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Domestic Discipline Terminology, Descriptions, Acronyms & Glossary

It's time to update The Domestic Discipline Glossary and it is now an ongoing community project. This DD community resource is the most popular Tab Page on the top of this ADDS site. There are a few additions in mind that you'll see here soon, and I also want to open it up to the Domestic Discipline community as an interactive and ongoing project...

When this site was originally published this Glossary was meant to give short descriptions of just some of long time DD terminologies used to help present The ADDS Free DD Guide. Lets continue with that and then add other DD terminologies too. So if there are terms or concepts found here in The ADDS Free DD Guide you need defined, please ask. What I would love to see is YOUR definitions of a terms or concepts found here on ADDS! 
I do ask that the other DD suggestions be definitely Domestic Discipline Lifestyle oriented. 
For example, we all know what a hairbrush is so there is no need to have a definition of a hairbrush with "and it can be used to spank" at the end. But if that same idea is thought outwardly a little farther, some short descriptions of what a general pervertable is would be interesting. If you're feeling shy, Anonymous comments are ok  or if you don't have a way to include a comment, please send your suggestions to my email at adomesticdisciplinesociety@gmail.com   

This is the first Glossary that is being updated and added to...

A Domestic Discipline Society (ADDS) - 

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Domestic Discipline (DD) -  Domestic Discipline is the practice of a subtle Dominant and submissive type of lifestyle, with the emphasis on the relationship first, then and only then is spanking as a disciplinary action or punishment discussed. The Dominant partner is known as the Head of Household (HOH). The submissive partner is Taken in Hand (TIH). When implemented ideally, DD is the caring, consensual, consistently fair use of structure, accountability and discipline as a positive way to enhance communication, deepen intimacy and reinforce relationship commitment. The discipline normally includes one of many styles of  disciplinary actions or measures, but first centers around rules of behavior asked for by one partner and agreed to by the other.

Domestic Discipline Diary (DDiary) - It is a journal style tool used to honestly keep track of ideas. Also to keep track of misdeeds/transgressions that have occurred. Include first offense. second etc... Date of transgression, and what Disciplinary Action was applied with the date and time and more info. It can be seen at any time by the HoH. It should be kept in a private place where only the two of you can access it. ... continue here for more info

Head of Household ( HoH ) The Dominant partner in a Domestic Discipline Lifestyle relationship dynamic.

HoH Rules -  The list referred to as the HoH Rules is slowly and patiently developed from the TiH List. An HoHs list of Rules is usually broken down into five areas known as the 3D S&H. Dishonesty, Disobedience, Disrespect, Safety & Health. ... continue here for more information 
3D S&H - comprehensive, clear and complete categories used when a HoH is beginning or organizing the HoH Rules List. ... continue for more info 

Taken in Hand ( TiH ) - The submissive partner in a Domestic Discipline lifestyle relationship dynamic.

TiH List -  is an ever growing and changing entity. By no stretch of the imagination does it have to be "set" or perfect. Things will be added and taken off  through the passage of time. The TiH List is an important part of the weekly Sit Down Discussions. ... continue here for more information

Reminder Spanking Reminder Spanking is a preemptive, warning style of spanking... administered beforehand.  ... continue here for more information

Maintenance Spanking - is used as a time based continuing tool within a process to maintain focus, revisit and/or re-establish effect & relationship goals.... administered during or as part of the process. ... continue here for more information

Sit Down Discussion (SitDD) -   a time specifically set aside for the HoH and TiH to sit down and discuss their relationship in a slightly more DD focused format then just chatting during the week or mentioning something in bed before sleep or at a dinner table. Set aside time (twice a week for the first year) every week to fully communicate with one another about everything pertaining to your DD lifestyle. ... continue here for more info

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This is now an ongoing community project and is also a permanent Tab Page here on ADDS
If you need to include a link outside of this site, please do so in an email instead of in a comment.


  1. Anonymous1/03/2013

    You are a wealth of information as always, my friend. Thanks for the glossary, it really helps when reading on some blogs.


    1. I love when you stop by dear friend. You always have something so kind to say! lol

  2. Last year I was thinking about doing a post on dd words. I will have to look up the words that I had and share them with you. I will get back to you on this list.

    1. Hiya Blondie! That sounds like a fun idea :)

  3. Thank you MrBBSpanker!

    We have such a high regard for you and your guidance.
    Thank you so much for sharing.

    best wishes
    Jack's Jill

    1. Hi Jill... thank you for sharing here and on your blog :)


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