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Domestic Discipline Maintenance Spanking

A Proactive Spanking Measure

Maintenance Spanking - is used as a time based continuing tool within a process to maintain focus, revisit and/or re-establish effect & relationship goals.... administered during or as part of the process. 




Maintenance Spankings have grown in popularity for various reasons that can also be specific to a 
particular household. Often mentioned in posts as a tool used for the HoH to administer for "continued" behavior modification, re-visiting a past area the TiH has worked on and seems to be sliding back toward, and sometimes as a reconfirmation of the agreed upon Power Exchange. Whatever has been decided as the reason, Maintenance Spankings are almost always without exception set up ahead of time and based on a specific time frame... daily, weekly, bi weekly etc... For example, they can be brought in as a tool to maintain the submissive partners focus on a bi-weekly basis for two months and then be discussed at the end of that time.



* Another common use of the term Maintenance Spanking that I haven't heard as much over the past few years, is to maintain the effect of a Disciplinary or Punishment Spanking. For instance, if a TIH doesn't have a very high tolerance level at that particular time and they have received a Punishment Spanking to the zenith of their tolerance level... The submissive partner will be spanked again the next morning to re-establish the effect of the Discipline/ Punishment... and help them maintain focus throughout the day. Depending on their infraction this may be repeated for several mornings after the initial Punishment.

Within your discussions you'll decide what the intensity and duration will be for specific uses of a Maintenance Spanking. 

People through the years have begun to blur together what a Maintenance Spanking is and what a Reminder Spanking or other Non Disciplinary style Spankings are.
Every Spanking style keeps getting talked about  as if  it's a 10 point Punishment Spanking and the TiH won't sit for a week!  





Relax.... :)

There are many many tools and skills at the HoHs disposal. We are leaders and guides first, and definitely disciplinarians when needed.

In the next article, we'll be discussing Reminder Spanking and the general ideas behind preemptive Spankings and preemptive measures.

Here's a link to the Reminder Spanking post >>> Domestic Discipline Reminder Spanking

There is also a series for newer people and those experienced & continuing to refine their DD dynamic.
Found here>>>> Where to Start and Revitalize your DD Lifestyle Relationship Dynamic





2 comments:

  1. Yikes!
    Once is bad enough.....I am never showing this to Ian.

    Maintenance with my husband is a little different, in fact I love it.....which makes me think perhaps it is not traditional type maintenance....

    It is usually gentle and sort of intimate, but not sexual necessarily, just a time for him to cuddle me, and get me to reaffirm my commitment to his authority. There is spanking involved but not hard. I love the closeness of it.
    I guess it is different everywhere, though, like all of this thing we do...

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  2. Anonymous11/07/2012

    I have read many blogs that try to explain this but this is by far the best one I have ever read. Short, clear and to the point.

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