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Domestic Discipline Aftercare




Aftercare is one of the "keys" that lead to or define a Domestic Discipline lifestyle relationship. 





Aftercare is one of the important keys that lead to or define a Domestic Discipline lifestyle relationship from some other alternative style relationships. This is an area that can be referred to when defining a Domestic Discipline relationship.

We normally think about the importance of a TiH 
receiving Aftercare especially after a strict disciplinary action or punishment spanking. 
And rightly so!



Let's also keep in mind the fact that a HoH is a caring and present

participant in the relationship, not just a "Top" or 
"Dom".
  
A strict punishment is not easy for a real HoH to give their TiH.                                                                        



Aftercare is also an important time for the HoH to review the reason for the disciplinary action, reconnect and show their forgiveness. And a time for a TiH to feel the warmth of forgiveness.

During Aftercare, or directly following, is an excellent opportunity to also have a discussion about how the TiH felt about and during the Spanking, Disciplinary Spanking, or Punishment Spanking they have just received. 
Communication is an important Key to a Domestic Discipline lifestyle dynamic, and right after a Disciplinary Action is an opportune time to patiently open discussion and communication about the effectiveness so far, and how to continue forward. I like to call these Aftercare Discussions.
* During the Aftercare Discussion is a wonderful time to come up with ideas together on how to avoid the same infraction again.  

Share you practices and thoughts on Aftercare or to answer one or more questions :

* How important is Aftercare in your DD relationship?

* What feelings do you have during and after the Aftercare process? (Aftercare Discussion)

* What are some forms of Aftercare you give or have given or received?
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Related Reading & Research:
Where to Start: Beginning your DD Lifestyle Together > ADDS Free DD Lifestyle Guide
Coming Out about Spanking & Domestic Discipline Desires
How to Start DD Research (Series)Domestic Discipline Marriage: Beginning A Domestic Discipline Marriage 

This article is the latest in a continuing series titled: KEYS to a Domestic Discipline Relationship
All of these below also make excellent SitDD topics.
1) Communication is a Key to DD
2) Domestic Discipline Honesty
3) Domestic Discipline Confession
4) Domestic Discipline Aftercare
5) Domestic Discipline Forgiveness
6) Domestic Discipline Relationship Characteristics: Ethics are a Key to DD
7) Domestic Discipline Key to DD: Patience

3 comments :

  1. I think aftercare is just as important as the discipline. If my HoH just walked away after spanking me, I would fee abandoned. I really need to be hugged and cuddled afterwards. It makes me feel so cared for and loved. It's an incredible act of intimacy.

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  2. Anonymous12/11/2012

    I HAVE BEEN REVIEWING YOUR BLOG FOR THE LAST SEVERAL DAYS AND FEEL THIS WILL BE EXTREMELY HELPFUL TO MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF. WE ARE RELATIVELY NEW AT THIS, ABOUT 8 MONTHS OR SO. ALTHOUGH I HAVE READ A GREAT DEAL ON EP/ TIH/ FET LIFE WEB SITES,ETC... I LIKE WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY AND THE SIMPLICITY AND COMMON SENSE OF IT. THANK YOU. I LOOK FORWARD TO CONTINUE READING YOUR BLOG. SMARIEM

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  3. Anonymous9/06/2014

    Exactly. A wife needs to know that she is forgiven, and can start afresh in the relationship. The contrition that follows a sound spanking, is greatly enhanced if she knows that once the punishment is over - and the sobbing has subsided her apologies will be accepted and he and she can make friends again. Even though your bottom is pink and tingling, it is SO important to be held and comforted, secure in the knowledge that she is still loved and cherished. And so to bed.
    maria

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