAKwJktPR1TvjK6793bx0Io4eL2lsGKJOYbOOFyQ-YRaTxCa1c1rkHiWBa/s1600/LOL8+sm+15kb.jpg" /></a><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">A Domestic Discipline Society readers come from all areas of the Domestic Discipline, Spanking and greater lifestyle community. Many are silent readers also known as Lurkers. Today is a special day set aside for us bloggers to say thank you for coming by and reading our musings, posts and articles.</span><br />
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The official LOL Day was 11/12, but it's alright to continue to share and de-lurk. After all not everyone was online on or just after the 12th. There's usually a recap on Bonnie's MY Bottom Smarts blog and we'll continue here until her recap, I'll do a little recap of our own for ADDS participants and that will also give me some time to reply to each person who kindly stopped by to share and/or participate here for the first time or the most recent time! :)<br />
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<b>The pages here on the ADDS site have been turned over half a million times in just the past year. Out of those half a million, only about a thousand comments have been registered. (Ok, so there's been about 100k but the advertisements don't get posted) That means there's a whole lot of people reading along that prefer not to comment. Of course that's fine, completely acceptable and no one has to comment. I appreciate that everyone has accepted ADDS so quickly and comes here to read so often.</b><br />
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<b>What I have noticed in just over a year after activating this site, is that the gap between all those visitors coming here regularly and reading, and the people who decide to leave a comment... there are a whole lot of quiet readers out there :) </b><br />
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<b>Our friend Bonnie, from <a href="http://bottomsmarts.blogspot.com/">My Bottom Smarts</a> (MBS) blog started something very special eight years ago to thank all of our quiet readers, or Lurkers as they are known. Love our Lurkers day is here again and is meant to say thank you and invite even the most shy reader to simply say "Hi" or leave a short comment. </b><br />
<b>I have seen where a shy reader steps out and says hello and it has led to them becoming more participatory and in a few cases they have even gone on to begin their very own blog some time afterward. But, if you're a quiet reader let me say thank you. You are the backbone of blogland.</b><br />
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<b>I was a silent reader for many years. I moderated the ADDS discussion groups starting in 2005 and also Spanking/ DD social networking site along with being very active in the DD community in several areas. But, as far as blogland was concerned, I just didn't leave comments. It's hard to explain why. I enjoyed the blogs and sites I visited and referred many to people from all the ADDS groups. It was several years ago when I came across a Love Our Lurkers post on Bonnie's MBS blog that I decided to say hello. </b><br />
<b><br /></b><b>Everyone is cordially invited to leave a comment here and elsewhere today and the next few days during the Love Our Lurker festivities! Hopefully on this special day, or the few days to come, you'll decide to step forward and say hello if you'd like. Use Anonymous choice or any nickname you like. If on this day, where many people find blogs they haven't seen before, or haven't had the chance to comment... you can take the time to say Hi also :)</b><br />
<b>Or if you're a regular visitor, feel free to say Happy LoL Day to everyone!</b><br />
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Usually, there are pics and a snippet of information provided on the Sharing DD Blog blogroll and DD Friendly Spanking Blog and DD Friendly Author Bog blogrolls... but today (11/12), the ALL DD Blogs blog list will also show a pic so you can more easily find other DD Blogs along with Spanking Blogs and Author Blogs that are showing the Love Our Lurkers (LOL / L8L) logo pictures indicating where there are even more blogs to visit and De-Lurk yourself :)<br />
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<b style="text-align: start;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #990000;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"> The DD Friendly / DD Book Club Blog & Site list and </span><span style="line-height: 20px;">recurring</span></span><span style="line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: #990000;"> posts will make it easier to find just what you're looking for.... and more!</span><span style="color: #cc0000;"> </span></span></span></b></div>
<span style="display: block;"><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="color: purple; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: large;"><b><i><u>DD Friendly Authors:</u></i></b></span><br /><br /><a href="http://bentalice.com/" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: blue;"><b>Alice Dark </b></span></a><a href="http://bentalice.com/" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;">~ Bent Alice</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> - Licks and Lashes</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><a href="http://thebeautyofsubmission.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: blue;">Ava Grace</span></a><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-weight: bold;"> - </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">The Beauty of Submission</span></span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><a href="http://brattyadaline.blogspot.com/" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b><span style="color: blue;">Bratty Adaline</span></b></a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> - Adaline Raine, spanking romance author looking for her muse</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><a href="http://breannahayse.com/" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b><span style="color: blue;">Breanna Hayse</span></b></a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> - Romance stories, spanking, DD, D/s, ageplay & real life D/s household</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><a href="http://carabristol.com/" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b><span style="color: blue;">Cara Bristol</span></b></a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> - Erotic stories to light your fire...</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b><a href="http://corinnealexander.blogspot.com/" style="color: blue;">Corinne Alexander</a> - </b><span style="color: #333333;"> Book Reviews & soon to be Author</span></span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><a href="http://cassandredayne.wordpress.com/about/" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b><span style="color: blue;">Cassandre Dayne</span></b></a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> - Dare to Take the Plunge</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; 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color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><a href="http://krbnaughtythoughts.blogspot.com/" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: blue;">Kathryn R Blake</span></span></b></a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> - A Writers Naughty Thoughts, little bit sweet, little bit sexy a lot a bit Naughty</span></span><span style="display: block;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span></span><span style="display: block;"><a href="http://www.kellydawsonauthor.blogspot.co.nz/" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; 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font-weight: bold;"> - </span><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;">Domestic Discipline lifestyle & Spanking genre fiction</span></span></span><span style="display: block; font-size: 14.8500003814697px; line-height: 20.7900009155273px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><br /></span></span></span><span style="display: block; font-size: 14.8500003814697px; line-height: 20.7900009155273px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b style="background-color: white; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://marysuewehr.com/"><span style="color: blue;">Mary Wehr</span></a><span style="color: #333333;"> - </span></b><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Sexy Spanking Romance</span></span></span><span style="display: block; font-size: 14.8500003814697px; 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color: #0b3b6a; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px;" target="_blank"><b><span style="color: blue;">Renee Rose</span></b></a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"> - Spanking stories, Because no romance story is complete without a spanking</span></span></span></span><span style="display: block;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span></span><span style="display: block;"><a href="http://www.disciplinarytales.blogspot.com/"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Rollin Hand</span></b></a> - Disciplinary Tales, <span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">erotic spanking fiction, intriguing plots, memorable characters and hot action</span></span><span style="display: block;"><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><a href="http://www.ruthstaunton.com/" style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: blue;">Ruth Staunton</span></a><b style="color: #333333;"> - </b><span style="color: #333333;">Spanking Fiction, </span></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Because sometimes love needs to be a little more hands on…</span></span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; 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line-height: 20px;"> - Pleasure, pain and a whole lotta heart!</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: inherit; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">Are you a DD Friendly Author & would like to be part of this talented group of writers?</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/p/contact-mrbb.html" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: blue;"><i>Contact MrBB</i></span></a></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">......................................................................................................................................</span></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><span style="color: purple; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: large;"><b><i><u>The DD Book Club:</u></i></b></span></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><i>Introducing the first ever DD Lifestyle Book Reviewer</i></b></span><b style="color: #cc0000; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><i>!</i></b></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><br /></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0rtbwjAiXNtJ1YvGzjKQ8URCHTZDqOGGKBELoXtiNHVxazuweYnyF5SqU8BgvlDf6yz0NigRANjGMVU6Icn8nhg8D5M22KBybumv1gdJierYUyKRsb2lD6nypQ1eQ3sDsW5Eky0e8kiFQ/s1600/book+fiery3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0rtbwjAiXNtJ1YvGzjKQ8URCHTZDqOGGKBELoXtiNHVxazuweYnyF5SqU8BgvlDf6yz0NigRANjGMVU6Icn8nhg8D5M22KBybumv1gdJierYUyKRsb2lD6nypQ1eQ3sDsW5Eky0e8kiFQ/s1600/book+fiery3.jpg" /></a><b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"> As part of the progression of this recurring post to celebrate and inform, ADDS has been looking for just the right person to Review DD based or focused books! We wanted a place where readers could come and find Reviews that included a distinctively focused look at the DD Lifestyle content of a book. I researched for six months, came close once or twice but could not find a reviewer like this or a place where DD focused reviews were all a reviewer was focused on. So ADDS is breaking new ground again and introducing the first dedicated DD Lifestyle Book Reviewer ever! ADDS is the Home for Everything DD, and that includes bringing you Everything from a DD lifestyle perspective.</span></span></b></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">I would like to introduce Catrinka as the first ever DD Lifestyle Book Reviewer. Not only is Cat, as she's known, a wonderfully sweet person, she lives a DD life with her caring and loving HoH Alec. I had the pleasure of getting to know Cat and Alec since they were part of The DD Community Chat Room from the beginning. I was so impressed with their approach and knowledge of the DD lifestyle dynamic, that I asked if they would help Moderate the chat room. They graciously accepted and have been integral in welcoming and supporting </span></span></b><b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">a growing family of people who come to The DD Chat Room.</span></span></b></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">While having a conversation with Alec, I mentioned how hard it's been to find just the perfect person to write DD Reviews for the ADDS site. He mentioned that Cat loves everything about the genre, is a huge fan and reads everything she can get her hands on! I talked to Cat at length on the subject and the first ever DD Lifestyle Book Reviewer was born! I couldn't be happier. </span></span></b></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><b style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><i><span style="color: #0b5394;"><br /></span></i></span></span></b></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><b style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><i><span style="color: #0b5394;">If you are an author and have a book with DD content to be submitted for review, please email me here</span></i><span style="color: #073763;"> ></span></span><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/p/contact-mrbb.html">Contact MrBB</a></span></span></b></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><b style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i><span style="color: #0b5394;">Please use the Subject Line "DD Book Club" Tell us all about your book but don't send a copy with the first email. We'll send an email and let you know where you can send your information for Cat to review. She is an avid reader of the genre and there's a good chance she might even have your book already!</span> </i><span style="color: #073763;">:) </span></span></span></b></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><b style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: #0b5394;"><i>We are going to be sharing information about books that have DD content. We are looking for the best books with DD content to present to the DD community. </i></span><span style="color: #073763;"> </span></span></span></b></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #073763;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">.............................................................................................................</span></span></span></b></span><br />
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Also, what are your thoughts for DD in upcoming ideas for documentaries.</span></span><span style="display: block; text-align: left;"><b style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px;"><i>Click > <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/p/the-dd-community-chatroom-is-open-to.html">The DD Chat Room (rules, entry, password page)</a></i></b></span>MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-67035637654773928932013-10-31T20:08:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:13:04.075-07:00Domestic Discipline Rules: Examining, Building & Re-Organizing DD Relationship Rules<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipet4wgbpArwIIJtaQ2-5S0WhUa7-RQ2S6Y1fGZyvMN-z9JtBZmO9NHSUKh0rJ-MrQoPYNlaSxXg5Ko6DhyxRBNNuYyPpgpWh44J1bVR1vUvNVgCFVKrGYpCZxFrSe0pQwEELilIQUXXuP/s1600/DD+Rules+200x220+67kb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipet4wgbpArwIIJtaQ2-5S0WhUa7-RQ2S6Y1fGZyvMN-z9JtBZmO9NHSUKh0rJ-MrQoPYNlaSxXg5Ko6DhyxRBNNuYyPpgpWh44J1bVR1vUvNVgCFVKrGYpCZxFrSe0pQwEELilIQUXXuP/s1600/DD+Rules+200x220+67kb.jpg" /></a><b><span style="color: #274e13;">Rules, Goals and Aspirations... Where to begin building Domestic Discipline Relationship Rules.</span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #274e13;">A common discussion found throughout the DD community is about Rules. How to build DD Relationship Rules. Where to begin and how to continue. Later on, how to keep everything organized and working as a tool in the relationship dynamic instead of becoming a micromanaging mess where the TiH or HoH feel hemmed in instead of free in their choice to live a DD style relationship.</span></b><br />
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<span style="color: #073763; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b>Domestic Discipline Rules are very individualized by each couple. There are lists out there that work for one couple but will cause frustration, break down communication and consistency for another couple. It is never a good idea to take a list of rules that another couple uses and try to force it into your own.</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><i>The DD Relationship Rules are built from the HoH Rules and TiH List. </i></b></span><br />
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<b><u><span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">The TiH List</span></u></b><br />
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<b>The TiH List is a tool for the TiH to work on ideas for the themselves and the HoH Rules List.</b><br />
<b>Used to brainstorm and prioritize ideas for what the TiH would like to work on.</b><br />
<b>Consists of goals and aspirations or rules they feel they need or want.</b><br />
<b>It's an evolving list where nothing is "set in stone"</b><br />
<b>The TiH List is an important part of Sit Down Discussions.</b><br />
<b>Consist of areas where the TiH would like to work on and ask their HoH for assistance.</b><br />
<b>Have ideas for future contributions to the HoH Rules List. </b><br />
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<b><u><span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">The HoH Rules List</span></u></b><br />
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<b>HoH Rules List is a there for the HoH and couple to refer to and use as a continuing and evolving tool.</b><br />
<b>The list is first formed from TiH goals and aspirations.</b><br />
<b>They areas a TiH would like to work on, and ask their partner to help them with for various reasons.</b><br />
<b>They are consensual and agreed upon by both partners.</b><br />
<b>They are manageable and up for re-negotiation and redefinition during Sit Down Discussions.</b><br />
<b>Built patiently through communication, there are also rules included slowly from the HoH role of the relationship.</b><br />
<b>The HoH contributions are discussed, agreed upon and added through time.</b><br />
<b>No rule is included as a control factor or as a way to "fix" a fault.</b><br />
<b>A rule or goal is meant as improvement for each person and the relationship as a whole. </b><br />
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Although it sounds simple enough, in reality there are times when DD Relationship Rules can become cumbersome and unmanageable. If there are too many goals being worked on at one time, it can become confusing and unorganized. Working together is vital and if there isn't clear and defined path, it can lead to a feeling of inconsistency in the relationship and an over focus on correction instead of cohesion. <br />
Formulating your HoH Rules List together is an important part of building Consent and strengthening communication skills.<br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><u>Where to begin or re-organize a HoH Rules List:</u></span></b><br />
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<b>Have a TiH List of goals.</b><br />
- Begin with Tangible vs Non-Tangible factors for a TiH List<br />
- Although there may be several goals, the TiH needs to prioritize one or two to begin<br />
- Have TiH list ready for next Sit Down Discussion<br />
Refer to:<span style="color: blue;"> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/beginning-your-dd-lifestyle-together.html">Where to Start: Beginning your DD Lifestyle Together </a></span><br />
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<b>Have your Sit Down Discussion days and times set.</b><br />
- One hour twice a week.<br />
- Two hours a week is not a lot when working on strengthening your relationship<br />
- After one or two years once a week might be acceptable in your relationship<br />
Refer to:<span style="color: blue;"> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/sit-down-discussion.html">The Sit Down Discussion</a></span><br />
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<b>Have a HoH Rules List plan in place for your next Sit Down Discussion:</b><br />
- Use a process or categories to build your own rules & goals<br />
- Suggested: The 5 categories outlined in 3D S&H<br />
- Research HoH Rules List<br />
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READ & Refer to:<span style="color: blue;"> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/head-of-household-rules.html"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">HoH: Head of Household Rules</span></b></a></span><br />
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<i> After there is one or two goals used to begin with, deciding what are "spankable" offences, agreed upon Disciplinary Actions and the Progression of Discipline will come next.</i><br />
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Already have a HoH Rule List in place but it might need some fine tuning? Here are a few questions to ask before re-organizing the HoH Rules List:<br />
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* Taken in Hand (TiH) Partners:<br />
Has your list of Rules or goals become too long?<br />
Do you sometimes feel like you're walking on "egg shells"<br />
Are the Rules used in your consensual dynamic all coming from the HoH side of the relationship?<br />
Are you able to re-negotiate or help redefine rules during Sit Down Discussions?<br />
Did your ideas, aspirations and goals come first, in the formation of the HoH Rules List?<br />
Do you use a DD Calendar to help keep things organized for you & your HoH?<br />
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* Head of Household (HoH) Partners:<br />
Do you have an updated list to refer to?<br />
Is your list built from Consent through Communication to promote harmony and Consistency?<br />
Did you <i>and</i> your partner build the list together?<br />
When is the last time the list was re-organized as part of a Sit Down Discussion?<br />
Is your list meant to build a stronger relationship or is is looking like a micro-management tool?<br />
Does your TiH keep the TiH List, DD Diary and DD Calendar up to date?<br />
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<span style="color: #660000;"><u><b>More Related Reading Links for this article:</b></u></span><br />
<u><b><span style="color: red;">*</span><span style="color: #660000;"> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/01/beginning-domestic-discipline-plan.html">Beginning Domestic Discipline Plan & Process / Your DD Plan</a></span></b></u><br />
<span style="color: #660000;"><u><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/progression-of-discipline-disciplinary.html">Progression of Discipline</a></span></b></u></span><br />
<span style="color: #660000;"><u><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/the-tolerance-ladder.html"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">The Tolerance LaDDer</span></a></b></u></span><br />
<span style="color: #660000;"><u><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/defining-tih-list-introducing-ddiary.html">Defining The TiH List and Introducing The DD Diary</a></span></b></u></span><br />
<span style="color: #660000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><u><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/domestic-discipline-calendar.html">Domestic Discipline Calendar</a></b></u></span><br />
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<span style="color: #660000;"><u>Further DD Related</u><u> </u><u>Research Links:</u></span><br />
<span style="color: #660000;"><b><u><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/defining-domestic-discipline-lifestyle.html">Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Definition</a></u></b></span><br />
<b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/10/domestic-discipline-foundation-3-cs-of-dd.html">Domestic Discipline Foundation & The 3C's of DD</a></b><br />
<a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/03/how-to-domestic-discipline-what-is-domestic-discipline-start-beginning-domestic-discipline.html"><b>How to Start DD Research: What is DD to Me Resource & Eliminating Confusion</b></a><br />
<br />MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-88507794588828905262013-10-19T03:46:00.001-07:002016-04-02T23:13:30.194-07:00Domestic Discipline Key to DD: Patience<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDZlZLd7wblU6p85HYfrXz6aXLDb3OcdJT2NDzuvsIlyvb_ZF-djWidgp5J8vX6sJ6nbDtV6UJeizPpdDw_ABpvKj2x8B5s-peViQJTZ-jNz9PbaKoqth4NMotsrNuNAPX-ZcpKTBflH8B/s1600/patience+150x175+23kb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDZlZLd7wblU6p85HYfrXz6aXLDb3OcdJT2NDzuvsIlyvb_ZF-djWidgp5J8vX6sJ6nbDtV6UJeizPpdDw_ABpvKj2x8B5s-peViQJTZ-jNz9PbaKoqth4NMotsrNuNAPX-ZcpKTBflH8B/s1600/patience+150x175+23kb.jpg" /></a><b><span style="color: #073763;"></span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #073763;">We've all heard that p</span></b><b><span style="color: #073763;">atience is a virtue</span></b><b><span style="color: #073763;">. While patience is truly a virtue in life, patience is vital in a new, growing and continuing Domestic Discipline relationship. Patience is a <i><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Key to DD</span></i> because we don't absolutely know how our partner, or future partner, will accept and intellectualize the information about what a Domestic Discipline lifestyle choice is in reality.</span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #073763;">This is part seven of the ongoing ADDS Series, Keys to DD.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">First, lets take a look at how Patience is a Key to DD for Couples:</span></b><br />
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As often happens, one partner in a Domestic Discipline relationship finds and researches information about how to Come Out, Research and begin a DD lifestyle dynamic. The Research process can sometimes continue for weeks, months and even longer. So, when the first partner does Come Out about DD desires and including a form of spanking into their relationship, they seem to have a distinct advantage. They are ahead in the process of obtaining and understanding the information pertaining to beginning a new role and relationship ethos. This is not always the advantage it may seem to be at first. The first partner may begin to formulate not only what their new roles will require, but also begin to decide ahead of times what the role of their partner needs be. Nothing wrong with imagining what their partners role might be if they are open to the idea that their partner might not feel the exact same way. In fact, most of the time after one person Comes Out, the other partner has very different views of what is being explained to them.<br />
If the first person explains a DD lifestyle dynamic as being all about spanking, discipline & punishment then it might seem more like a fetish or kink then being about a real and viable relationship choice.<br />
If the first person explains a DD lifestyle choice as being about the relationship and begins with information about consent, communication and commitment along with The Keys to DD, then the person receiving the information has the opportunity to view DD completely as a relationship choice that happens to also include spanking as one tool within the dynamic.<br />
There is no guarantee how a person will absorb and understand the information presented to them when someone Comes Out about Domestic Discipline as a relationship foundation. They may not understand the idea at first, or they may be willing to open up and look further into their role in a DD relationship. Either way, or in any way they decide to accept the process and practices of a DD dynamic, the person who has Come Out and the person being Come Out to need to be patient with each other moving forward. It takes time to learn and grow slowly into each role. Even the first person who was doing the research before Coming Out, is starting from scratch in many ways also. What is read and what becomes reality are often completely different. Preconceived notions of what the other person is suppose to act like may be far from reality. The person who has just been Come Out to may have very different ideas what their partner's role should be, which for some reason often comes as a shock to the person who has Come Out!<br />
The only guarantee a person Coming Out has, is that living a DD lifestyle dynamic will not be <i>exactly</i> as they planned it, if they over plan it. <br />
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This is where Patience comes in as a Key to DD. Patience and being open minded to each others ideas of forming a process & plan to grow and move forward is vital. Patience and open mindedness are the buffers and cushions early on in the process.<br />
It's important that each person focuses on their own role first and foremost. If one partner tries to control the other person it will cause animosity and future resentment. It takes time and patience to understand the role of a HoH or TiH in a DD relationship. Even if the first person to research DD has preconceived ideas of what they want their partner to act like after they begin, that doesn't mean that's how the second person will understand their role. Some who have just learned about this lifestyle dynamic will need time to grow and learn at their own pace.<br />
One example of what might happen is when the TIH partner researches DD first and then Comes Out to their perspective HoH partner. It is difficult at first if the new HoH doesn't act and react as the new TiH imagined they would. It takes a lot of patience for the new TiH not to try and lead or even control the path the new HoH takes. After all, if the new TiH is dictating everything, who is really leading. It causes confusion when someone is asked to lead and then has no early leadership role. It's normal for the new HoH to take some time soak in all the new ideas.<br />
The new HoH also needs to be patient while understanding that their partner is excited about the new journey they are embarking on and will want to talk about the new DD aspects of the relationship often.<br />
One solution for the above mentioned scenario, and others similar to it, is the addition of Sit Down Discussions (SitDDs) early in the relationship. SitDDs have many purposes in a DD relationship. One purpose of initiating SitDDs early in the process is it can reduce the anxiety of wondering how and when to continue bringing up DD discussions. Of course passing conversation is still wonderful, but having two dedicated times a week to sit and discuss the DD areas of the relationship takes a lot of pressure off and begins a form of consistency which is highly important moving forward.<br />
Also, as hard as it may be, each person needs to patiently learn and live out their own role first. It's ok to suggest ideas for the other person, or show them some useful places to learn more, but not to excess. I have often heard and seen, as in the scenario above, the TiH envelops themselves into their role completely no matter what pace the new HoH is learning. This process can take a lot of patience, but it seems to work well. This usually brings the HoH around more quickly to seeing the benefits of this new relationship style. Much more quickly then the new HoH feeling like they have no leadership role yet, or are being constantly dictated to about who they are suppose to be and how they are suppose to act.<br />
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<b><span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Patience is also a Key to DD for those who are Single and seeking: </span></b><br />
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When someone single finds and begins researching what a DD relationship can be for them in the future, it can be both enlightening and frustrating. Enlightening because they no longer feel alone in their thoughts about this kind of relationship dynamic and frustrated because because their alone. I know, it's an odd dichotomy. Often they want to rush out and try this lifestyle dynamic right away. It's just as important for someone single to be patient and take their time in researching and learning about Domestic Discipline. I receive a very large volume of mail from all the different ADDS groups and this site. One of the questions I often receive is where can I find a partner. More specifically that they are new and also seeking a partner. Either way the first thing I try and express is a need to be patient and safe. Learn how to reach out and communicate in the lifestyle first. Research what it is that brought you to this particular area of the lifestyle and begin researching everything. That takes patience.<br />
It happens all to often when someone begins to learn about DD and then is crushed when the first person they meet that seems to be their DD Match, is actually someone who is just telling them what they wanted to hear, but was not a real HoH or TiH. Standing back up, dusting one's self off and recommitting to learning more and researching further takes even more patience. The more knowledge a person has the more safe they become and the more easily they can see though someone who isn't exactly telling the truth about being interested in the same things. Patiently taking time to learn about a real life Domestic Discipline relationship will actually save time finding a partner who is really a HoH or TiH or at least interested to learn about Domestic Discipline and the roles of being a HoH or TiH.<br />
From some of my younger friends and those that write, it seems like they are waiting to find a partner first, then start working on the DD part of things. Personally I think that's putting the cart before the horse. While there are many married couples who discover the DD relationship choice long after they are married and one Comes Out to the other and they live DD happily ever after, there are also many people who never are able to comfortably Come Out, or Come Out and their partner who is just not into DD at all. DD is definitely not for everyone. So, I would highly suggest that a single person patiently learn everything they can and diligently seek a DD Match for the future. Accept nothing less then what you truly need in your life. <br />
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In years of studying how people research and begin a DD relationship, I can honestly share that those who begin with, or learn how to begin with, a solid DD relationship foundation built on open communication and honesty have the highest rate of success into the future.<br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><u><span style="color: #990000;">Related reading and research</span></u></b><br />
<b style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><br /></b><b style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><i style="color: #333333;">Where to Start: Beginning your DD Lifestyle Together</i><span style="color: #333333;"> ></span><u><span style="color: blue;"> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Where%20to%20Start%20or%20Revitalize%20your%20DD%20Lifestyle%20Relationship%20Dynamic" style="text-decoration: none;">ADDS Free DD Lifestyle Guide</a></span></u></b><br />
<b style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: blue; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/coming-out-about-spanking-and-revealing.html">Coming Out about Spanking & Domestic Discipline Desires</a></span></b><br />
<span style="color: blue; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/How%20to%20Start%20DD%20Research">How to Start DD Research (Series)</a></b></span><br />
<b style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/domestic-discipline-marriage-beginning.html"><span style="color: blue; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Domestic Discipline Marriage: Beginning A Domestic Discipline Marriage </span></a></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">This article is the latest in a continuing series titled: </b><b style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Keys%20to%20a%20Domestic%20Discipline%20Relationship" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">KEYS to a Domestic Discipline Relationship</a>. </b><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><i>All of these below also make excellent SitDD topics.</i></span><br />
<b style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: #333333;">1) </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/11/domestic-discipline-communication-is.html" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: blue;">Communication is a Key to DD</span></a></b><br />
<b style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">2) </b><b style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/11/domestic-discipline-honesty.html" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: blue;">Domestic Discipline Honesty</span></a></b><br />
<b style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;">3)</b><b style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: blue;"> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/09/domestic-discipline-confession.html" style="text-decoration: none;">Domestic Discipline Confession</a></span></b><br />
<b style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="color: #333333;">4) </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/09/domestic-discipline-aftercare.html" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: blue;">Domestic Discipline Aftercare</span></a></b><br />
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<b>6) <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/02/domestic-discipline-relationship.html">Domestic Discipline Relationship Characteristics: Ethics are a Key to DD</a></b><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><a href="http://kerrilynscott.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Dancing with Drama and Discipline</a> - </b></span>Finding you, my other DD friends, has enabled me to keep his expectations as well as my own, in perspective!<br />
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<a href="http://dandlblog.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Discipline & Love Blog</span></b></a> - T<span style="line-height: 17px;">he blog page for the</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 17px;"> </span><span style="line-height: 17px;">'DISCIPLINE & LOVE' </span></span><span style="line-height: 17px;">discussion forums</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span><br />
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<a href="http://www.lovingdomesticdiscipline.net/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Firm & Loving Domestic Discipline</span></b></a> - A blog about a real life couple in adult loving domestic discipline<br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://guidemegently.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">Guide Me Gently</a><b> </b>- </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">"This is our Journey, Its not easy when your used to getting your way and someone says "NO MORE. </span><br />
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<a href="http://hisbratundercontrol.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Her Desire, His Rules</span></b></a> - Just an ordinary southern gal in a wonderful DD relationship with my loving husband!<br />
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MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-20302383038467668092013-09-08T05:45:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:24:33.106-07:00Domestic Discipline and Coming Out about Spanking <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/08/domestic-discipline-spanking.html" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3uk96ZdPmGHbSVP1Hv0VKDjEMGqmdTFt_s2ZYey1ZytE1CSpxB7WoTxsrqHhETM0w2_D2v-CBY2B-j25gGnVoER-bg8UI2-uia6mEVLPMuesLRT8fysnBUFb5XB194gZKJ5ln1dh2mwuN/s200/door+open.jpg" width="189" /></a><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"></span></b><br />
<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Domestic Discipline style Coming Out and DD needs & desires. Are you still wondering? Still researching? Still waiting to to come out? Do you have ideas about telling your significant other? A Domestic Discipline Society continues to research and investigate the most proven ways to help someone Come Out about their DD relationship needs.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: inherit;">I enjoy looking up and researching articles from the history of our Domestic Discipline community. There are archives for all websites and blogs available if you know where and how to investigate. Vicki Blue is one of the first of only a few DD bloggers back in the early 2000s. I remember reading the site and also recommending the site to </span>friends and<span style="font-family: inherit;"> people I was </span>teaching<span style="font-family: inherit;">. I found it interesting rereading this piece again </span>because<span style="font-family: inherit;"> back then it was </span>accepted by the majority<span style="font-family: inherit;"> that only men were HoHs & women the TiHs. It's like looking back in a time machine before A Domestic Discipline Society was introduced as a place to </span>bring<span style="font-family: inherit;"> everyone together.</span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><b>Please understand that the article below is written in 2000 so there are some older ideas presented along with ideas that still prevail today.</b></span><br />
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<b><i><span style="color: #330066;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><br /></span></span></i></b>
<b><i><span style="color: #330066;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Telling
Him: Broaching the Subject of Domestic Discipline to Your Partner</span></span></i></b><br />
<b><i><span style="color: #330066; font-family: "cooper md bt";">by Vicki Blue</span></i></b><br />
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<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">I guess I should consider myself
one of the lucky ones.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">As one of those fortunate
enough to find a dominant man who was the one to bring DD into my
life, I never had to go through the dilemma that garners the most request
for help on our mailing list. That dilemma is - in a nutshell - "How
do I tell my husband about DD and how do I get him to participate."</span><br />
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<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">It most households, it is
the women who are asking for this. I know that there are men seeking DD
relationships also, but for now we are looking at the woman's perspective.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">I think because it is the
interest in spanking that all of us share which starts the ball rolling,
it is some time before women realize that it isn't just spanking but something
deeper they want - a real disciplinary framework backed up by consequences.
For most women, they want those consequences to be spanking; there's just
something cathartic about it that is unlike having privileges taken away.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">Because of that, many people
seeking advice in the past on DD have been told to provoke or ask for
spanking, which is really bad advice. Unfortunately, because so many lists
don't deal with real DD they are often more "spankocentric".
The advice to approach the husband about the need for structure through
discipline and not just go in search of spankings from him is what women
new to this need to hear most of all.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">I've had heartbroken women
who had taken bad advice write me frantic, tearful emails saying, "I
finally got up the courage to tell my husband that I want to be spanked
and now he thinks I'm kinky. He just doesn't understand. It's not just
about that!"</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">Well, of course it's not just
about that, although even in a DD relationship erotic spanking has it's
place and can live side by side with disciplinary spankings.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">But for men, who often take
things at face value if his woman tells him that she wants to be spanked
then that is just what that means to him and he'll either think it a nice
new "spice" in the bedroom or will simply tell her he's not
interested in playing those kind of sexual games.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">So the woman - by being a
little but not completely honest - has saboutaged her first attempt to
introduce DD and she is devastated.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">Now I'd like to take a look
at what she should have done instead.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">While DD often <i>incorporates</i>
spanking, that is far from what it is all about. DD is about a loving
disciplinary framework worked out and agreed upon by <i>both</i> partners.
In this relationship, rules are laid out that both can live with from
a compliance and an enforcement standpoint. She has to feel comfortable
obeying them; he has to feel they are important enough to enforce. He
has to agree to follow through. She has to agree not to abuse her need
to feel boundaries by breaking them intentionally just to get punished.
This relationship shouldn't feel like a parent/child setting but a system
between two equals.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">So now that we know what DD
is, how should a woman ask for it.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">Well, first, it helps to have
already established a relationship with your man where you can tell him
your feelings and insecurities without the fear of reproach or ridicule.
You should be in a good relationship with a man whom you <i>respect</i>.
If the relationship is already rocky or the guy is an unethical
jackass, the last thing you want to do is implement a system where there
is a power imbalance. If your marriage isn't strong, shelve DD awhile
and work on the relationship. You can always try to implement it later.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">If you can talk to him, tell
him that you have a deep, unmet need for limits and guidelines. Tell him
that you feel secure living under the rules of loving authority. Reassure
him that you aren't looking for a daddy but more of a mentor figure who
will shepherd you within a loving framework.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">Give him time to absorb this.
Remember that in our politically correct culture, a male-dominated home
may seem almost like an alien concept. In the initial conversation you
may not even want to bring up the subject of rules or consequences.
Just let him know about your needs. Answer any questions he has as honestly
as you can.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">If he does understand and
- best case scenario - this appeals to him then you will want to start
brainstorming <i>together </i>about a possible rules and consequences.
At this point you could bring up spanking. He may embrace the idea or
he may really shy away from it because men are told they shouldn't hit
women. It's a good idea at this point to let him in on what you already
know, which is that quite a few principled men and women are living in
arrangements where spanking and other consequences are used quite effectively.
Again, give him time to absorb what you have said. Surf the net together
and check out the web. If he's so inclined he should solicit advice from some
men who are already established as dominant partners in their relationship.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
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<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">If he is open to the idea
of DD, shower him with love and appreciation. If he is reluctant, be understanding
and patient. If he flat out refuses - worst case scenario - respect his
feelings and try to imagine how you would feel if he were trying to convince
you to discipline him. Some men are not interested in being a dominant
partner and as much as it hurts, if you are in a relationship to stay
then you must not push something on him that will bring him unhappiness.</span><br />
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<span style="color: #330066; font-family: inherit;">Building a DD relationship
is like building a house. It requires a good foundation of respect, understanding
and patience. If approached in a prudent manner dividends will pay off
in the long run and you will both have a household that is the richer
for it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">As you can probably see, there are many changes and still many commonalities that resound today. Coming Out about one's DD desires are still something people wrestle with. How to Come Out about DD is something everyone has some kind of opinion about. Do it right away? Wait and research? Just about any scenario that can be thought about is </span>brought<span style="font-family: inherit;"> up during these discussions.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Who Came Out to who and ... </span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">* How did You Come Out? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">* How did They Come Out?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><span style="color: red;">*</span> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/coming-out-about-spanking-and-revealing.html">Coming Out about Spanking & Domestic Discipline Desires</a></b></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/11/domestic-discipline-and-new-york-times.html">Domestic Discipline and a New York Times Article</a></b></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/defining-domestic-discipline-lifestyle.html">Defining Domestic Discipline: Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Definition </a></b></span><br />
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<b><br /></b><b><span style="color: #073763;">The idea of either using or not using a Mentor in the DD area of the lifestyle is becoming a polarizing topic of discussion. Some decide to seek a Mentor, others don't, that's of course completely up to each individual and couple. For those who do decide to seek a DD Mentor, just as in other areas of the general lifestyle community, finding a Mentor is something that needs to be investigated thoroughly. Mentors are not what they once were and many are calling themselves Mentors who have little or no real life experience.</span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #073763;">In the area of Domestic Discipline there are now people coming in who then try and Mentor others while they themselves are just beginning to learn. Or they have some background in an area of the lifestyle community outside of DD, but are relatively new to DD. They may be very nice people who are only trying to be helpful. They may just have the type of personality that is used to giving advice in other areas of their life and don't know that they might be accidentally misleading someone and making another person's journey along the path of a successful DD relationship more difficult. And then there's those who will try purposely present themselves as a Mentor for selfish reasons, have ulterior motives, or much worse.</span></b><br />
<b><br /></b><b><i><span style="color: #660000;">How does a person actually know who is experienced or not while they themselves are brand new?</span></i></b><br />
<b>Imagine you're a brand new employee on your first day on the job. No one expects you to know everything and in many cases you know very little of what is needed to carry out your job on a daily basis. No one expects that you know everything and you begin learning what you need to know. Often you are assigned a person to help or Mentor you. If that person is touchy, tries to get you to give them money for their advice, tries to control you outside of the information you need, or is harassing you, you can go to your supervisor and there are also federal guidelines to safeguard you.</b><br />
<b><br /></b><b>When you first endeavor to step into the lifestyle community in any area, you don't have those safeguards.</b><br />
<b>* Where and how should a person begin looking for the information they need?</b><br />
<b>* How do you begin to research something so new without knowing exactly who to ask safely?</b><br />
<b>* How do you personally stay safe and also safeguard your personal information?</b><br />
<b>* Why would someone say they are a Mentor, yet they want to Discipline, control, have sex etc?</b><br />
<b>* Personally I'm not saying you should, but if you choose to seek a Mentor, what information should you ask for, what qualities should they posses or not posses and what questions should you avoid answering early on while seeking a DD Mentor?</b><br />
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<i><span style="color: #990000;"><b>Research and gather information safely. Patience while researching leads to knowledge. Knowledge can lead you safely to all the benefits this lifestyle choice has to offer. </b></span></i><br />
<b><br /></b><b>Since this is a week of discussions about Domestic Discipline Information, Research and DD Mentoring, I would be remiss if I didn't mention the DD Research Series. It's a four part series focused on what is discussed in this article and much more. It's unique to ADDS, nicely in depth and has become very popular... especially Part 1 & 4 but take special note of Part 3 for this weeks Community SitDD and DD Topic of the Week.</b><br />
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<b><span style="color: red;">*</span> 1)</b> <b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/03/how-to-domestic-discipline-what-is-domestic-discipline-start-beginning-domestic-discipline.html">How to Start Domestic Discipline Research: What is DD to Me Resource & Eliminating Confusion</a> </span></b><br />
<b><br /></b><b>2)</b> <b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/03/domestic-discipline-lifestyle-how-to-start-beginning-dd.html">Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Research: How to Start Reaching Out & Communicating Online</a></span></b><br />
<b><br /></b><b>3)</b> <b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/03/domestic-discipline-lifestyle-mentor-how-to-domestic-discipline-research.html">Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Mentor: How to Seek a DD Mentor</a></span></b><br />
<b><br /></b><b>4)</b> <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/04/taken-in-hand-head-of-household-tih-hoh-role-domestic-discipline.html">Taken in Hand View of Head of Household Role ~ One TiHs View of HoH Role</a></b></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">(4 has become extremely popular & a classic DD article </span>because<span style="font-family: inherit;"> friends and partners are sharing!)</span><br />
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<b>These are just some of the questions and ideas that are being discussed this week in The DD Community Chat Room.</b><br />
The Sunday Community Sit Down Discussion begins at 10am US EST / 3pm London time each week.<br />
<b>The Sunday Community Sit Down Discussion topic can also be brought up all through the week as the DD Topic of the Week.</b><br />
<b>Never been to The DD Chat Room? What are you waiting for, begin here > <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/05/domestic-discipline-chat-room-dd-chat-room-forum.html">General Information & Overview of The DD Chat Room</a></b><br />
<b>Otherwise > <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/p/the-dd-community-chatroom-is-open-to.html">The Information, Rules, Password & Entry Page</a></b>MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-30642986801119428992013-08-25T03:52:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:23:34.606-07:00Domestic Discipline Black Wednesday: DD and the Media after June 19th <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRTV5CDIpwyv229Ws_V83W4YtW1ul4TNcdXvAUzAcyoypAldSXN9YbGyE4p0XJe_RWUkdna0EtuYslkDhTvjkGEKhEJM5xTJyKHyDpg0Ygb21mfJIDboAFu5Iozw2xo4cJ-h7c8EJerPJf/s1600/black+lamp+150x180+19kb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRTV5CDIpwyv229Ws_V83W4YtW1ul4TNcdXvAUzAcyoypAldSXN9YbGyE4p0XJe_RWUkdna0EtuYslkDhTvjkGEKhEJM5xTJyKHyDpg0Ygb21mfJIDboAFu5Iozw2xo4cJ-h7c8EJerPJf/s1600/black+lamp+150x180+19kb.jpg" /></a><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: red;">UPDATED Info & Links!</span> <b>Domestic Discipline as a lifestyle has come under a smear </b></span><b>campaign<span style="font-family: inherit;"> filled with misinformation and fabrication. </span>June 19th is DD Black Wednesday and the worst day in Domestic Discipline history.<span style="font-family: inherit;"> It is on that day that all the negativity in the media began and </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">continues. This can easily be seen by everyone </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">around for more then a couple years who are aware of the celebrations and difficulties this community has been through over many </span>years<span style="font-family: inherit;">. It can be proven through a retrospective of the past and what has happened since June 19th.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: inherit;">People in the Domestic Discipline community know that I read everything I can find on the subject of Domestic Discipline including articles, discussion groups, blogs, sites etc... and I have for years. I investigate and research all areas of the DD lifestyle dynamic. I believe it's because of that, that ADDS has been </span>receiving<span style="font-family: inherit;"> a very heavy high volume of emails from people concerned for our community. I understand this and appreciate the emails and I agree with all of you. Something happened on June 19th that has set our community back at least 15+ years. There is no denying that a brand new "cub" reporter wrote a post for a tabloid online site, a relatively inexperienced interviewee fell prey to the reporter and has done almost nothing to turn that around. They came out and said that the post was 99% fabricated. So, why didn't they call the reporter and the tabloid and demand a retraction or to have the post taken down the same day it went up? They didn't do anything, and that raised many questions as to why they wouldn't. I wanted to, and tried to come out in support of the interviewee but they have completely dropped the ball and are acting as if the article was nothing more then a way to advertise for their business of selling DD, from one couples perspective, to newcomers. Sadly the newcomers don't know yet that everything being sold is already found free online or by simply emailing experienced people or coming into a place like <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/05/domestic-discipline-chat-room-dd-chat-room-forum.html">The Domestic Discipline Community Chat Room</a>. </span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><b>This article is not meant to be about the interviewee, but I wanted to update readers as to what has been happening since the articles <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/06/spanking-for-jesus-news-domestic-discipline.html">Spanking for Jesus is a hoax: The Reality of Domestic Discipline</a> and <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/07/defending-domestic-discipline-i-love-my-dd-choice.html">Defending Domestic Discipline: I Love my DD choice</a>. </b></span><br />
<b><span style="font-family: inherit;">Some know that the interviewee and the readership of ADDS have some very </span>ingrained<span style="font-family: inherit;"> differences, but I made a concerted effort several </span>months<span style="font-family: inherit;"> ago to bury the hatchet and agree to disagree on selling DD vs free altruistic information and how to begin a DD relationship dynamic from mutual </span>Consent,<span style="font-family: inherit;"> Communication, Honesty and focusing on the relationship first vs spanking weekends, spanking </span>positions<span style="font-family: inherit;">, </span>implements,<span style="font-family: inherit;"> 20 rules for a HoH to impose on a TiH etc etc etc... I forgave them for their part in a misunderstanding, and apologized for listening to a couple gossips instead of contacting them earlier. That information is here> </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/05/domestic-discipline-forum-blog.html" style="font-family: inherit;">Domestic Discipline Community Forum: Open Discussion Days!</a><span style="font-family: inherit;"> I have happily moved forward and like that we're in more contact. But if something concerning the DD community arises, and I am being asked by the ADDS readership to report on it, I am going to be </span>straightforward, share the facts<span style="font-family: inherit;"> and tell the truth. That's a </span>responsibility to each one of you who come here and read these pages. I take that seriously and understand it's part<span style="font-family: inherit;"> of writing a DD </span>Homepage<span style="font-family: inherit;"> site that includes everything happening in and throughout the community.</span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">I was on </span>that<span style="font-family: inherit;"> forum recently and </span>wanted<span style="font-family: inherit;"> to be supportive of the owners who are embroiled in </span>controversy<span style="font-family: inherit;"> since their </span>involvement<span style="font-family: inherit;"> in the awful June 19th interview. The </span>people<span style="font-family: inherit;"> there are wonderful and many are friends of mine and many come into The DD Community Chat Room (TDDCCR) and email or Instant Message me </span>frequently.<span style="font-family: inherit;"> But, a couple people there were a little defensive and seemed unaware of what is happening outside of the forum. Since I was the one to bring up some information that the owners of the forum were either unaware of or decided not to bring up, some people there were actually unaware of DD being called a form of domestic violence. It was odd to say the least. And that's the main </span>reason<span style="font-family: inherit;"> I am writing this article. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">I read everything going on in the DD community and keep my eyes and ears open in many </span>different<span style="font-family: inherit;"> areas. I am constantly emailing, IMing, messaging and </span>communicating<span style="font-family: inherit;"> with people from all areas our community. I feel it's part of the responsibility of writing this News, Information and </span>Resource<span style="font-family: inherit;"> DD Homepage. But not everyone has the time and resources to read everywhere and find everything. So, outside of all those emailing/IMing etc, or discussing this subject occasionally in TDDCCR, I was wondering how many people didn't realize, or were still unaware of the negativity that is has happened and is currently happening in the media.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">In a comment on a forum run by the </span>interviewee<span style="font-family: inherit;"> of the June 19th </span>post,<span style="font-family: inherit;"> a question came up that I thought was important to answer. Below is an edited copy/paste. The original went beyond the pre and post June 19th focus of this article and the names has been changed. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>"Mami" commented and asked. >>> <span class="bbc_color" style="color: blue;">Is there really an outside community that is out to get us because we practice dd? I can imagine some being concerned about it possibly being abusive. From an outside perspective it has traits that could align with that thinking...but if someone spent any amount of time on the forums, they would find it simply is not true. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #660000;">Why does Mami feel like she can imagine DD has anything to do with abuse??? Where is she reading?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #660000;">Everything here on ADDS is focused on Consent, Communication and Patience. Even the first <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2009/08/domestic-discipline-society-overview.html">ADDS Overview</a> page on this blog that comes from the first opening page of the first ADDS discussion group in 2005, starts with consensuality. The first article titled <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/beginning-your-dd-lifestyle-together.html">Where to Start: Beginning your DD lifestyle Together</a> in the Free DD Lifestyle Guide begins with consensuality, communication and patience as a focus of the article. DD has never been connected to abuse before June 19th and has never aligned with "that thinking." But then it becomes more clear, Mami only mentions if anyone spent time on the forums, as if she doesn't read outside of the forum. </span><br />
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Mami, thank you for commenting. I will break it down and do my best to explain.<br />
Not sure if "<em>out to get us</em>" is correct. I'm surprised to find out people here don't know what's happening. But, Yes absolutely, there really is an outside world that is now targeting the DD community as abusive and that started because of Brandys libelous post and the interview within it. You may or may not have noticed unless you research outside of this one place, but the post on DB went viral and there is now a cornucopia of negative, false and misleading material out there that had never been there before.<br />
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Mami also stated in her comment:<span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span><span style="color: blue;">I consider this lifestyle to be a personal, private matter between me and my HoH... and I really couldn't care less what the rest of the world thinks about it. I think, BB that you personally can be a loud advocate for dd, but that everyone that agrees with or follows dd, does not have to be vocal. I mean what is to gain by having someone outside say, "ok...I get it"...or "you arent as weird as I thought, this makes sense", etc.? </span><br />
<span style="background-color: #e7eaef; font-family: "verdana" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 17.46875px;"><br /></span>You missed the point completely, thinking that the concern is for those who are <strong>not</strong> interested in this relationship choice or would not benefit from it. Just the opposite. We care enough to be vocal because there are always people interested in DD as a lifestyle choice that could highly benefit their lives and relationships. For every person who comes on to that false information and either looks no farther or might feel they are less normal for their feelings, that hurts just to think about and it's a failure for this community. That's something often expressed by new people arriving, that they were afraid they were not normal until they found all the positive people and information. I have seen that sentiment through the years and it's even on this forum. There are those who will start looking for information and come upon any or many of the articles that were part of the viral onslaught, or the uneducated info beyond the articles against DD started by Brandy's post and the libelous interview. If even one person or couple is turned away from a choice that could have benefited them, that's terrible. I hope we all care about the newer people and people who will be new in the future that could benefit from a DD way of life.<br />
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<strong>Do people here think it was just the Brandy post?</strong> That post was just the first that set off the viral attack that is all over the internet. It is there now and will always be there. Countless writers picked up the post and wrote piggy-back posts on all types of sites using the information Brandy put up and using our friends (interviewee)<br />
There was been a panel put together for an online video interview focused on DD as abuse on HPost where Brandy was seated as the expert on DD!!! How nuts is that! It was so negative and based on Brandys information which she said comes from (interviewee), and others! I questioned Brandy about the "others" and why (interviewee) was the only ones quoted in the way they were... Brandy could not answer.<br />
There was a FOX NEWS Radio interview where the interviewer pressed the couple being interviewed and it didn't turn out well. This has gone beyond online or just one post on one site.<br />
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When national or online interviews or articles are presented about domestic violence or domestic abuse, they of course bring a very high volume of interested people because as I hope we all agree, domestic abuse of any kind is sickening and a very real problem. Presenting DD and the people who agree with a DD relationship as either wife beaters or scared, timid partners does effect our community and the people who care about this community and those looking for information into the future.<br />
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<b>In the past, NO misinformation linking DD to abuse. Since the Brandy interview using (interviewee)... too many to count.</b><br />
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The problem arises because it looks like the interviewee is speaking for the entire CDD community which is part of the DD community. And, Brandy says she has irrefutable proof that the interviewee gave the "Spanking for Jesus" interview exactly as it appears on the Beast interview. I personally contacted and questioned Brandy because I am an advocate for real and truthful DD info and I saw inconsistencies and uneducated information. I won't go into details here, anyone who has been aware of everything going on outside of this forum already knows all this.<br />
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I am mentioning this here because I haven't seen <strong>any</strong> details of this information shared on this forum before. So I understand if people thought this was something between myself and the interviewee. It's not about myself and them at all. All the pain and damage now and into the future is not from just one post by Brandy either. Go outside this one forum, read what's on the past three articles on A Domestic Discipline Society, and the links on one of those articles, and then the post about how the interviewee and I began moving past a past our misunderstanding from last year. <a class="bbc_link" href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/05/domestic-discipline-forum-blog.html" target="_blank">http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/05/domestic-discipline-forum-blog.html</a><br />
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<strong>We are now and always have been one DD community.</strong><br />
I would hope that we all care about more then just ourselves, one couple or one site and extend our care to those who will be seeking the same information everyone else has found. That's you! <img alt=":)" class="smiley" src="http://learningdd.com/forum/Smileys/default/smiley.gif" title="Smiley" /><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">That was from the end of July. Here's some more information about pre & post June 19th.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">* If you Goggle/search for domestic discipline information, there is an overwhelming number of negative and horribly unresearched posts across many sites calling DD abusive.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">That was NEVER there before June 19th. There had only been an </span>occasional<span style="font-family: inherit;"> post where </span>someone<span style="font-family: inherit;"> just found information about DD and they had questions about it. But NOTHING like the posts connecting all DD to domestic violence and criminal behavior!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">* If you Google/search for </span>Christian<span style="font-family: inherit;"> Domestic Discipline information there is more horribly negative posts then </span>positive<span style="font-family: inherit;"> ones that show up on the first 8 to 10 pages. That was NEVER like that before June 19th!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">* When you Google for domestic discipline information, there's a drop down box that appears as a quick link to a related topics. It used to have topics like the word "marriage" placed at the end of the words domestic discipline. NOW, there is a "domestic discipline is abuse" as one of the choices that appears. That was NEVER there before June 19th!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">That's the information that is now there that has NEVER been there before June 19th! That's the information that new people are now coming across while just trying to find about the reality of what Domestic Discipline is all about. Domestic Discipline has always been about consent first and </span>foremost<span style="font-family: inherit;">, but that's being muddled by all the misguided and false DD is abuse posts.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">* On Twitter: There has never been negative Domestic Discipline comments and never ever one using a domestic discipline hash tag. Heck, I was the first one to ever use a domestic discipline hash tag several years ago! When I re-activated my Twitter account last September, I was so happy to see a lot of people using a domestic discipline hash tag, and all the info was wonderful and varied. Nothing negative there at all.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Recently tweets stating things like: "God doesn't say to spank anyone" and "Where in the bible does it say you should spank your spouse!" and there were several others to that same ilk. That NEVER happened before June 19th!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">* I have been contacted 8 times in the past weeks to do interviews and 2 radio broadcasts. I researched each one and all were about mixing religion with Domestic Discipline and if spanking a spouse is abusive or not. I turned each one down and did my best to share some reality of what Domestic Discipline was about. None of them wanted to hear anything about Domestic Discipline being consensual and about communication and the relationship. </span>They<span style="font-family: inherit;"> all wanted sensationalism over </span>journalism<span style="font-family: inherit;">! Then I was contacted by a woman named Sarah who is an intern for a radio broadcaster in Canada. I emailed back and forth with her several times and investigated the broadcaster and station etc. Everything looked alright and we confirmed an interview time and date. Two days later she contacted me. Apparently since I would not identify as someone who comes from the Christian Domestic Discipline area of Domestic Discipline... they were going to go with someone else who would. They admitted it was someone with little experience compared to </span>myself, and she was kind while explaining that she wanted to go with my experience and appreciated that the information I shared was helpful in her hurried research for the interview.<span style="font-family: inherit;"> I told them I wouldn't lie and say I was CDD just to do an interview. I asked if there was any other reason, because I can speak about and explain the CDD area of DD with distinct clarity. She honestly replied, that after showing the broadcaster all the information I provided and the ADDS site... he said he wanted someone else, someone he could manipulate into getting what he wanted out the interview. What was sad is, it was the first potential interview that seemed to want to hear about the reality of Domestic Discipline.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">When I and people in the DD community who have benefitted from a consensual relationship dynamic our whole adult lives, are now being called wife beaters and abusive, it's hard to see any kind of silver lining there. Criminal domestic violence has touched my life from a young age. I am passionate about this because I have seen the horrible effects of domestic violence on more then one family. I was personally blessed with a loving home, but witnessed up close that isn't always that way it is in every home. I have also lived a consensual loving relationship style of DD. I can't see any benefit connecting these two completely separate worlds in any way. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">DD is now being called a cover for those who are abusive, so those reading that who are actually abusive individuals will be gravitating toward DD when they never have before. Personally I feel that those individuals who have abusive tendencies are unhealthy and need professional help, and those who take it further and strike someone with malice, non consent or ill intent in their motives are criminals who need to be incarcerated. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">It's the people who would have been coming toward a respectful and consensual DD relationship style that are being pushed away when they read the overwhelming amount of unresearched and false information that is everywhere now. As usual, I've been in contact with so many people in the DD community through email and all the ADDS groups and we've been discussing this in the DD chat room. The general consensus so far is that many who read about DD for the first time as domestic violence, domestic abuse or any kind of criminal activity along those lines, are not thinking they want something like that in their lives and look no futher into adding it to their relationship. I don't blame them. I was appalled when I starting reading all the completely horrible false information that was being spread, and was deeply hurt that someone in our own community who was involved, did nothing to stop it. If all the information was fabricated, as it is being claimed, then one telephone call on the day the first post was released could have stopped all of this.</span><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: inherit;">Some out there along with myself are looking for anything positive that may come from all of these horrible times following Black Wednesday. A very well known and respected blogger, who writes the most well known Spanking blog on the planet, wrote and we had a wonderful email conversation that I highly appreciated. She made several points I agreed with, one of which is that in dark times like these we can try very hard to look for some kind of light at the end of the tunnel or a silver lining so to speak. I agree wholeheartedly.</span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: inherit;">We can't change the mistakes made by one or two people and can only look to changing the future for the people who will be seeking truthful information in the future. I couldn't agree more with the sentiments of not being able to change the past, and moving forward from where we are. To continue with that sentiment, I also believe when completely incorrect information is presented like what is in the media now, we can only change the future through sharing tolerant and caring truthful information based on the reality of our history and where we are in the present moment. While DD has always been based on consent first and foremost, it is presently being presented by the media as domestic violence and domestic abuse. It's also only being presented as a religious based, married only couples, led by an only male HoH who is controlling and punishing an only female spouse. And the female partner is being presented as meek and not an active participant in decision making and is someone who is trapped in a situation where they don't want to be a participant. Nothing that the media has taken from the June 19th article and everything prsented in the piggy back style posts since then could be farther from the truth. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">If the non consent and domestic abuse aspect is taken out, the rest is a throwback to 15+ years ago. There have been positive and dramatic changes through the years. DD was called many things before the mid 1990s that were more regionally based. After Windows 95 everyone could afford to have a personal computer in their home. As we all know, it changed many things in the distribution of information including our general lifestyle, Spanking and DD communities. The terminology and acronym of Domestic Discipline & DD itself came from Christian Domestic Discipline and CDD. People who didn't want to entwine their religious beliefs with their relationship choice of DD far outnumber those who led a biblically or scripture based version of DD. And CDD became just one version of a Domestic Discipline lifestyle choice. (there's a lot more info based around this area of the DD history, but this is getting to be a long email so I'll skip ahead a bit, lol) In 2005 ADDS was started as a place where everyone could come together, everyone was accepted and it was where the ideas of "DD is individual to each couple" was born. Female led DD was accepted, male TiHs, same sex couples and those who where CDD... everyone was encouraged to seek commonalities vs look for differences.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">ok... so the reason I mention all of that, is because I wanted to share a tiny piece of the DD history and past from an advocate and insiders perspective. The present incorrect and harmful posts that fill peoples search pages now when they are seeking what DD and spanking relationships are about, are a step backward over 15 years. We have come so far from the old days when some people thought DD was what was being presented on the old LDD blog where it turned into a misogynistic and abusive male who humiliated and beat down a meek wife with oppressive top down rules and practices. Going back to that can't be an option, and the only way to move forward from where we are now is to continue sharing the openly tolerant, loving, caring and always consensual reality that... Domestic Discipline is Consensual and has nothing to do with the unresearched and inexperienced information that began June 19th.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: inherit;">IF, there is any kind of silver lining that might come from all of the info since Black Wednesday, it that there have been more conversations about what Consent is vs Non-Consent in a relationship, and we as a community are reaffirming our respectful, loving, </span><span style="color: #222222;">consensual</span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"> aspects within our </span>community<span style="font-family: inherit;"> and </span>relationships<span style="font-family: inherit;">. </span></span><br />
<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">The DD community in general is also looking more closely at the information they are </span>receiving, reading and researching. Experienced, free and altruistic information is at a premium and appreciated more now then ever.<span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></span></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxOWT-4Y2k-pI7roKEWH7dGDtU9seMMoQZrqUMAaoI3rLPbm8mWtchB-OL9odTxTGA0Dznocqc0jSDQMqJuDJrUigKw9UnhGE9u6r6LN0Aoxbwc91V8Iz3KHCgoQnZhW2ZeIaQk81vF5zV/s1600/globe+table21+50x50+7kb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxOWT-4Y2k-pI7roKEWH7dGDtU9seMMoQZrqUMAaoI3rLPbm8mWtchB-OL9odTxTGA0Dznocqc0jSDQMqJuDJrUigKw9UnhGE9u6r6LN0Aoxbwc91V8Iz3KHCgoQnZhW2ZeIaQk81vF5zV/s1600/globe+table21+50x50+7kb.jpg" /></a><span style="font-family: inherit;">There is more information about what has been happening, and opinions on why it's happening, and where the ideas of abuse are coming from more recently are being shared.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Come join us in </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/05/domestic-discipline-chat-room-dd-chat-room-forum.html"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">The Domestic Discipline Community Chat Room</span></b></a><br />
for a conversation about <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "lucida sans unicode" , "lucida grande" , "lucida sans" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">"</span><b style="font-family: 'Lucida Sans Unicode', 'Lucida Grande', 'Lucida Sans', sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">Domestic Discipline & the Media</b><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "lucida sans unicode" , "lucida grande" , "lucida sans" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">" and other DD related topics.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; line-height: 20px;"><b><u><span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">"Must Read" Related Links:</span></u></b></span><br />
<span style="color: #660000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><u>* <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/06/spanking-for-jesus-news-domestic-discipline.html">Spanking Jesus is a hoax: The Reality of Domestic Discipline</a></u></b></span><br />
<span style="color: #660000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b>* <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/07/defending-domestic-discipline-i-love-my-dd-choice.html">Defending Domestic Discipline: I Love my DD choice</a></b></span><br />
<span style="color: #660000;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b>* <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/07/domestic-discipline-consensual-dd-loving.html">Domestic Discipline is Consensual: DD is Loving</a></b></span></span><br />
<span style="color: #660000; font-family: "georgia";"><span style="font-size: 14px;"><b><u><br style="background-color: white; line-height: 20px;" /></u></b></span></span><b style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">Recommended Reading, based on DD Consent & dating back years:</span></span></b><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">*</span> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/defining-domestic-discipline-lifestyle.html" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Definition</a></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/02/domestic-discipline-relationship.html" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Domestic Discipline Relationship Characteristics</a></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/10/characteristics-of-head-of-household-hoh.html" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Characteristic of a Head of Household (HoH)</a></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #660000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; line-height: 20px;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/02/domestic-discipline-valentines-day-of.html#more" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Domestic Discipline Appreciation & Reaffirmation</a></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/01/beginning-domestic-discipline-plan.html" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Beginning Domestic Discipline Plan & Process</a></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/01/what-is-christian-domestic-discipline.html" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">What is Christian Domestic Discipline? A CDD Description </a></span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; line-height: 20px;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/02/domestic-discipline-experienced-hohs.html" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Domestic Discipline: Experienced HoHs Perspective on DD Core Values & Home</a></span><br />
<a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/head-of-household-rules.html" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">HoH: Head of Household Rules</span></a><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; line-height: 20px;"> </span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">(part of Free Guide/ not a list but info on how to create rules consensually)</span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Beginning%20DD" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Beginning DD (Series)</a></b></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><b style="color: #660000; font-size: 14px;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Keys%20to%20a%20Domestic%20Discipline%20Relationship" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Keys to DD (Series)</a></b><b><br /></b><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Where%20to%20Start%20or%20Revitalize%20your%20DD%20Lifestyle%20Relationship%20Dynamic" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Free DD Lifestyle Guide (Series/Guide)</a></b></span></div>
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MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-17334142813034083492013-08-04T04:01:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:26:10.872-07:00Domestic Discipline is Consensual: DD is Loving<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5omqeUBeB92dCZXmT4iooaK2fDyTnbRBcZZtyTUo44zOzNDso0RXuq7o8JqHgBF6epGTt39vtksQcCspX2zFNhx23hLALFry4wkJk9W69tsdDGp-QqwWv5pn3UYA74Yv2pjRC7kcVQyjN/s1600/DD+Consensual+175x200+68kb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5omqeUBeB92dCZXmT4iooaK2fDyTnbRBcZZtyTUo44zOzNDso0RXuq7o8JqHgBF6epGTt39vtksQcCspX2zFNhx23hLALFry4wkJk9W69tsdDGp-QqwWv5pn3UYA74Yv2pjRC7kcVQyjN/s1600/DD+Consensual+175x200+68kb.jpg" /></a><b><span style="color: #073763;">In light of the recent difficulties that have been presented to the DD Community, it became evident that we as a community need to continue to seek out and present the truth of what a Domestic Discipline really IS vs what it is NOT. ADDS was built on sharing and exploring the commonalities of what DD is all about. We had no need to delve into asking if DD was abusive in any way because everyone knew that one of the most important aspect that defines DD is that DD is consensual. Because of a horrible article we now find it necessary to explore one area that DD is NOT. DD is NOT abusive in any way, or it is not DD.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #0b5394;">While waiting for more information about the aforementioned article, I continued researching and investigating the subject. I found an article on a blog called The Disciplined Feminist titled </span><a href="http://disciplinedfeminist.blogspot.com/2006/12/ldd-vs-abuse-comparison.html"><i><span style="color: blue;">DD vs Abuse -- A Comparison</span></i></a><span style="color: #0b5394;">. Succinctly titled, and I liked that it was written by a woman named Vivian in 2006. It's not a blog that's been updated often in the past couple years, but I contacted Vivian and she turns out to be a very nice person, who admittedly said she hadn't even thought about that post in a long time and wondered if it was still relevant.</span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #0b5394;">I assured her, more now then ever, her article was very relevant.</span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #0b5394;">I asked if I could share it with the DD community through the ADDS site and she warmly gave her permission. It is presented below in it's exact form.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">DD vs Abuse -- A Comparison</span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: x-small;">by Vivian of The Disciplined Feminist</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 85%;"><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Abuse is nonconsensual. Domestic Discipline (DD) is consensual.</span></span><span style="font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 85%;"><br /></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 85%;">Abuse comes from a place of rage and emotional sickness. DD comes from a place of love and respect.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: 85%;"><br /><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Abuse is about cutting off communication between two people. DD requires constant communication between partners.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Abuse
is about lack of self-control on the part of the abuser. DD requires a
high-degree of emotional control on the part of the disciplinarian.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Abuse
is initiated by the abuser and women do not ask to be abused. DD is
almost always initiated by the woman, who requests this lifestyle from
her partner as something she wants and needs.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Abuse
has no limits and is therefore life-threatening and dangerous. DD has
defined well-defined and negotiated limits that keep both parties safe
at all times.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Abuse can
occur anywhere, anytime on any part of a woman's body with any weapon.
DD occurs in private, and corporal discipline is confined to safe areas
of the body with safe, traditional disciplinary implements only.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "georgia";">After
an abusive episode, a woman feels terrified, exhausted and worthless.
After a DD disciplinary session, a woman generally feels safe, relaxed,
loving and empowered.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Abusers put on a "nice" face in public, but are cruel in private. Men in DD</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: 85%;"><span style="font-family: "georgia";"> </span></span><span style="font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 85%;">relationships are good men in public and in private and strive to treat their partners and others with respect at all times.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: 85%;"><br /><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Women in abusive relationships are afraid of their abusers. Women in DD relationships are not afraid of their partners.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Women
in abusive relationships are taught that they are worthless. Women in
DD relationships are taught they they are precious, worth loving and
important.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Women in
abusive relationships "obey" their partners out of fear of abuse. Women
in DD relationships "obey" their partners out of a genuine love and
respect.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Women in
abusive relationships suffer from low self-esteem and lack of
confidence. Women in DD relationships seem to experience an unusually
high level of self-esteem and confidence.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 85%;"><br />Abusers
will not stop the abuse if it causes trauma. Men in DD relationships
will immediately stop any discipline if there is evidence of traumatic
reaction.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 85%;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: 85%;"><span style="font-family: "georgia";">Women
in abusive relationships become increasingly more helpless. Women in DD
relationships usually become increasingly empowered.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: 85%;"><span style="font-family: "georgia";"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 85%; font-weight: bold;">Abuse
flourishes ONLY in the absence of love, trust and respect, while DD is a
choice that can only be made out of love, trust and mutual respect.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: "georgia";"><b><span style="font-size: 85%;">Domestic Discipline is consensual or it is not a DD relationship. It's that simple. It starts out as consensual and remains consensual at all times. People who include a DD dynamic in their relationship </span><span style="font-size: 14px;">abhor abuse in any form. I believe this may be because we </span><span style="font-size: 85%;"> are more aware to NOT cross any line or boundary. We study what is consensual. We talk to our DD friends and seek out information and make sure our relationships stay </span><span style="font-size: 14px;">within</span><span style="font-size: 85%;"> the consensuality they were built upon. </span></b></span><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: "georgia";"><b><span style="font-size: 85%;">One of the important </span><span style="font-size: 14px;">aspects</span><span style="font-size: 85%;"> of starting out consensually is that the TiH partner is the first one to bring up a goal that they ask their HoH for help in obtaining. There might be more then one objective or </span><span style="font-size: 14px;">goal</span><span style="font-size: 85%;"> that the couple discusses, but it's important to note that working on consensuality and communication are vital especially for beginners.</span></b></span><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: "georgia";"><span style="font-size: 85%;"><b>You'll find an article on the ADDS blog called <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/beginning-your-dd-lifestyle-together.html">Where to Start: Beginning your DD Lifestyle Together</a>, it's the first one after the <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2009/08/domestic-discipline-society-overview.html">ADDS Overview & Links</a>, and it's the first one in the <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Where%20to%20Start%20or%20Revitalize%20your%20DD%20Lifestyle%20Relationship%20Dynamic">Free DD Lifestyle Guide</a>. It also happens to be something written years ago and can be found on all the ADDS discussion groups since the time it was written dating back years. It has only been updated a few times since then, but one thing has never changed, DD needs to begin patiently from consensuality. </b></span></span><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia";"><span style="font-size: 85%;">In the "Where to Start"</span></span><span style="font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 14px;"> </span><span style="font-family: "georgia";"><span style="font-size: 85%;"> article, you'll find that it's the TiH who brings forth the first goals that they would like to </span><span style="font-size: 14px;">personally</span><span style="font-size: 85%;"> achieve. It clearly states that it is ill </span><span style="font-size: 14px;">advised</span><span style="font-size: 85%;"> to start with some list of rules from the HoH in order to fix a broken partner. The inexperienced advice that comes from t</span></span><span style="font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 14px;">hings like, how to spank your partner, lists of rules, implements, spanking positions, punishment, dominance, a spanking weekend to kick it off, etc etc etc... will inevitably leave a couple in a place of frustration and </span><span style="font-family: "georgia";"><span style="font-size: 14px;">inconsistency.</span></span></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: "georgia";"><b><span style="font-size: 85%;">The structure that DD begins with the TiH bringing forth the first goal and the </span><span style="font-size: 14px;">couple</span><span style="font-size: 85%;"> using communication, negotiation and patience to </span><span style="font-size: 14px;">achieve</span><span style="font-size: 85%;"> </span><span style="font-size: 14px;">consistency</span><span style="font-size: 85%;"> and consensuality has been lost somewhere along the way. DD is more about relationship structure and accountability then <i>spanking</i>, but those ideals seem to have been lost too.</span></b></span><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: "georgia";"><b><span style="font-size: 85%;">In my experienced opinion, if we don't get back to what DD has always been, our community will remain open to uneducated </span><span style="font-size: 14px;">ridicule</span><span style="font-size: 85%;"> and accusations like the ones we have seen recently.</span></b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia";"><b><span style="font-size: 85%;"><span style="color: red;">UPDATE: There is a Community DD Discussion going on this week in The DD Chat Room!</span><span style="color: #0b5394;"> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/p/the-dd-community-chatroom-is-open-to.html">The DD Community Chatroom (Rules/Entry/Password Page)</a></span></span></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #660000; font-family: "georgia";"><span style="font-size: 14px;"><b><u>Related Reading Links:</u></b></span></span><br />
<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">*</span> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/defining-domestic-discipline-lifestyle.html" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;">Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Definition</a></span></b><br />
<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">*</span> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/02/domestic-discipline-relationship.html" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;">Domestic Discipline Relationship Characteristics</a></span></b><br />
<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/10/characteristics-of-head-of-household-hoh.html">Characteristic of a Head of Household (HoH)</a></span></b><br />
<span style="color: #660000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px;"><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/02/domestic-discipline-valentines-day-of.html#more">Domestic Discipline Appreciation & Reaffirmation</a></b></span></span><br />
<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/01/beginning-domestic-discipline-plan.html" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;">Beginning Domestic Discipline Plan & Process</a></span></b><br />
<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/01/what-is-christian-domestic-discipline.html">What is Christian Domestic Discipline? A CDD Description </a></span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/02/domestic-discipline-experienced-hohs.html">Domestic Discipline: Experienced HoHs Perspective on DD Core Values & Home</a></span><br />
<a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/head-of-household-rules.html"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">HoH: Head of Household Rules</span></a><b> </b><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: x-small; font-weight: bold;">(part of Free Guide/ not a list but info on how to create rules consensually)</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Beginning%20DD" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;">Beginning DD (Series)</a></b></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b style="color: #660000; font-size: 14px;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Keys%20to%20a%20Domestic%20Discipline%20Relationship">Keys to DD (Series)</a></b><b><br /></b><b><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/Where%20to%20Start%20or%20Revitalize%20your%20DD%20Lifestyle%20Relationship%20Dynamic" style="background-color: white; color: #0b3b6a; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: none;">Free DD Lifestyle Guide (Series/Guide)</a></b></span>MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-31403214379834455782013-07-27T02:34:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:26:56.753-07:00Defending Domestic Discipline: I Love my DD choice<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGuoKK_gcTiSHp78QSghzK2QFOtFcawNmW56-E2naYVSLqNSJB-JqjzlaUBa6Jr00DKBpKp_PSQCjAAT26Sl8-dxjcfrAqBKiqWjBrSLJuuS8yWM0FTuZBtdTXgIGBrxkiOCiltKNJQSR8/s1600/heart+1+200x190+57kb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGuoKK_gcTiSHp78QSghzK2QFOtFcawNmW56-E2naYVSLqNSJB-JqjzlaUBa6Jr00DKBpKp_PSQCjAAT26Sl8-dxjcfrAqBKiqWjBrSLJuuS8yWM0FTuZBtdTXgIGBrxkiOCiltKNJQSR8/s1600/heart+1+200x190+57kb.jpg" /></a><b><span style="color: #990000;">Defending Domestic Discipline from the ignorance & intolerance of people like Brandy Zadrozny. Recently a horrible interview was conducted that went insanely viral, spreading misleading and completely misguided information. The ignorance, intolerance and lack of research is disturbing. None of the so called "reporters" did any research and each one basically copy/pasted what the last one wrote instead of doing any investigation or reporting of their own.</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">I love reporters. I love the reporters that do investigative research and report with journalistic integrity. Those are the people seeking tirelessly for the truth, and refuse to publish or present anything until they share all sides of an issue and get the story right. Sadly there are people who have agendas and pretend to be reporting when in reality all they're doing is attacking or promoting their one sided and uneducated opinion on a subject. In <i>my </i>opinion, this is like a time long ago when narrow minded people oppressed others because of the color of their skin, sexual preference, financial standing or anything they deemed different then them. <i>Intolerance is ignorance.</i> </span></b><br />
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<b>I don't live what I consider a CDD style of DD. I am a Christian man and I have been living a DD style of a life for about 30 years. But my religious ideologies and my relationship choice are separate entities in my life.<span style="color: #990000;"> </span></b><br />
<b>Personally I also enjoy investigating and researching. I believe in sharing correct information. A Domestic Discipline Society was founded at a time when there was a lot of confusion and misinformation about what the DD lifestyle dynamic was all about. ADDS has always been a place where clarity could be found through experienced education and sharing knowledge between members. This site is one part of the ADDS ensemble of discussion groups and online spaces that are not motivated by money and doesn't care about publicity or "hits" to this site. You will always find correct and useful information and the truth about the DD lifestyle dynamic in a free and open manner.</b><br />
<b>People in our community shy away from calling themselves an expert on the subject. It's common knowledge in our community that I have lived this style of life my whole adult life, helped people learn about DD for the past 25 years, been doing an in depth study on how to properly begin and sustain this lifestyle dynamic for the past 15 years, founded A Domestic Discipline Society in 2005 and nurtured it to collectively become the largest and most active DD community in the world. So, I don't shy away from saying I do have some expertise in this area.</b><br />
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That's why, when I read a post published on June 19th by Brandy Zadrozny, I was saddened that she didn't do any real research. She contacted me on June 13th to ask me for an interview and claimed to be a reporter for Newsweek. So, as usual, I did some research of my own. I searched her name on the official Newsweek site and under her name she is listed a reporter for an online tabloid, and is not listed directly, as many reputable reporters are, as a reporter for Newsweek. When someone contacts me and the first thing they do is lie or stretch the truth about being a reporter for a respected news source, but turn out to be nothing more then a brand new writer for an online tabloid, that's not only a red flag, it's fraud. Right from the start things looked wrong. Brandy got her brand new and first job as a reporter in May. Congrats on your new job Brandy, but you're not a reporter until after you've reported on something meaningful. At the time you contacted me you had only recently posted your first article about Low Cal Summer Cocktails. Not quite the shock value she was looking for or it might have been called Cocktails for Jesus! So her second endeavor is to report on Domestic Discipline. And she decided to wrap Christianity into it and try to manipulate it so all Christian men who live in a consensual lifestyle called DD are wife beaters? And women are meek and trapped against their will? Reporting on an entire relationship dynamic that is part of a large Domestic Discipline community and is lived so differently by so many people is a large mountain to climb! But within a couple days she thought she had it all figured out. So she stole from a title used last February as the title of an article on another site's English affiliate that included "Spanking in the Name of the Lord" as part of the title... well that looks familiar. You're not very original are you Brandy. Or wait, maybe this wasn't a post about CDD, maybe she needed the Christian angle and CDD as hype to publicize an article degrading Christianity and christian men as wife beaters. She goes so far left of reality in her post and tries to be degrading to the couple she interviewed, even mocking a young woman's voice, that it became evident she had an agenda before she began writing.<br />
She appeared on a video interview a few days after the post was published, and admitted she already had thought DD was abuse before she published her piece. And everyone involved was "bananas" Not sounding like much of a journalist with an open mind Brandy. You went into the project manipulating information to fit your personal agenda. You have lost all journalistic integrity and make other reporters on the staff where you now work, suspect. And your editor completely lost all credibility with you.<br />
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Brandy falsely reports, "<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">You don’t have to be a Christian to practice domestic discipline, although many of its practitioners say they believe that domestic discipline goes hand in hand with their faith." </span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">Starts out alright, then turns completely false. </span></span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">MOST people who live a Domestic Discipline lifestyle do NOT entwine their religious views into their relationship choice.</span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">Again, if there were any research done that would have been clearly evident</span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">The "expert" she used is a forensic psychologist who evaluates and treats sexual psychopaths. What the heck? How far left of the truth did she have to go to manipulate this part of her opinion? A relationship </span></span><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">dynamic</span></span><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"> like DD is outside of the scope of practice for a forensic psychologist, and specifically one who works exclusively with sexual </span></span><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">psychopaths. Again, the writer would have known that with some research. She might as well have asked her local veterinarian to comment. It would be like asking the paperboy to be a media consultant!</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"><b>Brandy completely missed that DD is a widely varied relationship dynamic.</b> </span></span><br />
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From a little research, it was clear Brandy is not an experienced reporter. She not only had no experience, but now has no chance for credibility as a journalist. She goes on to report nothing about the reality of DD. There is zero information pertaining to the fact that there are many female led households or same sex relationships. That DD is not based on gender. DD of any kind is 100% consensual or it is not DD. Consent can be renegotiated or taken back if either partner does not agree it is 100% consensual, or for any reason.<br />
But any of that information in the post would have ruined her narrow and ignorant view. She would have lost all of her shock value, which was more important then the truth. <br />
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According to her public LinkedIn account, she starts out as a Teacher Librarian, goes on to be a data analyzer, and for the past two months lists herself not only as a reporter/researcher but in the Marketing and Advertising arena. So now it makes more sense. Marketing and advertising can be seen at times as pure hype and trying to sensationalize more then tell the truth. In this case it's bad self marketing and false advertising. She has no background on the subject and she did no real research into the relationship dynamic of DD. Sorry Brandy, happy you found a job in these hard times, but your second effort is a debacle based on speculation and your personal opinion Do you have an editor? Did they even look at this fabrication or do any research of their own? Or did they just print without checking for facts? You made the editor look like a fool.<br />
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I contacted Brandy when I began gathering information for this article. The line she used in her post on a tabloid website, that she turned into the shock title "Spanking for Jesus" was not a quote. I found that suspect, so I simply asked a yes or no question... Did she (the interviewee) actually say she lived DD for Jesus? Brandy replied, which I appreciate, but she completely skirted around the question and did not answer it.<br />
However, she did write,<br />
"<span style="background-color: white; color: #1f497d; font-family: "calibri" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"><i>I totally understand why (Interviewee) would be uncomfortable with the way the article was received and my conclusions, but the article was accurate</i>."</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "calibri" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"><b>My reply:</b></span><span style="color: #073763;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "calibri" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"> "</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"><i>You mention the post was accurate because of your conclusions, I would say you need information and research to make correct conclusions about a subject that you didn't know anything about only days before you published it. What you published is being seen as opinion and speculation at best. Reported in a way that would fit into preconceived notion for an article about domestic abuse.</i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #073763; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"><i>Personally I think reporting against domestic abuse is admirable. But DD is not domestic abuse on any level, and if you had only taken your time and researched that would have become evident".</i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"><i><span style="color: #222222;">She goes on to write: </span><span style="color: #0b5394;">"</span></i></span></span><span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: "calibri" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"><i>I’ve looked on your site as well and I make clear that there are lots of different ways to practice. Unfortunately I could not detail them all. The article was an accurate portrayal of the experiences of several people that I interviewed first hand</i>."</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "calibri" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"><b>My Reply started with one line from her post<span style="color: #1f497d;">:</span></b><span style="color: #1f497d;"> </span></span><span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: italic; line-height: 21px;">"</span><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">You don’t have to be a Christian to practice domestic discipline, although many of its practitioners say they believe that domestic discipline goes hand in hand with their faith</span><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">" </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"><i><b>I continued: <span style="color: #073763;">"</span></b><span style="color: #073763;">That's the only line that even mentioned DD outside of CDD, and you backtrack to an untrue statement that would have easily been discovered if you had done more then a couple of days of research. CDD is a fraction of the people who live a DD style of dynamic within their relationship. So "many" are the ones who do not include their religious beliefs as part of their relationship choice. And using a title like "Spanking for Jesus" definitely does not accurately portray the relationship choice. </span></i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #073763; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"><i>And if you talked to anyone else, I think there would have been more accurate information in the post and you would have mentioned them."</i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"><b>Since she was seeming to be diverting around the question, I asked again: </b></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #073763; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"><i>And you still avoided the question, Did (Interviewee) actually say she gets spanked for Jesus? Or they live DD for Jesus?</i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #073763; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"><i>You publicly put that in your post, and used that in your title so I don't know why you would skirt around that question now if you had real proof. It's an easy Yes or No.</i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"><b>I went on to reassure her:</b></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;"><i>"I'm not on one person's side or the other regarding the argument that you fabricated most of your article or not. I've been living this dynamic respectably and consensually for about 30 years and founded ADDS in 2005. The site has quickly become the Homepage for the DD community because it's a trusted place for real information. I need to know the truth before posting anything there. I am looking for the truth before I post an article and I know the writers that decided to piggy-back on your post did not do any research. So it comes down to the truth of your article. I hope you understand and I appreciate your writing back."</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">Her Reply: She said nothing was fabricated, but again failed to show me any proof. </span></span></div>
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Brandy Zadrozny has no credibility as a journalist and owes a retraction and an apology to this entire community. So does her editor and the tabloid.<br />
She had a misinformed and uneducated opinion and manipulated information to fit into her narrow view.<br />
The writers who are now copy/pasting each others content are sad excuses for journalists and are trying to spread un-researched opinion thinly veiled as fact. Why didn't any one of them do their own research or investigate Brandy's unfortunate article. Sadly those outside our community are continuing to believe it as fact and it sets us back years in sharing correct information that may help others seeking this dynamic in the future. The damage has only just begun. But, it's time to turn the tables.<br />
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When I first read the post by Brandy, I did think "Oh no, I knew this would happen" A business site is more likely to jump at the chance at making a dollar then think of the long term negative ramifications to the community and everyone involved. But, I stepped back and noticed all the holes in the post. Since ADDS is a DD Community Homepage, it was necessary to find both sides of the story.<br />
So, I contacted the interviewee and asked the same question that I asked Brandy.<br />
<span style="color: #073763;"><span style="background-color: white;">"</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "verdana"; font-size: 13px;">Did you actually say she was spanked for Jesus or lived DD for Jesus?"</span></span><br />
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<b>Interviewee replied within a few days:</b><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394;">"<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "verdana" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 12px;">To answer your question, no I did not say "This isn't abuse, this is for Jesus". I also didn't say 99% of the other things in her article." </span></span><br />
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She directed me to a post she published and it was more about sharing new information about herself and being an "All American girl" & her life as being "borderline perfect." Not so much about the article.<br />
Although there was a statement reaffirming something from the first lines of Brandy's article.<br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #0b5394; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 12px; line-height: 22px;">"Spankings are the most severe form of punishment. There have been severe ones (for severe offenses) that I would rank at about an 8 on a 1-10 pain scale. For the very large majority of them (i.e.- all of them except maybe 3 I’ve ever had?) I would rank significantly less."</span><br />
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<b>The only other part of a very long post that pertained to Brandy's post was:</b><br />
<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 12px; line-height: 22px;"><span style="color: #0b5394;">"You may have read an article recently that was published in a well known media outlet. I did an interview with the reporter for over an hour. Like most media outlets, the reporter altered, twisted, or otherwise changed (and, in one case flat out made it up) a very very very large majority of what I said to make it appear as if domestic discipline was a cult-like, abusive, thing. It’s unfortunate that it happened. But, in that article, it was painted (based on completely inaccurate, twisted, manipulated, or otherwise altered statements) that domestic discipline was abusive. After reading that article, I think anyone would think that."</span></span><br />
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Other parts were about their DD/CDD dynamic and were surprising:<br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #0b5394; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 12px; line-height: 22px;">"Domestic discipline is a small, but important, part of our marriage. I think most of you would be surprised to hear that we </span><em style="background-color: white; color: #0b5394; font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 22px;">rarely</em><span style="background-color: white; color: #0b5394; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 12px; line-height: 22px;"> talk about domestic discipline." </span><span style="color: #444444;">But she says they do talk about the DD business site a lot.</span><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394;">... "<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 12px; line-height: 22px;">but domestic discipline in our own marriage comes up infrequently, and only when it’s necessary."</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 12px; line-height: 22px;">..."</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 12px; line-height: 22px;">I get punished rarely. Sometimes it’s more frequent (like once a month) but sometimes it’s only about twice a year. That means that domestic discipline in our marriage could, in theory, only be brought up twice a year. And, when it does, it’s pretty short. </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 12px; line-height: 22px;">Punishments don’t drag on for days, weeks- or even hours. So, just to reiterate, this is not a frequent thing.</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 12px; line-height: 22px;">"</span></span><br />
I was beginning to wonder why they did the interview at all. Why would they claim to be CDD for the interview then deny it later? And the twice a year part didn't ring true. First, there's a long progression that leads to Punishment as a last resort, not a first response that occurs only twice a year. And according to their very first explanations of themselves about two years ago, he had been familiar with DD for a year then, and she was newer then that. I know they have re told their background a few times and each time say they have more and more experience. I usually believe the first story people tell. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with living DD around 3 years. That's wonderful actually. But when looking for the truth in one area, there needs to be a pattern of truth to gain credibility.<br />
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But, honestly, I still believed that the Brandy's article was as they had said... highly fabricated. I mean really, who would say they lived DD for Jesus? It just seemed too improbable and sensationalized. And that statement was purposely not a quote. It seemed forced and too close to the "Spanking in the Name of the Lord" title from the February article posted on the English site.<br />
Also, as mentioned above, Brandy wouldn't answer a question directly and the interviewee did.<br />
Brandy mentioned that she has a transcript proving she was telling the truth and nothing was fabricated.<br />
So I wrote the interviewee back. I asked a pivotal question in helping them to exonerate themselves.<br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">"Can I ask, did she record your conversation because she claims to have transcripts of the conversation. "Transcripts" imply a written recreation from a recording and reporters always record interviews. If she actually has recordings or a transcript would you be alright with my asking for a copy? </span><br />
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<span style="color: #073763;">That would completely prove you're right that she manipulated the information and made parts up. From what I can garner, she researched maybe 5 days at most. I wouldn't even call what she did research. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #073763;">I wanted to check with you first, because if you say it's alright, and she won't release the transcripts or recordings, then that's enough real proof that she's hiding something."</span></div>
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The reply I received was the last one and it was received on July 2nd. It was a little like Brandy's first reply in the fact that it completely skipped an important question asked and just said it was ok to use some information from the post she wrote and directed me to. So, I wrote them back on July 6th expressing a belief in them and reiterating the same question word for word.<br />
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I thought for sure they would jump at the chance to prove their accusations that Brandy fabricated 99% of the post. Everything other then the "bruising" comment was false they said. This is their chance to prove they are right. Take it. Running away or attempting to create drama as a distraction or anything other then taking this opportunity will be seen by everyone as shared guilt. Stalling will be seen as a tactic to come back later and say "lets just forget it" Anyone who wants it to just go away is showing they have something to hide.<br />
Everyone in this community would support you standing up and proving the truth once and for all.<br />
If either side would like to prove what they say is the truth, they have a way to do so. No excuses accepted.<br />
<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Release the tapes and transcripts publicly</span></b>, minus any personal information if it's mixed in. Usually not. That's all in the writers notes or possibly at the very beginning of a taped conversation. Easily edited out.<br />
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It feels like both sides are embarrassed and would like to just see it all go away. That is not going to happen.<br />
The interview and article are the very worst thing to ever happen to this community. We have been dragged through the mud and called abusive, trapped and wife beaters. We will never stand for that kind of ignorance and in this lifestyle, we believe in accountability. Be accountable and the one telling the truth stand forward and simply release the recording and transcripts to the public or publicly ask for the transcripts to be publicly released.<br />
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If the interviewee has anything difficult to say, remember in this community we believe in Honesty & Forgiveness.<br />
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If the interviewee is correct and telling the truth, Brandy Zadrozny and her editor are guilty of Libel. In the world of journalism that will end a career. Yes, this is serious. You do not paint an entire group of people as abusive the way they did, all based on manipulation and unresearched fabrication.<br />
<b>Libel:</b> <b>a</b>) <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "verdana" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;">a written or oral defamatory statement or representation that </span>conveys<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "verdana" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;"> an unjustly unfavorable impression</span><br />
<span class="ssens" style="background-color: white; font-family: "verdana" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;"><span class="sn" style="font-weight: bold;">b </span><span class="ssn">(1)</span> <strong>:</strong> a statement or representation published without just cause and tending to expose another to public contempt </span><span class="ssens" style="background-color: white; font-family: "verdana" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;"><span class="ssn">(2)</span> <strong>:</strong>defamation of a person by written or representational means</span><span class="ssens" style="background-color: white; font-family: "verdana" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;"><span class="ssn">(3)</span> <strong>:</strong> the publication of blasphemous, treasonable, seditious, or obscene writings or pictures </span><span class="ssens" style="background-color: white; font-family: "verdana" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;"><span class="ssn">(4)</span> <strong>:</strong> the act, tort, or crime of publishing such a libel</span><br />
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<span class="ssens" style="background-color: white; font-family: "verdana" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;"><b>Is there a lawyer who would like to take the case? I'm serious.</b></span><br />
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I would like to touch on an even more serious issue. When someone is in an abusive situation, the last thing they need is to have misinformation spread. Putting false information out into the public realm hurts those who are really in need. It hurts families and respectable men and women who work tirelessly to help those who are really in need. I know first hand that false reports do so much damage to everyone involved. It wastes the time and resources needed by workers to help those who actually need help. Forget about religion, DD or anything else, if there is abuse, it does need to be addressed immediately. If you know someone in need, get them help right away. Brandy, you have done more harm then anything else by trying to condemn an entire group of christian men as wife beaters. You should be ashamed.<br />
National Domestic Violence Hotline: <span style="background-color: white; color: #009933; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 16px; white-space: nowrap;">www.the</span><b style="background-color: white; color: #009933; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 16px; white-space: nowrap;">hotline</b><span style="background-color: white; color: #009933; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 16px; white-space: nowrap;">.org </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 16px; white-space: nowrap;"><i><b>Please note</b>: when you go to that website, your location is tracked.</i> </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 16px; white-space: nowrap;">They don't appreciate false reporting either. The DD community does not tolerate abuse of any kind.</span></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 16px; white-space: nowrap;">DD is consensual. But if you know anyone in or out of our community please help them.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 16px; white-space: nowrap;">Please get help if you need help or give this information </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 16px; white-space: nowrap;">to someone you know needs assistance.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394;">I'm glad that others in our community are posting their opinions and feelings based on real life experience.</span><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394;">We as a community need to support our community. The time for <i>turning the other cheek</i> is over. Pun intended on both fronts.</span><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394;">We all say we love our DD choice and the friends we have here and we support the community. The time has come to step forward and show you support for each other.</span><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394;">If you have a blog, post or re-post an explanation of DD in your life. Share the reality of all the positive effects since the time you have started until now, and what this community has meant to you.</span><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394;">Use </span><b><span style="color: #073763;">I Love my DD choice</span></b><span style="color: #0b5394;"> as a title or part of the title. It's written that way to convey </span><i style="color: #0b5394;">I Love DD</i><span style="color: #0b5394;">, and </span><i style="color: #0b5394;">my choice. </i><span style="color: #0b5394;">And by all means, please use the picture at the top of this article :)</span><i style="color: #0b5394;"> </i><br />
<span style="color: #0b5394;">And if you do, or don't have a blog or never shared a Comment before, tell us if you are a HoH or TiH, share your opinion or simply state in support "I Love my DD choice!" Readers and lurkers need to come out and be heard. Bloggers need to use their voice in support of this wonderful community.</span><br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><b><i>UPDATE:</i></b></span><span style="color: red;"> <b>Since this article was first published, the Interviewee from the Spanking for Jesus post has come forward publicly and privately and given their full permission to release the transcripts to the public. Both myself and the Interviewee have contacted Brandy but she seems to be in hiding and has not responded to the request to keep her promise and release any tapes and transcripts. This casts a shadow on Brandy, her Editor and the publication. After accusing a huge community of people of horrible acts and practices, now that she is exposed as fabricating her information, why wouldn't a "want to be" journalist come out right away to prove herself as being truthful? Why is she hiding now?</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: red;"><b> </b></span><b><span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: large;">Related Articles & Information on ADDS:</span></b><br />
<span style="color: red;"><b><br /></b></span><b><span style="color: red;">*</span><span style="color: blue;"> </span><span style="color: #990000;">Next article w/ links to research:</span><span style="color: red;"> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/07/domestic-discipline-consensual-dd-loving.html">Domestic Discipline is Consensual: DD is Loving </a></span></b><br />
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<b>DD Definition ~ <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/12/defining-domestic-discipline-lifestyle.html"><span style="color: blue;">Defining Domestic Discipline: Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Definition</span></a></b><br />
<b>The DD Foundation ~ <span style="color: blue;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2013/10/domestic-discipline-foundation-3-cs-of-dd.html">Domestic Discipline Foundation: The 3C's of DD</a> </span></b><br />
<b>DD Relationship Consistency ~ <span style="color: blue;"><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2014/07/domestic-discipline-relationship.html">DD Relationship CONSISTENCY is ONE of the 3C's of DD</a> </span></b><br />
<b>DD Communication ~ <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2014/12/domestic-discipline-communication-foundation-marriage-hoh-tih.html"><span style="color: blue;">Domestic Discipline COMMUNICATION: Key and 3C of DD</span></a></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: red; font-size: large;">* </span><span style="color: #cc0000;">DD CONSENT</span> >> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2015/01/domestic-discipline-consent-consensual-tih-hoh-dd.html"><span style="color: blue;">Domestic Discipline CONSENT: DD is 100% Consensual</span></a></span></b><br />
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<b>I will share links to all supportive bloggers of the DD community here. All links will be posted on Thursday July 18th. Do not be left out. Blog and comment and support each other and the entire community. >>> </b> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/p/contact-mrbb.html"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b>Email MrBB here with your Blog Link</b></span></a><br />
I will go to each blog that emails their link in support of the community and share it here on Thursday.<br />
Saturday & Sunday there will also be an Open Forum in The DD Community Chat Room. Times TBA<br />
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<u>First new articles in support of our choice & community are coming in I'll collect more through the weekend:</u><br />
After Commenting here on ADDS, please show your support by posting a Comment on each of the blog posts that will be appearing below over the next few days. It can be as simple as "I Love my DD choice!"<br />
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MrBB from ADDS: <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2015/01/domestic-discipline-consent-consensual-tih-hoh-dd.html"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Domestic Discipline Consent: DD is 100% Consensual </span></b></a><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #660000;">Jason's Girl from, The Taming of the Shrew:</span><b> </b></span><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b> <a href="http://ashrewtamed.blogspot.com/2013/07/i-love-my-dd-choice.html">"I love my DD choice" </a></b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #660000;">Tara at, A former wild child:</span> <b> </b><a href="http://ddwildchild.blogspot.com/2013/07/i-love-my-dd-choiceand-stand-by-my.html?showComment=1374017272221#c4707538148639670005" style="font-weight: bold;">I love my dd choice... and stand by my community</a></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #660000;">Bob from Thoughts on TTTWD</span> </span> <b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://thoughtsontttwd.blogspot.com/2013/07/i-support-dd.html" rel="nofollow">I Support DD</a></span></b><br />
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<span style="color: #660000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Shadowplay from The Butterfly Emerges <a href="http://shadowplayth.blogspot.com/"><b>United We Stand</b></a></span><br />
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<span style="color: #660000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Honey from Handful of Honey <b><a href="http://ahandfulofhoney.blogspot.com/2013/07/i-love-my-dd-marriage-and-my-dd.html?showComment=1374362944520#c776986216798905799">I love me DD marriage and my DD community!</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #660000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Butterfly from Butterflys wants & Bumblebees needs <b><a href="http://butterflynbumblebee.blogspot.com/2013/09/here-is-another-reason-i-lovedd.html">Here is another reason i love DD</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #660000;">Coral from My King of the Castle ~ His little Rascal </span><b><span style="color: blue;"> <a href="http://coralzad.blogspot.com/2013/10/i-love-my-dd-choice.html">I Love my DD choice</a> </span></b></span><br />
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MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com26tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-12016779626734837982013-07-15T05:37:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:27:18.088-07:00Spanking for Jesus is a hoax: The reality of Domestic Discipline<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDtenfF6wQkDwzVJSflbPYLJfNVKLAaffS71gau0SLIhRoE08N4I721YkVI7TbC7HK04Vu3qKt0uGxpsVrSQPVj6mkAzp5nG8zzBYDpOgWNO60GNuOstEAyuvdcC4xTtnVG_PDgaJ-LBpd/s100/globe+table21+100x100+23kb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDtenfF6wQkDwzVJSflbPYLJfNVKLAaffS71gau0SLIhRoE08N4I721YkVI7TbC7HK04Vu3qKt0uGxpsVrSQPVj6mkAzp5nG8zzBYDpOgWNO60GNuOstEAyuvdcC4xTtnVG_PDgaJ-LBpd/s100/globe+table21+100x100+23kb.jpg" /></a>This Community Sit Down Discussion is about all the negativity and damage that one post on one tabloid online site created. This has been the most misguided, negative and damaging piece of unresearched info to ever be published online. The author did not research the DD dynamic and tried to wrap DD into a personal vendetta against Christianity and condemn all men who have a christian belief and a DD foundation as wife beaters.<br />
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<b>We as a community have stopped the viral lunacy, truth is here! </b><br />
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I was asked to be interviewed for the offensive article. I researched the author and could easily see that everything they were going to publish would be for shock value, offensive, negative and damaging to the entire DD community. I declined the offer in an attempt to protect the reality and integrity of this community.<br />
I have since been researching and investigating the article, the author of the article and the interviewees participation in the article that was published condemning CDD as domestic violence. It's more of a "post" on an online tabloid site that is unsupported by any real research.<br />
We all know domestic violence is abhorrent. But the author tried to warp DD and more specifically all men who believe in a form of CDD into being wifebeaters. There was no information presented outside of DD being practised as male/female CDD in a biblical and scripture based foundation. We all know that we love our CDD friends, but they are a very small group within a much larger and varied DD community. It looks like the author completely bypassed that information to put forth a personal agenda.<br />
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ADDS is the DD Community Homepage, it is important that this is addressed and fully investigated until the truth is known. ADDS presents DD as an open minded relationship foundation and doesn't report from only one aspect. ADDS has never referred to the HoH or TiH in a DD relationship as husband, wife, he or she. That's one of the reasons we are considered the Homepage for everyone living and learning about DD. ADDS believes that the concept and practices of DD have nothing specifically to do with religious beliefs, gender or relationship specifics.<br />
I am collecting information so the ADDS article that comes out about this awful interview and subsequent posts afterward is completely unbiased and correct. ADDS has an article coming out but we didn't want to overreact without fully investigating. When the investigation is complete and all research and information is collected, the article will be published here.<br />
I can say this so far:<br />
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There is information, tapes and transcripts that should be open to the public since everything was already published based on that research. Condemning a larger groups of people as a personal agenda is not journalism and all research (all 5 days ug) should be released publicly. If the author refuses to release the information, it proves that they, in their few weeks as a reporter, are hiding the truth. If the interviewee, who has notably come out and said that 99% of the article in question was false or completely made up, comes out and supports the release of all of the authors info, it will then make their position that everything the author said was false.<br />
I have written the interviewee about having the information released to ADDS and I'm awaiting their reply.<br />
I have asked the author a few simple questions and they have so far skirted around the issue.<br />
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Who is telling the truth?<br />
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Part of collecting information is understanding how people within our community feel. Let us know how you feel and what you are thinking. Also, if you're a blogger that wants to share how much you care about your relationship and others in this community, please contact me. I am going to share links to blogs who have or are going to share the reality of what a DD relationship means to them. If you're not a blogger but want to participate in getting the truth out, then write me and I'll share your story.<br />
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<span style="line-height: 1.4;">There are also many more sharing DD Friendly Blogs, and they're listed at the top of the DD Friendly Blog list. We are all ONE large caring community and always have been</span><span style="line-height: 1.4;">. If you would like to become part of our rapidly growing and supportive community of Sharing DD and DD Friendly bloggers, please contact me :)</span><br />
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We have been married for more than 25 years and introduced domestic discipline into our lives a short while ago. This is the place where we share our experiences and commune with friends.<br />
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<span style="line-height: 21px;"><a href="http://uniquelydifferentlife.wordpress.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">A Uniquely Different Life</span></b></a> - Our journey into DD to make our marriage wonderful </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><a href="http://guidememylove.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Beginning a life with DD</a> </b>- </span>I have asked my husband to explore domestic discipline with me in our marriage. I am beginning this blog not only for us to gain insight into our experience, but to learn from others.</div>
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<a href="http://ttwdblondiesblog.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Blondie's Blog</span></b></a> - married 22 years. We stumbled through the valleys and soared over the peaks. From the bedroom and now to the rest of the house, I am submissive to my husband.</div>
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<a href="http://ddfirewife.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Elle's World</span></b></a> - This is all about our new life in DD, we jumped in with both feet and haven't looked back. I'm married to my best friend for almost 7 years. We're new to ttwd, but it works for us.<br />
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<a href="http://www.lovingdomesticdiscipline.net/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Firm & Loving Domestic Discipline</span></b></a> - A blog about a real life couple in adult loving domestic discipline<br />
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<a href="http://ahandfulofhoney.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Handful of Honey</span></b></a> - We want more and have decided to start this new journey of DD together.<br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><a href="http://janeyhimmeus.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Him, Me and Us</a> - </b></span>Just an explanation of me and him and how we are trying to carve out a path through our life including the use of DD to improve our marriage.</div>
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<span style="line-height: 23px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><span style="color: white;"><a href="http://inmyhusbandshands.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">In My Husbands Hands</a><span style="font-size: xx-small;"> </span></span><span style="font-size: xx-small;">-</span><span style="color: white; font-size: xx-small;">-</span></b></span></span>This is just my tale of finding happiness being Taken in Hand by the love of my life, my HoH.</div>
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<span style="color: white; font-size: xx-small; line-height: 23px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><br /></b></span></span><b><span style="color: blue; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://jillandjackdd.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Jack and Jill</a> - </span></b>married 22 years. We found a place about Domestic Discipline and are hoping this will make our sailing much smoother, calmer, happier and filled with more respect and love.</div>
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<a href="http://mycontentedhome.wordpress.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; text-decoration: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">My Contented Home</span></b></a><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"> - </span><span style="font-family: inherit;">A home dedicated to harmony through scripture & domestic discipline</span><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">. </span></div>
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; line-height: 25px;"><b><a href="http://mickandlyndasblog.blogspot.com/">Mick and Lynda's Place</a> - </b></span><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: inherit;">Welcome to our blog. It talks
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<b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://mylovesbeautifullady.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">My Love's beautiful lady</a> </b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">-</span><b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> </b>We have a great relationship, but we have recently decided to change our dynamic and incorporate domestic discipline. This is our tale<br />
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<a href="http://mypersonalthinkingspot.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">My Personal Thinking Spot</span></b></a> - after years of marriage, DH and I decided to integrate something new into our marriage. We don't know yet how to define it: DD? TTWD? This is my spot to think, write about things I find interesting, describe successes and failures, and get and give advice.</div>
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<b style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ourdecidedlydifferentjourney.blogspot.ca/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Our Decidedly Different Journey</a> - </b><span style="font-family: inherit;">Our journey through life, marriage and DD</span></div>
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<b style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><a href="http://redbottomsandttwd.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0b3b6a; text-decoration: none;">Red Bottoms & TTWD</a> - M</span></b><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">arried to her best friend. Trying to figure out ttwd, d/s, dd, being submissive</span><br />
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MrBBSpankerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13157302499211539690noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4052470763687451894.post-72346157113732403612013-06-21T04:17:00.000-07:002016-04-02T23:29:10.009-07:00Domestic Discipline Glossary: This Thing We Do / TTWD<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-ie2NmJl9ZHctYEaQJmFQlxl_I67eMjTMJHRxIkOa9tQdnucbrc7O85i0V3HVnzzW3d5YCUhocd_TmzpFIXOTxGdhCh25dLHZ-PTm3RbpPgUTBlhX3A6D9boSjshgNPjJsVekxBypLcc5/s1600/images+%25281%2529+glossary+book1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-ie2NmJl9ZHctYEaQJmFQlxl_I67eMjTMJHRxIkOa9tQdnucbrc7O85i0V3HVnzzW3d5YCUhocd_TmzpFIXOTxGdhCh25dLHZ-PTm3RbpPgUTBlhX3A6D9boSjshgNPjJsVekxBypLcc5/s1600/images+%25281%2529+glossary+book1.jpg" /></a><b style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">The Domestic Discipline Glossary includes Terminologies, Descriptions & Acronyms specific to the DD lifestyle community.</span></span></b><br />
<b style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 20px;"><span style="background-color: white;">This DD resource is one of the most popular on ADDS. There</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: inherit;"> is an addition to be discussed, TTWD. And this post is also open to all terminologies and the entire Domestic Discipline community as an interactive and ongoing project...</span></b><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">Sara, an ADDS member and new DD blogger from <a href="http://quietsara.blogspot.com/">Quiet Sara and the StrongMan</a>, recently emailed and asked about </span></span><span style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">This Thing We Do and the </span></span></span><span style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">the acronym </span></span><span style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">TTWD</span></span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">. She suggested I post something </span></span><span style="font-size: 15px;">clarifying</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"> the terminology, I thought that was a good idea and also felt it would be a wonderful question to pose to the entire community. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><b><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">"This Thing We Do" (TTWD) and "Our Thing" were </span></span><span style="line-height: 20px;">originally</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"> used by the Mafia beginning in the early 1900s when they would not use the word Mafia, La </span></span><span style="line-height: 20px;">Cosa</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"> Nostra etc. It has also been adopted by secret societies and then on to the BDSM community. It was meant to be overly general to keep a true identity secret.</span></span></b></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><b><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">More recently the acronym has also become part of the Domestic Discipline community. The difference in the way some people have been using the acronym in our community is that even though they are living a DD lifestyle dynamic they believe they do so in their own way or a very general manner. The only thing confusing about that is DD is already understood as a lifestyle dynamic that is lived in various and individual ways. Everyone lives their DD dynamic in an individualized way depending on the people and </span></span><span style="line-height: 20px;">personalities</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"> involved.</span></span></b></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><b><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">So, how should we include TTWD to The DD Glossary?</span></span></b></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"><b>* Has it just become a secondary term for DD that still also means anything general from the entire lifestyle community beyond DD?</b></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"><b>* What few lines would best sum up TTWD for The DD Glossary?</b></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"><b>* What is the importance of having terminologies that are understood throughout a community?</b></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">Please bring up any terminology on your mind or that you feel would be a good fit for this community glossary.</span></span></span></div>
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<i><span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: small;"><b>Domestic Discipline (DD)</b></span><span style="font-size: small;"><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> </span></b><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;">- </span></span></i><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">Domestic Discipline is the practice of a subtle Dominant and submissive type of lifestyle, with the emphasis on the relationship first, then and only then is spanking as a disciplinary action or punishment discussed. The Dominant partner is known as the Head of Household (HOH). The submissive partner is Taken in Hand (TIH). When implemented ideally, DD is the caring, consensual, consistently fair use of structure, accountability and discipline as a positive way to enhance communication, deepen intimacy and reinforce relationship commitment. The discipline normally includes one of many styles of disciplinary actions or measures, but first centers around rules of behavior asked for by one partner and agreed to by the other</span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: small;"><b><i>Domestic Discipline Diary (DDiary)</i></b></span><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"> - </span><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;">It is a journal style tool used to honestly keep track of ideas. Also to k</span><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;">eep track of misdeeds/transgressions that have occurred. Include first offense. second etc... Date of transgression, and what Disciplinary Action was applied with the date and time and more info. It can be seen at any time by the HoH. It should be kept in a private place where only the two of you can access it.</span><span style="color: #073763;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"> </span><i><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/defining-tih-list-introducing-ddiary.html" style="color: #33aaff; text-decoration: initial;">... </a><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/defining-tih-list-introducing-ddiary.html" style="color: #33aaff; text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">continue here for more info</span></a></i></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000; font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b>Head of Household ( HoH )</b></span></i><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"> </span></span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: small;">- </span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">The Dominant partner in a Domestic Discipline Lifestyle relationship dynamic</span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0000; font-size: small;"><i><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">HoH Rules</span></b></i><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"> </span></span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: small;">- </span><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">The list referred to as the <b>HoH Rules </b>is slowly and patiently developed f</span><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">rom the TiH List</span><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">.</span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: small;"> </span><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">An HoHs list of Rules is usually broken down into five areas known as the 3D S&H. Dishonesty, Disobedience, Disrespect,</span><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"> Safety & Health.</span><span style="color: #3d85c6; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"> <a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/HoH%20Rules" style="color: #33aaff; text-decoration: none;">... <i>continue here for more information</i></a> </span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: small;"><i><b>Taken in Hand ( TiH )</b></i></span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: small;"> - </span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;">The submissive partner in a Domestic Discipline lifestyle relationship dynamic.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: small;"><b><i>TiH List</i></b></span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"> - </span><span style="color: #073763; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;">is an ever growing and changing entity. By no stretch of the imagination does it have to be "set" or perfect. Things will be added and taken off through the passage of time. The TiH List is an important part of the weekly Sit Down Discussions.</span><span style="color: #20124d;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"> </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/search/label/TiH%20List" style="color: #33aaff; text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;">... </span><i><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">continue here for more information</span></i></a></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0000; font-size: small;"><i><b><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Reminder Spanking</span></b></i><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"> </span></span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: small;">- </span><span style="color: #20124d;"><i><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;">Reminder Spanking</span><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"> is a preemptive, warning style of spanking... administered beforehand. </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/09/domestic-discipline-reminder-spanking.html#more" style="color: #33aaff; text-decoration: initial;">... </a><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/09/domestic-discipline-reminder-spanking.html#more" style="color: #33aaff; text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">continue here for more information</span></a></i></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0000; font-size: small;"><b><i><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Maintenance Spanking</span></i></b><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"> </span></span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: small;">-</span><span style="color: #20124d; font-size: 15px;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"> is used as a time based continuing tool within a process to maintain focus, revisit and/or re-establish effect & relationship goals.... administered during or as part of the process. </span><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/09/domestic-discipline-maintenance-spanking.html" style="color: #33aaff; text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;">... </span><i><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">continue here for more information</span></i></a></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: small;"><i><b>Sit Down Discussion (SitDD)</b></i></span><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"> - </span><b style="color: #20124d; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15px;"> </b><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px;"> a time </span><span style="font-size: 15px;"><span style="color: #20124d; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;">specifically set aside for the HoH and TiH to sit down and discuss their relationship in a slightly more DD focused format then just chatting during the week or mentioning something in bed before sleep or at a dinner table. Set aside time (twice a week for the first year) every week to fully communicate with one another about everything pertaining to your DD lifestyle. </span><span style="color: #3d85c6;"><i><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/sit-down-discussion.html" style="color: #33aaff; text-decoration: initial;">... </a><a href="http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.com/2012/08/sit-down-discussion.html" style="color: #33aaff; text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">continue here for more info</span></a></i></span></span></div>
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