Domestic Discipline Calendar

  The DD Calendar

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DD Calendar: An ADDS Communication Tool

In the beginning of your DD lifestyle dynamic, or when starting to revitalize it with these ADDS tools and ideas, it's best to start slowly and work on one to two goals or behavioral changes at a time. In day to day life as your DD lifestyle grows there are going to be ...

In the beginning of your Domestic Discipline lifestyle dynamic, or when starting to revitalize it with these ADDS tools and ideas, it's best to start slowly and work on one to two goals or behavioral changes at a time. In day to day life as your DD lifestyle grows there are going to be a few more areas being worked on from the TiH List and HoH Rules. These areas will be worked on simultaneously.  Using a simple calendar is an easy way to look back and keep track of past transgressions and what the consequence was for that particular transgression.

When a mistake has been made and the appropriate Disciplinary Action, Aftercare and discussion afterward (detailing the consequence for a possible future transgression) is complete, then the TiH adds what Disciplinary Action was used on to the DD Calendar. 
I have seen TiHs use colors that correlate to the 5 categories of the HoH Rules and this works very well. Using designated colors on the DD Calendar is especially helpful in the future when looking back. Use whatever colors feel right to you. Even though the DD Calendar is kept privately with the DDiary and TiH list etc, it's not a bad idea to use abbreviations too. It's helpful later but not absolutely imperative.

Example:
Dishonesty (DisH)
Disobedience (DisB)
Disrespect (DisR)
Safety (Sty)
Health (Hlth)

It's extremely useful that each partner has an understanding of the The Tolerance LaDDer and Progression of Discipline. It's important for both partners to be aware of where in the Progression of Discipline the TiH is for each of their transgressions. It is imperative for the Disciplinary Action to fit the offense. When writing what consequence was administered on the DD Calendar, it's also helpful in the future and for privacy reasons to use the abbreviations used from these two communication tools.

Progression of Discipline /  Disciplinary Actions (DAs)

Keep in mind if it is a 1st. 2nd offense etc...
Warning/scolding (W)
Non Spanking Disciplinary Action (NSDA)
Spanking (Spk)
Disciplinary Spanking (DS)
Punishment Spanking (PS)

Tolerance LaDDer

Low, Mid or High
1 to 10 points of reference in each of the following DAs in the PoD
Spanking (Spk)
Disciplinary Spanking (DS)
Punishment Spanking (PM)


With this information in mind, it might look something like this on your DD Calendar:

2nd/DisR, 7ptDS, +NSDAs  (colors used here are just to reference this article more easily)

It's a quick simple addition to your DD Calendar. But in those few numbers and letters, there is a wealth of information that you and your partner understand. If you want to include what the NSDAs are or other information, and you are able to fit it in, then that's alright too. In the future there will be references to Maintenance Spanking (MS) etc... Either way, that information will be in the DDiary. 

When a misdeed or mistake happens and it has been a while since that particular transgression has occurred, the DD Calendar becomes a point of reference. The HoH will ask when was the last time this happened to decide what the next DA in the Progression of Discipline will be. Usually if it's something recent it's used as a reminder and the PoD moves up the Tolerance LaDDer. But when it has been some time since the last transgression  it helps the HoH decide if they will proceed upward or they may decide to repeat the last DA, or to use another set of DAs to correct the behavior. When it has been a long time and the TiH partner has been doing very well in that area, it should be taken into account and the HoH can decide to begin again at a lower level of the PoD and Tolerance LaDDer. Of course as always, it depends on what category from the HoH Rules this transgression is listed under.

This will become a useful communication tool and quick reference point for the HoH to use and the TiH to keep current.  I will reiterate from a past article, it is the TiHs responsibility to honestly and completely keep the ADDS Communication Tools current and up to date. So far, they include the TiH List, DDiary and DD Calendar.

The calendar type used for a DD Calendar can easily be found in many places. There might be one hanging on your wall right now! Just look for a basic calendar with open blocks where you can add your information. You can refer to the picture at the top of this article, or below,  for an idea of what is suggested.

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