Domestic Discipline Confession

Domestic Discipline style Confessing

Confessing a misdeed is one area many TiHs find very difficult. 
Especially for a newer Taken in Hand  style submissive... 

A true DD relationship includes the TiH being completely honest in the agreed upon Power Exchange... even when the HOH is not around. And that is where Confessing plays a key role in a successful Domestic Discipline lifestyle.

In the beginning of a Domestic Discipline relationship, and from time to time thereafter, the Head of Household & TiH have discussions and some negotiation about the rules and boundaries that shape their particular Power Exchange dynamic. It is vitally important for the HoH to follow through within their household & disciplinary responsibilities. It is just as important for the TiH to follow through with their part in what has been decided. A good HoH is not a dictator and doesn't want to "micro manage" their TiH. So, it is imperative that the submissive partner follow through with their agreed upon household rules of behavior, and also with the certain points the TiH has brought forward for their personal goals, achievements and  other areas of need that they have asked their HoH to help them attain.

A true DD relationship includes the TiH being completely honest in the agreed upon Power Exchange... even when the HOH is not around. And that is where Confessing plays a key role in a successful Domestic Discipline lifestyle. Honesty is another key to a successful DD relationship that we'll be discussing later on this blog.

Holding in lies or secret shame will weigh you down emotionally in a relationship. Face it, we all have downfalls and make mistakes. Confessing our misdeeds will help the body, mind and soul. By admitting out loud that we have at times failed to measure up to our own standards, we can realize the universal nature of failing and free ourselves from the weight of guilt and shame.

Psychologically speaking, this effect is called catharsis. Catharsis is so important in the process of moving forward in a Domestic Discipline lifestyle relationship. The word catharsis is derived from the Greek word for cleansing or purification. Crying, screaming, and punching the air...  these are all physical manifestations of negative emotion leaving the body. When we confess, our internal guilt and shame are leaving our body through our words and actions. Through reliving, acknowledging, and analyzing traumatic events, we can begin to overcome them. From Aristotle to Freud, philosophers, theologians, and psychologists have all touted the positive power of proper confessions.

Emotions are sometimes likened to liquids... "they can build up",  "pressure and boil over." This is called the hydraulic model of emotions. As pressure from negative emotions build they need to be vented to prevent the whole system from exploding. Repressing the thoughts or emotions cause them to build and build over time, which ultimately results in psychosis and cognitive impairment.

The act of confession is essential in a DD lifestyle relationship. It is an acknowledgement of the flawed nature of humans, but our willingness to try our best. Through admission and acts of penance, we can achieve forgiveness from our loved ones.

So go ahead, admit it. Shout it out. Own it. Yes, I did something I’m not proud of. But you know what else? I learned from it and I’m a better person now. I’ll probably do something else wrong in the future. But I’ll grow and become better from that experience too.

Please...  share an answer on just one or a few of the questions, share your own opinion on Confessing: 

   For TiHs new and experienced 
* How difficult do you think it would be, was it, or is it still... for you to Confess a misdeed or broken rule when you know the outcome will be some type of Disciplinary Action?

   HoHs & TiHs: 
* How important is Confessing in your DD lifestyle?

* Do you include any type of "ritual" while the TiH is Confessing a transgression? (a particular pillow to kneel on, or in certain room, at a certain time... etc)

   HoHs newer & experienced: 
* How would you, have you, or do you... enable your loving TiH partner to feel more comfortable approaching you to Confess an infraction, without shirking any of your responsibilities?

* When you know it has been agreed, and has to be the outcome, how difficult is it to always follow through with a spanking or further disciplinary action when your loved one has just Confessed to failing to complete part or all of a goal that you know they have worked so hard to attain?

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Related Reading & Research:

Where to Start: Beginning your DD Lifestyle Together > ADDS Free DD Lifestyle Guide
Coming Out about Spanking & Domestic Discipline Desires

How to Start DD Research (Series)Domestic Discipline Marriage: Beginning A Domestic Discipline Marriage 

This article is the latest in a continuing series titled: KEYS to a Domestic Discipline Relationship
All of these below also make excellent SitDD topics.
1) Communication is a Key to DD
2) Domestic Discipline Honesty
3) Domestic Discipline Confession
4) Domestic Discipline Aftercare
5) Domestic Discipline Forgiveness

6) Domestic Discipline Relationship Characteristics: Ethics are a Key to DD

7) Domestic Discipline Key to DD: Patience