Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Research: How to Start Reaching Out & Communicating Online

After a person has been researching Domestic Discipline and learning about a DD relationship and roles of a HoH & TiH, it might feel like the time to go beyond researching through reading and begin to seek communication with people who are experienced about the DD lifestyle to gain further knowledge. There are people who are respectful and can be very helpful in your continued knowledge of the Domestic Discipline paradigm as a relationship choice. Sadly, there are also those who merely claim to be knowledgeable who will accidentally or purposely mislead you for their own ulterior motives.

How to Start Domestic Discipline Research: What is DD to Me Resource & Eliminating Confusion

How to identify as a Head of Household (HoH) or Taken in Hand (TiH) is an individual choice. Domestic Discipline is a relationship paradigm that is often, but not exclusively, spoken and written about as being part of a committed relationship dynamic. There are DD explanations shared that are specific to gender, religious preference, sexual preference or are defined by relationship choice or marital status even though the lifestyle of Domestic Discipline is free of such boundaries. So I'm often asked how to research Domestic Discipline. How to live your life is your choice. How to identify yourself is your choice. How to start your DD research is too.

Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Community Sit Down Discussion

A Domestic Discipline Society  presents The Community Sit Down Discussion

Sit Down Discussions are a vital component of a Domestic Discipline lifestyle relationship or marriage. Communication is a Key to DD and SitDDs are the time proven tool to communicate specific DD thoughts & feelings within a new or experienced Domestic Discipline relationship. The DD Community SitDD is a new weekly "round table" style community discussion.

Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Community Milestones. A Domestic Discipline Society

DD Homepage & Community Milestones 
Over 200,000 views & 160 Contributing Members. Almost all views have come in only 5 months. Second 100,000 & 60 Contributing Members in just over the past two months. New DD Community Chat Room. DD the focus of mainstream media. And more...

Domestic Discipline Community Chat Discussion Room: The DD Chat Room is Now Open!

DD Chat Room Now Open to the Community! Enjoy chatting with friends and making new friendships. All DD & DD Friendly opinions & discussion topics welcome. Free chat room created to discuss topics & everything happening in & around the open minded DD Community.  Beginning soon there will be Topic Nights covering everything about DD and DD Friendly Spanking Community. Enjoy! :)

Domestic Discipline: Experienced HoHs Perspective on DD Core Values & Home

Those of us with experience have learned though time that the balance between a HoH and TiH can lead to a peaceful place and a tranquil refuge from the often stressful lives we lead.  Most importantly a home where a couple can express their love for one another.

A Domestic Discipline Society: DD featured in the Print Media!

Domestic Discipline has been highlighted in a public media newspaper published February 14th. A journalist researching the Domestic Discipline lifestyle dynamic, and where it might fit into the entire lifestyle community, published an article that is focused on Domestic Discipline and also mentions A Domestic Discipline Society, the E. L. James novel 50 Shades of Grey, Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) and touches on elements of the BDSM community.

Domestic Discipline Appreciation & Reaffirmation

Anytime is a great time to recommit to our loved ones. Planning that special evening together or a gift that says I Love You? Nothing says I Love You more then showing your loved one how much you appreciate them! And this is a great time of year to reaffirm a DD Household Commitment. Concentrating on what has brought you to whatever point you are currently traversing along on your own individual pathway, and how far each person has come, is a beautiful way to show your appreciation for your partner. That's right, it's DD Appreciation & Reaffirmation Days!

Domestic Discipline Relationship Characteristics: ETHICS are a Key to DD

What is ethical behavior in a Domestic Discipline Marriage or relationship? As with most questions posed when beginning and sustaining the DD dynamic within a marriage or relationship, personal ethical standards are communicated and discussed as part of an individuals beliefs on honesty and morals. It is also important to understand your personal feelings on Ethics if you're single and seeking a DD based relationship foundation.

Domestic Discipline Friendly Sites, Spanking Blogs, Authors, Links & Recommendations

A Domestic Discipline Society would like to recognize and recommend some of the blogs & sites who are both DD Friendly and who have been sharing and supportive of the DD community and A Domestic Discipline Society. Here they are...
Check out the Newest & ALL DD Friendly Sites!

Domestic Discipline: New DD Blogs & ALL Sharing DD Blogs 2/13

UPDATED! NEW Sharing Domestic Discipline Blog award winners! These are distinctively DD Blogs who share their DD lifestyle journey and are who are part of the rapidly growing network of Sharing DD Bloggers.
 February's Sharing DD Bloggers are:

50 Shades of Grey E! Entertainment & Our America with Lisa Ling TV Show Alerts

*UPDATE with VIDEO LINK*  & MEDIA ALERT with Times & Listings here* 
Our America w/ Lisa Ling "50 Shades of Kink" on OWN & 
E! Entertainment Television is airing an E! Special "The Real 50 Shades of Grey" It's described as The complicated relationships between real-world Dominants and Submissives.

What is Christian Domestic Discipline? A CDD Description

Christian Domestic Discipline CDD.  This article comes from the Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) area of the DD lifestyle community. A Domestic Discipline Society has researched and presented some well known Domestic Discipline community articles. We feel it's important to share a 360 degree view of the Domestic Discipline lifestyle choice.

Beginning Domestic Discipline Plan & Process / Your DD Plan

Domestic Discipline as a lifestyle relationship foundation takes time, patience, planning and a process forward in a positive direction. Basically, it takes work. Working on your relationship, no matter what style of life you decide to live, is important for a happy and successful relationship or marriage. It's no different for those who decide to live a consensual Domestic Discipline style of life. You need a Plan.

Spanking, Disciplinary Spanking, Punishment Spanking, Experiment Spanking & Safe-Words

In the beginning of your Domestic Discipline dynamic, the word spanking and how to implement a  consensual spanking are hot topics. As with most aspects of Domestic Discipline, communication is more important then anything else. With that in mind...

Spanking & Domestic Discipline Desires - ReOpening the Door

November 9th 2012, a freelance writer named Jillian Keenan had an essay style article published in the Fashion & Style section of  The New York Times online site. November 11th the article was published in the NYT Sunday newspaper. There was a lot of online discussion that followed about how people have come out or would like reveal a spanking need or fetish or their desires to bring spanking into a relationship with a Domestic Discipline lifestyle dynamic. ADDS published the Keenan article with a link to the NYT here on ADDS. Then there was a follow up to the article. Then I wrote a 360 degree look at the subject titled Coming Out about Spanking and Revealing Domestic Discipline Desires.

Domestic Discipline: New DD Blogs & All Sharing DD Blogs

Here are the NEWest Sharing Domestic Discipline Blog award winners! There are both new and established DD Bloggers listed here who are part of the growing community of Sharing DD Bloggers.

Continue to see NEW & ALL Sharing DD Bloggers with short descriptions and links...

Domestic Discipline Terminology, Descriptions, Acronyms & Glossary

It's time to update The Domestic Discipline Glossary and it is now an ongoing community project. This DD community resource is the most popular Tab Page on the top of this ADDS site. There are a few additions in mind that you'll see here soon, and I also want to open it up to the Domestic Discipline community as an interactive and ongoing project...

A Domestic Discipline Society Community MileStones

Milestones. Is there such a thing as Milepebbles?
With the year winding down I began to think back over the past year. Especially, the past few months. I wanted to say thank you for the warm welcome from the blogging part of the community. And thanks to so many people coming over and reading this blog who have come from the ADDS discussion communities that have been around for so many years. With that in mind...

Domestic Discipline Marriage: Beginning A Domestic Discipline Marriage

Domestic Discipline  Marriage: You have "Come Out" or someone has Come Out to you... What's next?
How you start your Domestic Discipline Marriage or Relationship is vital to the later success of your DD lifestyle choice. Where you are in your life and relationship status is an important determining factor in deciding the best way to move forward. We'll look at this in two parts. HoH & TiHs after a TiH has "Come Out" about their DD desires. If an experienced HoH reveals their DD relationship needs then there is usually a built in leader and guide within the relationship. When a TiH comes out to a perspective HoH, there can be difficulties asking someone to take on a more open leadership perspective and the new HoH is the one who has less information in the beginning.

Beginning A Domestic Discipline Marriage

IT's HERE! > Domestic Discipline: Beginning A Domestic Discipline Marriage

Domestic Discipline Friendly Sites, Spanking Blogs, Links & ADDS first friendly site Recommendations

A Domestic Discipline Society would like to recognize and recommend some of the blogs & sites who are both DD Friendly and who have been sharing and supportive of the DD community and A Domestic Discipline Society. Here they are...

Domestic Discipline Blogs: All Sharing Domestic Discipline Blogs & Favorite DD Blog Vote Winners

A Domestic Discipline Society had a community wide vote to find which Domestic Discipline Blog the ADDS readers preferred as a favorite. I was absolutely amazed at the support and outpouring of votes and ideas that came rolling in!          THE WINNER IS...

Defining Domestic Discipline / Domestic Discipline Lifestyle Definition

Defining set idioms, fundamentals and practices of DD as a lifestyle choice is never an easy endeavor. Domestic Discipline is one of the more widely misunderstood relationship dynamics within the alternative lifestyle community. Mainly, because if it's not the lifestyle choice one leads, then they naturally don't study it and search deeply into varying interpretations. And there are many variations and denotations of Domestic Discipline.

Coming Out about Spanking and Revealing Domestic Discipline Desires

There are different reasons why people feel the need to tell someone about their urge for spanking or the desire for a Domestic Discipline lifestyle. Personally, I haven't had to "come out" with my DD lifestyle or explain my spanking side to anyone recently. People I feel I would like to tell, I've told. Anyone who needs to know... knows. Everyone who it wouldn't matter if I told, or make sense to tell... doesn't know.

What is Domestic Discipline? ~ A Domestic Discipline Society

What is Domestic Discipline? That could depend on who is answering the question. One of the beautiful aspects of a Domestic Discipline Lifestyle, is that it is open to interpretation. What works best for one person or a couple, does not necessarily work for everyone. There are many "This is DD" articles posted out there. If you read within those articles that DD is ONLY for a specific group or excludes others that don't agree with their interpretation, then you're probably reading about just one variation of Domestic Discipline as a lifestyle.

Domestic Discipline Honesty

Honesty is one of the "Keys" that unlocks a door to your successful Domestic Discipline relationship dynamic. As it was mentioned in the Domestic Discipline Confession article published within the ADDS series Keys to a Domestic Discipline Relationship, being honest and confessing or "coming clean" are vital to a successful DD dynamic.

Liebster Award with a Domestic Discipline twist?

UPDATE: 11 DD Questions Answered.  A lot of friends have been emailing & asking ADDS to participate in the Liebster Award. This site is part of the ADDS discussion groups and sites that are specifically about Domestic Discipline resources, education and knowledge sharing.  I didn't know if I should participate. I'm known as an honest person who tells the unfiltered truth. So to be completely honest, I also really didn't feel 100% comfortable asking 11 friends to then have to ask 11 of their friends etc...  Then I read Bonnie's MBS blog and decided she had the right idea!

NYT Article & Jillian Keenan FOLLOW UP & Interview

What is happening NOW? Follow Up with Jillian Keenan, author of the NYT article I shared last week.
The author, Jillian Keenan, obviously hit an harmonious chord among millions of people who share a spanking related lifestyle or kink, and are struggling to explore or share with their loved ones.

Domestic Discipline and a NEW YORK TIMES Article

Finding the Courage to Reveal a Fetish

A Domestic Discipline Society is happy to have been the first to share this with our blogland friends! Thanks to one of our ADDS discussion group members for bringing this to our attention so quickly.

There are so many people who are, or have been, struggling with the dilemma of sharing their feelings on the subject of how to tell their loved one.

You're Over the EDGE please Don't Waste Everyone's Time :)

“THE EDGE,  there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.”
 ― Hunter S. Thompson

Love Our Lurkers and Thank You!

Like so may others who decide to write a blog, we start by reading the blogs that interest us most. In my case it started a long time ago when I was looking for information to help people who I was teaching about DD and members of the ADDS discussion groups who were asking where they could find more good DD information. In 1995 it became possible for...

ALL Domestic Discipline Blogs

There are many wonderful DD lifestyle based blogs popping up all over blogland! Some openly share their personal lives, tribulations and growth with all of their readers. Others are based on DD information. And there are a lot more good authors and DD Friendly sites and blogs then there has ever been in the past! All of these are part of the growing world of information available on the subject of DD as a lifestyle choice. There is a lot to learn from them all. There are more distinctly DD blogs listed here on the ADDS site then anywhere else on the web. I hope when you have time, you'll check them out and let us know which ones are your favorites and which new blogs you recommend to be included on the ADDS list of links to All DD Blogs & DD Friendly Blogs & sites.

Domestic Discipline: Communication is a Key to DD

Domestic Discipline Communication Article
A Domestic Discipline style of lifestyle takes time to cultivate. Too often one partner pushes the other to "GET IT" before they're ready. This can leave one partner looking like a deer in the headlights and their partner is a Mack truck filled with information and ideas ready to plow them over! Not always, but more often then not, the potential submissive TiH partner reveals this consensual lifestyle to their potential HoH partner after reading and learning and reading and reading and reading... (you get the picture) and reading about Domestic Discipline as a lifestyle. It usually takes the TiH awhile to gain the courage to share this realization, and then right after the submissive partner finally divulges their need for leadership in the relationship... they take over!

A Domestic Discipline Society blog REVIEW

A wink style Blog review of the A Domestic Discipline Society (ADDS) blog was recently posted on American Spanking Society by Todd & Suzy. ADDS has been mentioned before for the discussion groups in different areas, but this is the first Review of the A Domestic Discipline Society (ADDS) blog! I thought I would share it with the ADDS readers and say Thanks to Todd & Suzy :)

DD Boot Camp: Revealed

Domestic Discipline Boot Camp Instructions FREE & Questions Answered.
Mr BB Spanker says thanks for over 80,000 views of this one Domestic Discipline DD Boot Camp REVEALED article. Thanks for choosing ADDS as your trusted DD info, news, research & resource Home Page!
Through the years, many of the people who know what A Domestic Discipline Society is all about, know we really like to investigate and discuss all aspects concerning the DD community then present the information in an free, open, nonjudgmental ADDS format. I continue to receive emails from the community about the concept of DD Boot Camp and where it originated. Who came up with the original concept and where and when did it start to become more popularized in the DD community? Should it be used? If used, should it be something applied in the beginning of a DD relationship? Is it better suited for couples who have a more knowledgeable understanding, like after the initial year they have both been working together on their DD lifestyle relationship?
UPDATED: Read All Updates & Comments below the article & do some research.

Bonnie Appreciation Day / My Bottom Smarts

ALL DETAILS HERE 
Tuesday 10-23-12 declared "Bonnie Appreciation Day" for Bonnie of My Bottom Smarts!  If you have been away from blogland it's ok to still show your appreciation with a Thank You Bonnie post on your blog. Is it really ever too late to show your appreciation?! Continue for information about how this idea got rolling, URL to the pic made for the occasion and links!

Head of Household (HoH) Appreciation

I was reading through some Domestic Discipline blogs I share links with, when I happened upon this one from a fellow DD blogger. I was delighted to see that a newer TiH style submissive was not only going out of their way to appreciate their HoH, but also making a concerted effort to understand everything their HoH does for them.

Characteristics of a Head of Household (HoH)

Secrets of an Experienced HoH 

      A Head of Household exercises leadership and guidance in many subtle ways with positive influence and thoughtfulness rather than threats or overt and unfair physical punishments. HoHs genuinely care about the people in their life. They can be authoritative leaders, yet have the utmost respect and care for others...

HoH Leadership: No Consequences for the HOH Question is Answered

A common question that  some people have about Domestic Discipline is, why doesn't the HOH suffer any kind of consequences for their own mistakes?  It might seem unfair to newer submissives learning how to  become Taken in Hand. This seems like an odd dichotomy though since usually a TiH style submissive is instinctively attracted to the Domestic Discipline lifestyle and feel deeply that their role in this lifestyle is what they have always needed.

Domestic Discipline Forgiveness

Within love there is forgiveness...  without forgiveness, love does not exist in a meaningful long term DD lifestyle relationship.

Domestic Discipline Confession

Domestic Discipline style Confessing

Confessing a misdeed is one area many TiHs find very difficult. 
Especially for a newer Taken in Hand  style submissive... 

A true DD relationship includes the TiH being completely honest in the agreed upon Power Exchange... even when the HOH is not around. And that is where Confessing plays a key role in a successful Domestic Discipline lifestyle.

Domestic Discipline Aftercare

Aftercare is one of the "keys" that lead to or define a Domestic Discipline lifestyle relationship. 

Domestic Discipline Reminder Spanking

A Preemptive Measure

Reminder Spanking -  are a preemptive, warning style of spanking... administered beforehand

Domestic Discipline Maintenance Spanking

A Proactive Spanking Measure

Maintenance Spanking - is used as a time based continuing tool within a process to maintain focus, revisit and/or re-establish effect & relationship goals.... administered during or as part of the process. 

Becoming Taken in Hand (Part 2)

Relinquishing Control

 Becoming Taken in Hand Pt. 2 

On one of the A Domestic Discipline Society discussion groups, this thread was started and has become one of the more popular threads on that ADDS group. I have slightly changed the names, but the content of each post is just as written. I did move some of the posts so this Article could be presented conversationally in two parts for continuity. This is part two.

Becoming Taken In Hand

 Transferring Control 

Becoming Taken In Hand Pt. 1

One of the questions I am often asked is, "How do I get my partner to understand that I NEED this lifestyle?" There are challenges for the submissive partner to then overcome. One of those challenges can be that the TiH partner has fallen into a role that they don't want, but find hard to transition from.

     

A Letter for you, from MrBBSpanker

So far, this site is filled with information that has been developed over many years of living the DD lifestyle choice (even before it was called DD) and the honor of  Mentoring and Teaching others who live this lifestyle dynamic. I understood when finally "officially" launching this site that there were a lot of things to learn and the blog format might pose some challenges. Those challenges would include... >>>>>

Domestic Discipline Calendar

  The DD Calendar

This is the 7th article in this series that begins with >>>
>>>   "Where to Start: Beginning your DD Lifestyle Together"

DD Calendar: An ADDS Communication Tool

In the beginning of your DD lifestyle dynamic, or when starting to revitalize it with these ADDS tools and ideas, it's best to start slowly and work on one to two goals or behavioral changes at a time. In day to day life as your DD lifestyle grows there are going to be ...

HoH: Head of Household Rules

•            HoH Rules ...

     ... Need to be Be Clear and defined!

A guide to develop the HoH Rules List.
The list referred to as the HoH Rules is slowly and patiently developed from the TiH List.
Continuing with the series that begins with " Where to Start " 

Thank you to the blogs, My Bottom Smarts and The Cherry Red Report!

I'll be posting a new article in the August "Where to Start"   series tomorrow!

Defining The TiH List and The Domestic Discipline Diary

Where the TiH List and DDiary come Together

 Continuing the series of articles that begins with Where to Start: Beginning Your DD Lifestyle Together

In the first article in this series for August, I touched on a general overview of the TiH List, HoH Rules and mentioned The DDiary. All of which can be important tools for your DD relationship communication and during your weekly Sit Down Discussions. That first article is meant for those beginning, revitalizing or adding tools to their DD lifestyle. 
In this installment in the series I'll be covering the TiH List more in depth, and introducing uses of The DDiary. >>>>>