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**ADDS mission is to always strive to be the best place for real Domestic Discipline lifestyle information, knowledge and education.**    

This A Domestic Discipline Society site is slightly different from the discussion groups that ADDS is well known for worldwide across several alternative lifestyle sites. This part of the ADDS community is focused on the  Dominant Head of Household (HoH) and submissive Taken in Hand (TiH) partners in, or looking for, Domestic Discipline lifestyle relationship information and ADDS relationship tools. There will be some discussion ideas taken from different ADDS groups already in existence. The focus, as always, is one of  Domestic Discipline lifestyle education. ADDS is a non-judgmental, respectful, friendly and helpful community of people from all over the world that gather to ask for or share DD knowledge, education, advice, assistance and helpful opinions.

* I reserved this Blog spot in 2008, knowing that eventually the day would come when the next logical step in A Domestic Discipline Society would be to have a comfortable place focused on HoHs and TiHs, and perspective HoHs and TiHs. Pull up a chair and share the information and tools with each other, and share your thoughts and ideas with other members and readers.

I had noticed over the years that on all the DD groups, blogs and sites, the first post or opening page was usually something explaining what DD was to the individual moderator, admin or webmaster. It was this one persons opinion how you should live the DD lifestyle, because that's how they lived it. These narrow views would include some stringent rules and contain phrases like "DD is NOT ________" or explaining their personal views along with very judgmental ideas toward anyone who lived this lifestyle choice differently then themselves.
Just because I personally choose my DD foundation to be a non-overt private style of DD lived as the male HoH, with a female TiH, that doesn't mean that everyone has to live their lives the exact same way. And, I have learned a lot over the years from people who don't choose to live DD the exact same way as I do.
I have been Educating and Mentoring people for many years and in the time just before ADDS was founded and became established,  I had been referring students and mentees to various groups, web pages, blogs etc... 
The most common question I would then be asked after they had done some research was "well which one is it?", or "who is right?"  There were so many conflicting opinions out there, and each one claimed that their way was the right or only way. The answer was simple. All of them were right in their own way.


I originally wrote a first draft of the italicized portion of what you have just read in 2005. I redrafted it slightly only a couple times through the years. There were some changes made within the DD community in those years. There used to be many more yahoo style groups back then and not many blogs. I am also happy that one of the main edicts pushed back then by the ADDS community has caught on over the years. 
 "An important part of any DD relationship is to patiently find that wonderful "match."  Find that person whose ideas and feelings coincide naturally with your own both in ones public life, and in their more intimate private moments alone also." 
Basically, it is up to individual couples how they decide to build upon the Power Exchange that becomes their own DD foundation. There are a lot less of the "do it my way or it's wrong" style of groups and blogs. There has been a boom over the last few years in couples and individuals posting blogs where they don't try and tell anyone how to live the DD lifestyle, they're just giving people a peek into their variation of the DD lifestyle. It's really nice to see :) 
   
The ideas, concepts and theories behind A Domestic Discipline Society are that we have all made a choice to include and mesh this unique DD relationship lifestyle into our lives with our loved ones. It is also the choice of each individual person to seek what they know they need free of the judgments of others as they seek more information and try to gain further knowledge along the path they have chosen.
I like to think of the ADDS groups and this ADDS site, as a compilation of ideas where all the different & varying styles of  Domestic Discipline are brought together as if in a melting pot. A brain-trust where people aren't judged for their differences, but rather where HoHs & TiHs are welcome to share their knowledge.

This blog is going to be different from the ADDS discussion groups in at least one way. I will be spilling out a lot of information and giving my thoughts and views more. My aim is not to "tell" anyone what is right, but instead give the readers information, ideas, tools and helpful advice based on years of experience. My hope is that readers bring what is presented here into their own discussions as they grow and continue growing in their unique and individual DD relationship. I also encourage readers to comment with advice and share their knowledge with each other.  

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